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In Her Ellement
1 Bringing Your Whole Self to Work with Port of Rotterdam’s Saskia Mureau 21:38
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21:38People want to feel supported and safe at work – and inspired to innovate. What can people working at large corporations do to create this kind of environment? Saskia Mureau is the Director of Customer Digital at the Port of Rotterdam where she is harnessing digital systems to reduce emissions. She is passionate about creating inclusive workplaces where psychological safety and collaboration drive meaningful change. In this episode, Kamila sits down with Suchi to talk about why she chose to work at large corporations rather than startups. Saskia also reflects on her personal experiences, including navigating IVF while at work, and discusses how organizations can foster environments where employees feel empowered to bring their whole selves to work. Links: Saskia Mureau on Linkedin WHO infertility research BCG 2024 report on psychological safety in the workplace Suchi Srinivasan on LinkedIn Kamila Rakhimova on LinkedIn About In Her Ellement: In Her Ellement highlights the women and allies leading the charge in digital, business, and technology innovation. Through engaging conversations, the podcast explores their journeys—celebrating successes and acknowledging the balance between work and family. Most importantly, it asks: when was the moment you realized you hadn’t just arrived—you were truly in your element? About The Hosts: Suchi Srinivasan is an expert in AI and digital transformation. Originally from India, her career includes roles at trailblazing organizations like Bell Labs and Microsoft. In 2011, she co-founded the Cleanweb Hackathon, a global initiative driving IT-powered climate solutions with over 10,000 members across 25+ countries. She also advises Women in Cloud, aiming to create $1B in economic opportunities for women entrepreneurs by 2030. Kamila Rakhimova is a fintech leader whose journey took her from Tajikistan to the U.S., where she built a career on her own terms. Leveraging her English proficiency and international relations expertise, she discovered the power of microfinance and moved to the U.S., eventually leading Amazon's Alexa Fund to support underrepresented founders. Subscribe to In Her Ellement on your podcast app of choice to hear meaningful conversations with women in digital, business, and technology.…
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This podcast started out as a self help podcast for moms trying to find balance in motherhood and business but morphed into a documentation of Crystal and Sean Escobar's journey out of the Mormon church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). The Podcast has been therapeutic on so many levels for its hosts. They vulnerably share their pitfalls and triumphs as they work to deconstruct a lifetime of indoctrination from the LDS church which they exited in the Spring of 2018. Sexual shame, marriage, parenting, science, spirituality, personal development, healing, sex abuse, are some of the topics they focus on. At episode 100 they both decided they were done processing their experience in the church and shifted their focus on helping others heal and grow in all areas of life. Crystal became a Certified Life/ Mindset Coach in 2020 and now offers free education in personal development via her podcast. Her mission is to help women overcome past trauma and limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the life they were meant to live through her podcast, Time Management Course, and one on one coaching services. Schedule a free session with her to find out how she can help you. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session
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This podcast started out as a self help podcast for moms trying to find balance in motherhood and business but morphed into a documentation of Crystal and Sean Escobar's journey out of the Mormon church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). The Podcast has been therapeutic on so many levels for its hosts. They vulnerably share their pitfalls and triumphs as they work to deconstruct a lifetime of indoctrination from the LDS church which they exited in the Spring of 2018. Sexual shame, marriage, parenting, science, spirituality, personal development, healing, sex abuse, are some of the topics they focus on. At episode 100 they both decided they were done processing their experience in the church and shifted their focus on helping others heal and grow in all areas of life. Crystal became a Certified Life/ Mindset Coach in 2020 and now offers free education in personal development via her podcast. Her mission is to help women overcome past trauma and limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the life they were meant to live through her podcast, Time Management Course, and one on one coaching services. Schedule a free session with her to find out how she can help you. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session
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×1 Ep #161: 1 Year No Social Media {Life Update} 14:53
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14:53It’s been almost one year since I last recorded a podcast and since I stopped posting on social media. This wasn’t necessarily intentional by the way. My plan was to take the summer off from everything so I could focus a little more on other things for a while. But when September rolled around I found myself not wanting to come back to podcasting and social media, which was strange. I’d always been rearing to get back to work as soon as the kids went back to school. But this year was different. This was the first summer I didn’t post at all and I never once checked Facebook. It was like I got to go back in time, back before cell phones and social media. And I found it to be so incredibly refreshing. No more constantly worrying about taking pictures and videos for my next post. In fact, I didn’t really take any pictures and videos this year besides our vacation and holidays. It was so unlike me. I got to see what it was like to just live my life, going with the flow, having no big plans. Just simple and present. Something I haven’t felt in well over a decade. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve loved creating videos and podcasts over the years, but I just needed a nice long break, kinda like a sabbatical I guess.…
