The Paradox of The Dichotomy of Control and the Trap of Feeling Good

The Stoic Handbook by Jon Brooks

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"The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have."
— Epictetus

In today's episode, we delve into the practice of the dichotomy of control, a fundamental principle in Stoic philosophy.
While many people intellectually understand the concept of differentiating between things within their control and things outside their control, they often struggle to find genuine emotional relief. I explore the paradoxical nature of the dichotomy of control and provide insights on how to deepen the practice for maximum benefit.
In today's episode, we cover:

1. The Dichotomy of Control: Understanding what we can and can't control.
2. Multi-Level Application: Applying the concept across events, emotions, and judgments.
3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Using CBT as a tool for Stoic practice.
4. Accepting Emotional States: Embracing emotions, even if unwanted.
5. Overcoming Self-Criticism: Letting go of self-judgment in Stoic practice.
6. The Paradox of Control: Finding true effectiveness by relinquishing the need for control.

Important Links and Resources Mentioned:

1. Notion App
2. The Philosophy of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy by Donald Robertson
3. Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns

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