The Power of Differentiation: Strengthening Bonds While Honouring Individuality

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Welcome back to The Relationship Maze! In today's episode, "Differentiation," Tom and Angela dive into a crucial phase in relationship development known as differentiation.
Have you ever felt that your partner is not the same as they were during the honeymoon period? Or struggled with being yourself in the relationship? You're not alone. Differentiation, a concept originally developed by Margaret Mahler, is all about recognizing and navigating the differences between you and your partner. We'll explore why it's natural for relationships to evolve, why noticing differences can be a good thing, and how this stage can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and deeper connection.
Tune in to learn how to navigate this challenging yet essential phase and transform your relationship into something even more rewarding. Don't forget to subscribe and visit therelationshipmaze.com for more resources to help you on your journey!
00:00 Mahler's theory: infants learn self differentiation stages.
04:59 Difficulty arises when relationship moves past symbiotic stage.
08:00 Partner's differentiation feels like an abandonment threat.
11:13 Recognize and respect partner's individuality and differences.
13:34 Arguments arise from unmet relationship expectations.
17:55 Couples therapy and resources help navigate conflicts.
19:59 Learning to communicate safely and empathetically is crucial.
24:48 Empowering stages, therapy options, podcast, course info.

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