Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use D ...
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Join Michelle Henderson and Kate Sherman as they discuss mental health topics from the perspective of being clients in therapy themselves and as therapists working with their own clients. Join the facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair
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Explore the world of business and entrepreneurship in Wichita. Learn from local business owners from a variety of industries as they share their experiences with hosts and Evergy leaders, Don Sherman and Ebony Clemons-Ajibolade, who are also small business owners. You’ll learn how they have built and grown their companies and the challenges and opportunities they encountered along the way. This podcast is brought to you by the Wichita Regional Chamber of Commerce and is powered by Evergy.
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Experiencing Joy: Going Beyond Just Feeling Happy
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Kate and Michelle both share their experiences of joy throughout different stages of life. They also talk about challenges that interfere with their ability to feel joy and what they are working on in therapy to overcome those challenges. They share suggestions for how to think about joy in a new way and how to bring more of it into your life. TRIG…
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Behavior Chain Analysis for Worry
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Kate and Michelle each do a behavior chain analysis for behaviors that take place while worrying about different topics. They talk about how doing a behavior chain analysis can be a helpful tool for the next time you're experiencing worry about something. RELEASE DATE: August 28, 2024 Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT pee…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about managing emotional reactivity when blindsided by big events, how to become more assertive, communicating feelings of disappointment to others, and feelings of overwhelm when talking about trauma. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: h…
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RELEASE DATE: July 31, 2024 Kate and Michelle discuss how to be mindful of joyful experiences when they are occurring using mindfulness along with discussing three other skills that may lead to joyful experiences happening more often in your life. If you live in Washington state and want to start therapy with Michelle, you can find more information…
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DBT & Me Podcast: Meet our new team member, Meg!
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Kate interviews Meg, our newest team member. Meg is our virtual assistant and podcast editor (since April). To learn more about DBT with Friends: https://www.instagram.com/dbtwithfriends To learn more about Therahive, check out their website here: https://www.therahive.com. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support g…
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Episode Release Date: June 17, 2024 Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about waking up feeling angry, how to celebrate a successful use of skills, coping with difficult medical procedures, and managing conflict in a romantic relationship after moving. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can …
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about supporting a friend in an unhealthy relationship, the negative impacts of medication changes, remembering to use skills when in crisis, and helpful episodes when trying to rebuild yourself after grief. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed in this episode. Support the Show. I…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about whether or not to postpone processing emotions, how frequently to use distress tolerance skills, understanding the concept of "everyone is doing the best they can", and coping with willful people. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: …
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about what to do if a therapist breaches your confidentiality, reaching out to your therapist in between sessions, managing the impulse to talk "too much" and handling jealousy in a polyamorous relationship. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up h…
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DBT and Perinatal Mental Health with Whitney Frost
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Whitney Frost to talk about how DBT can be helpful in maintaining mental health while transitioning to parenthood, from trying to conceive all the way through the second year of parenthood. Whitney talks about what skills are most helpful to keep in mind and best practices for professionals when working with this pop…
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Making Friends in Adulthood: A Universal Struggle
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Kate and Michelle talk about the challenges and successes they've experienced with establishing friendships in adulthood. They discuss the reasons why adult friendships are difficult to start and maintain and provide tips for how you can start connecting with new people and making friends yourself. Support the show If you'd like to join the Faceboo…
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Mindfulness and Wise Mind from a Spiritual Perspective
