293: Give it to me whining! (Ft. Jason & Violet Lange)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Does it feel exiting for your woman to be fully open with you, feel deeply cherished, and want to f*** your brains out?

Then you’re going to want to listen to this one.

You’re likely familiar with polarity — that sacred dance between alpha & omega. It’s a potent force that shows up in dating, sex, love relationships, and beyond (and helps explain the mystery of attraction).

But polarity also includes the 3 stages of relating. As we mature in relationships, we can graduate from stage 1 (we’re in rigidly-defined roles), to stage 2 (we talk through everything), to stage 3 — the topic of this episode.

Stage 3 relationships are cutting-edge. They go beyond societal norms. Stage 3 is exciting, pioneering, and embodied. And in Jason’s words, “it tends to *wake us up* as men.”

This kind of relating makes things sexy in relationship, and it also makes things deeply safe — if you know how to work it. The truth is, most omega partners deeply yearn to be fully, truly expressed, and in stage 3, that's the name of the game. In Jason's words, “Through your direction, you can invite expression.”

If you want to lead your woman in ways you’ve never even considered — if you want to provide a space within which she can both deeply relax and feel even more of her heart, and even soul, listen on.

Note: Credit to David Deida’s work on polarity and the stages of relationships.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “I used to try to explain why what she was feeling was wrong.”
• “I had so much resistance to the Hot Mess archetype because I was punished by my parents for being that.”
• “In stage 2 it’s about wanting it to end — I want to release and get us back to peace. But in stage 3, it’s like, ‘Bring it all. Let’s ride this wave.’”
• “Tell me that again, but like a hippo.”
• “Once we welcome the expression of energy fully, it often resolves itself … you don’t have to do nearly as much as you think.”