From victim to victor: a man's story of victory over depression and self-doubt

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Let's talk about men's mental health. Men are taught to keep quiet about their issues, button up, hide up problems, and even as victims of abuse, their own families tend to shove their issues under the carpet. Men are culturally not allowed to express their emotions as women do with tears, words, art, counselling and so on, many of them find alternative ways to dull their pain and some of these methods are self-destructive.

• Alcohol and drug abuse, Abusing others
• Addictions to porn and violent forms of entertainments
• Gangs, Rebel life, Crime: Vandalism, robbery, Trafficking people
• Just about anything that will dull the repressed anger and pain

What are some hidden symptoms of depression, other than self-loathing, self harm, lack of self confidence?

• Looking super successful at work but being broken financially and emotionally
• Playing macho but feeling like a failure
• Undervaluing ourselves and not charging enough for our services
• Feeling unfulfilled and without purpose despite a splendid looking career
• Being unable to open up

In this episode I interview Immigration Attorney Hèctor Quiroga. Hèctor grew up in Columbia where a series of events, including abuse, created all the triggers above. Even after creating what we could see as a dream career as an Attorney and Law professor, Hèctor continued to doubt his own capacities and keep all his emotional 'skeletons in the cupboard' locked in. This was partly because of the macho culture he grew up with.

We will hear how Hèctor eventually overcame his emotional problems and created a truly gratifying life. Hector's fondest wish is to encourage others, especially men, to overcome their own emotional issues. The principles he shares in this audio and video podcast episode are available to you in his book, 'Prove them wrong'.

Prove Them Wrong: One Immigrant’s 10-Year Journey from Bankrupt to Millionaire is the inspirational story of an immigrant's pursuit of the American Dream – a trajectory fraught with unparalleled obstacles and exceptional triumphs. A story of embracing your path, believing in your potential, and living life to the fullest – no matter the odds.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/hectorquiroga/

https://www.abogadoquiroga.com/hector-quiroga-abogado-de-inmigracion/. In Spanish.

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