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Kate and Michelle talk about practicing mindfulness and wise mind from a spiritual perspective. They discuss 4 key goals of mindfulness, 5 contemplative practices for accessing wise mind, elements of mystical experiences and their personal experiences with practicing mindfulness and wise mind spiritually. Support the Show. If you want to sign up fo…
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Recovering From Invalidation
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Kate and Michelle talk about reasons when invalidation can be helpful and painful. They also talk about 12 ways DBT can help with recovering from invalidation after it happens, sharing their personal experiences along the way. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbri…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about going beyond "studying" DBT, recovering after being taken advantage of, handling feelings of jealousy, and disagreeing with family members about different morals/values. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/…
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Kate and Michelle discuss DBT's biosocial theory and explain how our ability to regulate our emotions is impacted by our physiology and our social environment. If you want to learn more about the podcast Kate will be a guest on, you can check out their website: https://speakthescience.com/miss-behavior-journal-club-podcast/ Support the Show. If you…
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Father Relationships: The Men Who Impact Us The Most
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Kate and Michelle talk about each of their relationships with their fathers during childhood and adulthood. They both share how they have found close connections with their fathers, as well as sharing flaws and past incidents of hurt. They also share suggestions for men who are fathers and how to heal wounded father relationships as an adult. TRIGG…
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De-Clutter Your Marketing (Jordan Walker - Bondfire Strategy) [Re-release]
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Bondfire Strategy is closing in on its first anniversary in business, but Jordan Walker is already making an impact in the local marketing scene. She shares with Don and Ebony how she builds relationships with her clients to deliver them great results. On this episode we discuss: Taking the clutter out of marketing Having a focus on people and rela…
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Creating a Life Worth Living
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Kate and Michelle discuss what it means to create a life worth living. They share how they are personally doing this as well as what they struggle with. They each share skills that can help you move closer to creating a life worth living for yourself. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note that material that may be triggering is discussed from 3:20-4:36, 27:…
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Using Your Trials to Forge Culture (Mary Kate - Mary Kate and Company) [Re-release]
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What happens when your business finances are in disorder, the IRS is coming after you and a negative article just came out in the press. Many would fold in that situation, but Mary Kate Denton regrouped with her team and shares with Don and Ebony how that forged a culture of thriving at Mary Kate and Company. On this episode we discuss: Her sister,…
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Mission Before Profit (Justin Eklund - Grove 9) [Re-release]
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Justin Eklund has one primary goal with Grove9: to help businesses and organizations focus more on the mission and good they provide our communities. He shares with Don and Ebony his journey through ministry and how it eventually led him to take a new approach in a profit driven world. On this episode we discuss: Valuing mission over profit From mi…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with persistent depression, skills for self-hatred, online DBT groups, and how to effectively express disappointment. If you'd like to sign up for the free DBT peer support group through Kate's clinic, you can do so at this link: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-5…
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Championing Wichita Startups (Josh Oeding / Mary Beth Jarvis - NXTUS) [Re-release]
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Josh Oeding and Mary Beth Jarvis aspire to grow the Wichita business scene through NXTUS by capturing the rapid change created by new startups. They share how all of us can be involved in supporting startup growth with Don and Ebony. On this episode we discuss: Josh’s transition from Koch to NXTUS Establishing the entrepreneurial mojo of Wichita He…
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Lifting Minority-Owned Businesses (Christina Long - CML Collective) [Re-release]
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Half of the guests on the podcast have mentioned her and now we get to hear directly from the legend, Christina Long. Don and Ebony explore with her how CML Collective and the Create Campaign have lifted other minority-owned businesses in the community. On this episode we discuss: Starting out in journalism through the Wichita Eagle, covering the e…
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"DBT for Everyone": Learn all about our new book!