1 Ep #160: Season's Ending, New Beginnings, & Letting Go 14:20
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14:20Seasons come, seasons go… switch things up and ride the flow. Being consistent with what you’re doing in pursuit of your goals does not mean you do the same thing every day. You must learn how to align with the seasons & switch things up in order to experience FLOW. When each season comes to a close we tend to experience momentary boredom or even a bit of anxiety or depression. Feeling uninspired or unmotivated. When the energy of one season shifts to the next we may notice feelings of exhaustion or overwhelm if not in the habit of aligning with the seasons. This is the moment to go inward, avoid distracting yourself from this uncomfortable feeling. If you wait long enough you’ll become receptive to a new energy. A fresh new creative outlook will emerge. New ideas, new projects, new focus. During this transition stage it’s important to listen up to what your inner energy is gravitating towards. Is it time to let some things go? Set something aside for a SEASON? Is it time to shift your focus to more play and less work? More creating and less consuming? More rest and less rushing? There’s a time to work and a time to play. A time to rest, and a time to exert yourself. Spring is coming to a close and Summer is around the corner. Ask yourself, what needs to change as the seasons change? For me, my entire calendar gets a make over. I’m shifting from content creation via my podcast, social media, and the MINDSET classes, to more home projects and kid focus. Seasons are what keeps life so fun and interesting. Always something to look forward to. Embrace the ebbs to release the intelligent flow of life. Alignment means awareness of when to pivot, or when to let go. Right now I’m switching up my rituals and routines. Wrapping up Spring and gearing up for Summer. From producing to reducing. Less work, more fun. Less online time to more outside time. Contemplation and plant propagation. Decluttering and Gardening Workouts and writing… What’s your focus going to be this summer? P.S. I have room to take on a few more clients if you've been needing help with managing your time, or managing your emotions. I'm here for yah! Schedule an appointment now before my summer slots fill up. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session…
1 Ep #159: HEALING | Mind, Body, & Soul 47:05
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47:05Let’s take a look at your symptoms, physical AND mental. Do you have any pain in your body? Extra weight? Skin conditions, thinning hair? Are you dealing with any anxiety or depression? What ever the symptom is, there is always a root cause and that’s what I hope tonights class can help you identify. With my rash I explored all potential causes. Through deep introspection and researching breast implant illness, I was able to narrow it down. When I began reading about breast implant illness and discovered countless stories of other women experiencing the same symptoms as me, I was convinced that my next step towards better health should be to remove my implants. I also made sure to look at my mental and emotional health during this time. I even went back and read some of my journal entries leading up to the rash outbreak. I noticed a theme in my writings. RESENTMENT. I was carrying a lot of resentment in my body, thinking I was processing it by writing it out. But writing alone is not always enough. Sometimes you need to SAY something rather than hold it in. Sometimes it’s necessary to voice how you’re feeling, what you’re upset about, set some boundaries and make some changes. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…
1 Ep #158: Lose Yourself | Post Explant Surgery Mindset 30:28
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30:28Not gonna lie, seeing my smaller chest for the first time was emotional. I broke down in tears, but quickly shifted back to acceptance. Now I see them as an elegant beauty rather than hot sexy. Both versions are awesome, so I'm choosing to embrace my new look. Focusing on what was gained rather than what was lost. They don’t look perfect, but even without the implants, I’m not going to be able to stop the process aging. Letting go of resistance I have to my body changing with time, and the belief that I reached my peak of beauty. Redefining what beauty means to me. Getting it out of my head that youth is the only kind of beauty. I started paying more attention to the beauty of deep wisdom that only comes with AGE. The lines and wrinkles represent experience and a life LIVED. Seeing less and less of my external beauty and more and more of my internal beauty. Seems cliche to say that, but like in the movie, I feel Pretty, when you FEEL pretty, that’s all you really need in order to be happy and content. We feel pretty by how we think and what we believe. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…
1 Ep #157: Organize Your Mind & Your LIFE 1:05:01