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Kate and Michelle's book, "DBT for Everyone: A Guide to the Perks, Pitfalls and Possibilities of DBT for Better Mental Health" is now released! They talk more in-depth about the structure of the book, plus they each read some favorite excerpts. Two lucky winners of free, signed copies are announced at the end! Support the Show. If you want to sign …
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Going Through the Holidays: Not Always Merry and Bright
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The holiday season is upon us! Kate and Michelle talk about each of their own childhood memories from the holidays, both positive and challenging. They share how they each celebrate holidays currently as adults. They also share suggestions that may help you during this time of year if you find yourself struggling to cope with stresses this time of …
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Making a Great Event First (Patrick Pelkowski - Shaken or Stirred Bartending) [Re-release]
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A desire to be an entrepreneur took this air traffic controller into the world of bartending. Hear how Pat Pelkowski moved from side gig work to creating a thriving business with a unique position in the market. On this episode we discuss: An Air Force and Air Traffic Controller background brought Pat to Wichita Getting a degree in entrepreneurship…
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A Community to Build Women-Owned Businesses (Andrea Hattan - The Hive) [Re-release]
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Andrea Hattan had an idea, a vision, for women to have their own place to collaborate and encourage one another on their entrepreneurial journeys. She talks with Don and Ebony how The Hive has created that safe space for women in the Wichita community. On this episode we discuss: Being a 5th generation entrepreneur All the coworking spaces seemed t…
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Making Work More Human (Brandon Gaide - Sevenfold) [Re-release]
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When Brandon Gaide started the strategy and innovation firm Sevenfold, he found an unlikely partnership with construction firm Hutton. Brandon shares with Don and Ebony how that partnership has allowed the creation of something new to help businesses make work more human. On this episode we discuss: Helping organizations become more strategic Partn…
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The Taproom Adventure (Stacy Ward-Lattin - Hopping Gnome) [Re-release]
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Sometimes you just have to be willing to follow your passions and lean into what you don’t know. When Stacy Ward-Lattin and her husband, Torrey, started the Hopping Gnome taproom 6 years ago, they had no idea the adventure they were in for. Stacy joins hosts Don and Ebony to share the Hopping Gnome story, from home brewing to deciding to create som…
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All in the Brand (Bill Gardner - Gardner Design) [Re-release]
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Bill Gardner has been around the brand creation game for a long time and has a ton of insight to share. Don and Ebony dive into what has made him successful with Gardner Design and how others can be successful at building their own brands. On this episode we discuss: The constantly changing world of branding How success and risk are tied together T…
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Want to win a free copy of our book? Listen to this!
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There's no October monthly episode today (lots has been going on in our lives!), but coming up in November we will be taking a deep dive into talking more about our BOOK! November 21st is the release date and we can't wait to share more about it with all of you. If you want to be entered to win a free copy, join our Patreon at the link below. The l…
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The Art of Coffee (Sarah Leslie - Leslie Coffee Co.) [Re-release]
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What started as looking for a job during college turned into a passion for the art of coffee. Eventually, Sarah Leslie opened her own coffee shop and talks with Don and Ebony about surviving the pandemic. On this episode we discuss: Creating the third space Discovering the art of coffee as a barista Starting out in New York City How to make latte a…
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Shifts in Mental Health (Dr. Larry Mitnaul - Via Christi Ascension) [Re-release]
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Mental health and wellness continues to come more infocus for businesses, leaders and their employees. Dr. Larry Mitnaul of the Ascension Medical Group talks with Don and Ebony about what this looks like and practical ways to engage mental health and wellness in our homes and workplaces. On this episode we discuss: Having a passion to help kids and…
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From the Garage to SpaceX (Jorge Martinez & Patty Koehler - JR Custom Metal Products) [Re-release]
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It started humbly making metal products in the garage, but now JR Custom Metal Products has thrived to over 140 employees. Hear from Jorge Martinez and Patty Koehler as they share with Don and Ebony how their father’s legacy lives on in their business. On this episode we discuss: Jesus Raul Martinez Sr. starting in the garage in 1978 Always wanting…
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Staying in a Struggling Relationship: Fighting for Love When It's Hard
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Kate and Michelle share about their current struggles in their marriages and their reasons for deciding to stay with their husbands in spite of the challenges. They both share tips for how to seek support and adjust your thinking if you also find yourself in a struggling relationship that you want to continue. Support the show If you'd like to join…
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From Teaching to Doing (Jose Gutierrez - Gutierrez Agency Inc.) [Re-release]
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For many years, Jose Gutierrez has helped train and develop other Farmer’s Insurance agents. But after all that time he felt the pull and bought his own agency one year ago. He shares that journey with Don and Ebony. On this episode we discuss: Moving from coach and trainer as a district manager to being a business owner The importance of having a …