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1:05:01One of my specialties is organizing. It’s something I’m naturally good at, but also something I often promote because of the incredible benefits it can have on the brain. Having things neat and orderly is extremely important to me. My kids don’t always love it though. I try to impress upon them the benefits of a clean room and a made up bed, but they just think I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I tried for years to get my oldest to make her bed each day and she’d always say, why, nobody is going to see it . I’d be so offended that she actually thought I wanted her to make her bed for OTHER people. I wanted her to make her bed for me, haha, but I was also hoping she’d experience the same sense of satisfaction I get when I walk by her room and see it all neat and tidy. It has everything to do with me, haha. I recognized early on in my life the positive affects a clean and organized space had on my brain so it’s something that has always been a priority for me. There’s nothing better than coming down to a clean kitchen first thing in the morning, or climbing into my neatly made up bed at night. I do it for my brain. I used to think it was just a personality thing. I know messes don’t bother everyone, but I’ve come to learn that clutter and disorganization can have plenty of negative affects on all people, it’s not just me. Some may not even realize the stress, overwhelm, and fatigue they often feel, could be directly related to chaos and clutter. It’s not just a personality type thing, it’s a human thing. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…
1 Ep #156: Creativity for Problem Solving & Manifesting More of What You Want 47:29
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47:29When we hear the word creative, we often think of artsy people who spend their days painting or writing songs and poetry. But creativity is one of THE most powerful energies we can all access. This energy is not just for the people who we deem as creatives, but it’s available to ALL of us. Not for the sole purpose of creating art per se, but it can be used in our every day lives for creative problem solving, inspired ways of extracting what we want out of life, and innovatively contributing to the collective evolution. WE ARE ALL CREATIVE How many of you would consider yourself creative? Well guess what, we are ALL creative. It’s in our very nature to create. We literally create LIFE. We are designed to procreate, cocreate, and recreate. Allow others creative work to inspire your own. Maybe you’d like to recreate a song that has already been written by changing the lyrics to match your life experience. Or rewrite the narrative to a well known fairy tale. When it comes to using creativity in our every day life, maybe it looks more like rewriting the narrative to your past. Thinking outside the box when it comes to the belief system you inherited from your parents. Or simply coming up with a plan to get out debt, move to your dream destination, or turning your passion into a profession. For me, I especially love to create organized and cozy living spaces. I also enjoy formulating new recipes, rituals, and routines. Recipes for healthy meals and also recipes for personal development. I love creating new systems and formulas within my life coaching practice to improve mental health and well being. Everything that has already been created is like additional colors to your pallet. You are the artist and your brain is the paint brush. What picture do you want it to create using all the colors you have available to you. Adding someone else’s colors to your masterpiece is not imitating, it’s innovating. Sometimes the most brilliant inventions come from combining 2 or 3 things that already exist. That’s exactly how ER Shred was born. We combined different dietary approaches then made a few enhancements in order to create a sustainable and effective protocol. We limitate when we imitate. Because it’s in our nature to create AND evolve, we should always have an innovators mind. How can we expand upon what we already know? If we hope for each generation to be better than the last, we must live in constant curiosity. Always asking questions. Questions are at the root of innovation. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
1 Ep #155: Explant Surgery | Saying Goodbye to my Boobs in PURSUIT of Health 27:31
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27:31In 2 weeks I am officially bidding my boobies farewell. It's been an extremely emotional decision but I'm ready to let them go in pursuit of better health. As many of you know I've been struggling with skin issues for years. This last fall I had an alarming outbreak that caused me to look deeper into what might have contributed to this horrific rash that practically covered my entire body. I went to 2 different doctors, even had a biopsy, but neither one of them could give me an answer as to what might have been the cause. I went down a rabbit hole of information, searching for potential causes which landed me at Breast Implant Illness. After reading countless stories of other women who shared many of my same symptoms, I'm hopeful that getting my breast implants removed will be the answer. Or at least another step closer to better health. The last 5 years have truly been a process of ELIMINATING all the toxic things from my life. It started with eliminating a toxic belief system (leaving my religion), which then led to eliminating toxic foods (ER Shred), and now working on eliminating toxic cleaning products, toiletries, make up, and so forth. It only seems natural to consider my breast implants being another source of toxicity that my body can no longer tolerate. {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.}\ If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
1 Ep #154: My Addiction to the "Sean Drug" | Codependency & Self Worth 57:29
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57:29I didn’t know I was codependent until about 2 years ago when Sean "Ferberized" me. For most of our marriage Sean was my source of feeling good about myself. He always made me feel loved, cherished, sexy, safe, and valued. I’d often say, "boy Sean, I wish I could just see myself through your eyes". It’s like pure ecstasy to be loved and seen by Sean. But the only problem was, I got addicted to the "Sean drug" and eventually became dependent on it. He became my main source of feeling good about me, which as you can imagine is extremely exhausting for anyone to carry that kind of expectation and responsibility. Sean got to a point in our marriage where he tired of me constantly needing him to fill my cup. He knew that the only way we would get out of this unhealthy never ending cycle, was for him to allow me to “cry it out”. So in a sense, I had to go through a detox period and experience all the withdrawals. The pain that comes when ever you’re trying to beat an addiction. I had to learn to self soothe... {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
1 Ep #153: Making Peace w/ Relationships That Have Ended 7:52
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7:52We've all had our fair share of painful relationships and break ups. What if we could talk to the higher self version of the person we "broke up" with. I imagined us high fiving back stage somewhere. Congratulating each other on a job well done. “Out standing performance” I say. You really taught me some valuable lessons. That all felt so real. I was so in character that I completely lost touch with reality… {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing and monthly challenges.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
1 Ep #152: I have some CONFESSIONS to make 23:56
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23:56I have some confessions to make… For some reason the podcast feels like a safer space to be more open and raw. Maybe because I know that the people who take the time to listen are the ones who truly resonate with what I'm sharing. So you listeners, thank you! I’ve attempted to be real open and raw on Facebook and Instagram and it didn’t always go over well. I guess you can say that I’m a little trigger shy now that I’ve tested those waters. Confession. The word confession has always been a very scary word for me until I hit the age of about 38, I’m almost 42 now . My entire life I feared ever having to go talk to my bishop to “confess my sins”. When I was 10 years old I had a traumatic experience, I was completely engulfed in shame by this horrific event. At the time I had no idea what to do with it. I was so scared of anyone knowing about this, but was literally dying inside with my secret. An entire year later I mustered up the courage to tell my mom. I still remember the overwhelming fear I had. Driving in the car with just my mom and I. My body shaking, palms sweaty, and tightness in my stomach. I couldn’t carry my secret any longer. It felt like poison in my body, slowly eating away at my insides. I had to purge! I blurted out, “mom, I think I... {Download my FREE Journal Prompts HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing.} If you’re interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
1 Ep. #151: Depression | DEEP REST from the Character You're Trying to Play 28:52
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28:52"Depression is your body saying, fuck you. I don't want to be this character anymore. I don't want to hold up this avatar you've created in the world. It's too much for me." ~Jim Carrey Everything was going great, I was on top of the world, ready to take on 2023... Then I saw her coming my way, I tried to hide so she couldn’t see me. I ducked, I pretended I didn’t see her, but nope. She spotted me with her petrifying gaze and under her spell I went. This past week I encountered my least favorite emotion, her name is DEPRESSION. She often accompanies me during the winter season of my menstrual cycle. Although I can usually expect her to arrive pretty consistently, sometimes she does’t come at all which then leads me to assume she’s gone for good. In this episode I'm sharing a sequence of recent events that triggered my inner critic which then led me in a direction that was quite enlightening. Using my winter/ hibernation season for deep rest and introspection. I'll tell you what I uncovered this month.…
1 Ep #150: Is Your Brain a Dog or a Cat? 1:10:14
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1:10:14We often hear people describe our inner chaos and continuous thoughts as our “monkey minds”. But tonight I want to teach you about your Dog Brain. Allow me to explain… So the dog brain. Let’s call it a Golden Retriever. Golden retrievers are a breed of dog that we know are highly intelligent and for many reasons are the dog of choice as the star in many of those feel good movies. When I think of a Golden Retriever, I think loyal, happy, playful, eager to please companions. Golden Retrievers are extremely smart and quick learners which is why this breed is commonly used for search and rescue and as service dogs. So, there is a part of our brain called the reticular activating system. This is our filter, our lens in which we perceive the world. It looks for and finds information that validates our current belief system. Language is what influences the R.A.S. Once it’s activated by the language, it goes on a search and edit mission. Searches for more of these things and edits out the rest. So just like the Golden Retriever, our R.A.S, when given a command, or SCENTence, it can be trained to search, retrieve, and rescue.…
1 Ep #149: How to QUIT Sugar, Alcohol, or Coffee 30:24
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30:24I’ve attempted to quit plenty of things over my lifetime, as we all have . But ever since 2020 I’ve discovered an entirely new level of discipline. It’s like something suddenly clicked in my brain and I was able to conquer many of my addictions, cravings, and urges. Things I’ve kicked since 2020, sugar, gluten, coffee, alcohol, pizza, chocolate, my addiction to social media, gossiping, and much much more. Since noticing this huge shift in my ability to conquer these things, I’ve began to reverse engineer what has been happening to me, which is a lot, and I’ve actually formulated a whole process that I’m now coaching people through, but I wanted to share a small piece with you today to assist you in your resolutions for 2023. My theme this year is to become a New ME in 2023 . I started setting my intensions a few weeks ago and created a free workbook for all of you. If you’re on my email list then you should have received it, if not then you can sign up via this link: http://eepurl.com/cOWSW5 The goal with this workbook is to clearly identify the person you’re hoping to step into, then identify the specific habits you need to develop in order to embody that potential you know you have. So what I’m getting at here, is that quitting anything obviously starts with HABITS and I’m going to teach you what I’ve found to be the most effective habit forming strategy. And of course, schedule a coaching session with me if you’re needing additional help and accountability. MY CALENDAR https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | RSS…