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Kate and Michelle discuss what codependency is (and isn't), how it relates to borderline personality disorder and which DBT skills may help reduce codependency in relationships with others. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets…
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Own Your Space (Amy Williams - Journey Unseen Pt. 3) [Re-release]
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On the final chapter of our Journey Unseen series host Don Sherman is joined by Amy Williams who shares about how she learned to own her own space when she entered the room. With these special conversations we share the stories of women in our community who have had a profound impact on our community through their leadership and achievements. On th…
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Find the Unexpected Path (Vera Bothner - Journey Unseen Pt. 2) [Re-release]
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We are joined on the second of our special three-part Journey Unseen series by Vera Bothner. As she shares with us her unique career journey as a woman in business, she reflects with host Don Sherman on the pivots and changes she has made each step of the way and what she has learned from those. On this episode we discuss: Initially wanting to get …
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about whether or not to move in with a partner who is not seeking mental health treatment, diving deeper into using DBT, struggling with cleaning, and how to keep using skills when your group is on a hiatus. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up h…
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The Value of a Mentor (Yolanda Camarena - Journey Unseen Pt. 1) [Re-release]
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Join us for a special three-part series called Journey Unseen where we share the stories of women in our community who have had a profound impact on our community through their leadership and achievements. For the first of this series, Yoland Camarena talks about the value of mentorship in her life with hosts Don and Ebony: Growing up with five sis…
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Flying Jets to Leading Others (Cathy McClain - Dauntless Leadership) [Re-release]
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Through her long career in the Air Force, Cathy McClain has seen a lot of exciting things. But what she has found is an intense appreciation and love for the people she has been around. Now retired from her military career, she shares with Don and Ebony how she serves people by helping them become the most effective leaders they can be. On this epi…
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Kate and Michelle each talk about three recent life events they've experienced over the past month that led to them using DBT skills personally. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 34:20-41:17. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and lea…
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Dining on the River (Katherine Elder - 1400 by Elderslie) [Re-release]
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Do you know what a bramble is? Don and Ebony didn’t, but Katherine Elder walks through how the family farm has continued to grow into a larger and larger culinary experience, culminating in the opening of 1400 by Elderslie. On this episode we discuss: Opening in the Wichita Art Museum What’s the deal with the goats? When Katherine hit pause Growing…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping after you've set boundaries with someone, struggling with children who are refusing to go to school, the difference between GIVE and DEAR MAN, and talking to an adult child about doing DBT in an in-patient setting. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support grou…
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Finding Financial Freedom (Brandon Converse - The Converse Team) [Re-Release]
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When Brandon Converse left his engineering career to join his brother at the Converse Team, he was motivated by the desire to help others secure their financial future. Don and Ebony dive in with him on how they help make that possible for companies and individuals. On this episode we discuss: The ways The Converse Team can serve others How Brandon…
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Empowering Others (Mark / Summer Guerrero - Affinity Automotive) [Re-release]
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Mark and Summer Guerrero are all about supporting and empowering others with Affinity Automotive. But they share with Don and Ebony how this empowerment first started with each other an after hours garage in their home. On this episode we discuss: Giving others a solution with car repairs Mark starting out working with his dad and grandpa when he w…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping with loneliness after a breakup, whether or not to do DBT in a group and/or individually, skills for de-personalization and de-realization, and using check the facts with medical conditions. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here:…
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Building a Team (Steve Dixon - P.B. Hoidale) [Re-release]
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For the past 25 years, Steve Dixon has been helping others to live their best life through providing career opportunities at P.B. Hoidale. He shares with Don and Ebony his passion for the community and people in it while providing critical needs through the gas stations his business builds. On this episode we discuss: His great-grandfather starting…
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Coercive Control with Sarah Kardelen: Breaking Free from Relationship Imprisonment
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Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Sarah Kardelen to talk about coercive control in romantic relationships. Coercive control is a specific type of intimate partner violence defined as "a pattern of controlling behaviors that create an unequal power dynamic in a relationship." Sarah and Kate share their stories followed by Sarah, Kate and…
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