I love this time of year! It's the time to COLLECTIVELY reflect on the previous year, and set our intentions for the new year. We often hear people say, "you don't need to wait until the new year to start making resolutions." I agree, it's good to take inventory throughout the year, pivot when needed, and continuously ignite your enthusiasm when it comes to your vision. So who do you wanna BE in 2023? Wannabe... this term usually has a derogatory meaning. It's how we usually describe someone who wants to be something they are NOT. Imatating or trying to be like someone else. But let's lighten this up a bit. Let's imagine the person we wanna BE, not coming from a place of lack or inferiority. Not because we are seeking attention, recognition, or admiration. But because deep down inside you KNOW your potential, and because you know you CAN be who you wanna BE. I can't wait to see you BECOME the person you wanna BE in 2023. Use these journal prompts I've created for you to provide clarity, and an opportunity for you to visualize and set your intension for the year. I’ve been spending the last couple of weeks really contemplating this question and visualizing my entire next year. I actually really enjoy this process of setting my intentions and planning out my year. I also love going back and reading my journal entries this time last year. It’s fun to see what I was able to create and where I was at 1 year ago. As I’ve been getting clear on who I wanna BE in 2023, I went ahead and put together a workbook that I thought others might find useful. If you’d like me to send you this 11 page workbook then just enter your email here http://eepurl.com/cOWSW5 and I’ll email it to you. {If you’re already on my list, then you will be getting the workbook in your inbox this week} Also, schedule a mini session with me if you’d like to know more about how I can help you in 2023. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…
1 Ep #147: Navigating Difficult Emotions During the Holidays 55:52
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55:52This time of year, although magical, can also be an extremely difficult time for many. For various reasons it can trigger unresolved childhood trauma, loneliness, and of course financial stress and overwhelm. So my intention for tonights call is to hold space for the loneliness, trauma, and stress, as we gently direct our focus towards healing, growth, and freedom from the past. About a month ago I broke out in this horrible rash. I was so discouraged because I’d like to believe that I’m pretty healthy and that I do what it takes to maintain optimal health. Many of us have seen tremendous results with our health and wellbeing thanks to the ER Shred protocol. But our diets can only take us so far. It can’t cure our emotional wounds. It can be a stepping stone and create a HUGE breakthrough, but it’s only a 3rd of the equation when we’re talking about holistic health. As much as I teach that health is not just about what we eat, it’s also about how well we’re able to manage our minds and emotions, this piece to the puzzle just seemed to slip past my awareness when I broke out in a rash. My first response was to blame my diet, thinking, what am I doing wrong. What supplement do I need? What should I start eating or stop eating. I skipped right past the obvious, and my focus went directly to my diet instead of looking at my stress levels and emotional health. We must always be aware of the whole, body, mind, and soul. Sometimes we need a little nudge from the people who know us best. Thank you Sean for encouraging me to look deeper. {Download my FREE Journal Prompts HERE to assist you in your goal for increased self awareness through daily writing.}…
1 Ep. #146: How to SIMPLIFY Your Life | When it all becomes too much 31:42
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31:42The amount of decisions we need to make each day has only continued to increase over the past couple centuries. Think of the amount of choices we are presented with each day. Instead of having to choose between 2 or 3 options, we now have hundreds of different options in every category imaginable. Food, entertainment, drinks, clothing, skincare, cars, phones, flavors, scents. I just walked through bath and body works the other day and wow, can you believe all the different SMELLS they offer? It’s no wonder I’m always completely exhausted any time I have to go to the mall. Consumer culture is bogging us down and we don’t even realize how much it is affecting our wellbeing. Many of us struggle to remedy this decision over load. But guess what, I think I can help guide you in the right direction. If you're interested in booking a FREE Mini Session then use my calendar link to schedule with me. (New Clients Only) https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/30-min-free-mini-session…
1 Ep #145: Don't Take Your Personality Personally 20:02
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20:02Don't take your personality personally, it's not you. You are the watcher, the observer, the director... Like a scientist, you learn through the experimentation of things. You are not the rat. You are gaining insights by watching the rats and how they respond and interact.
1 Ep #144: How to turn your DREAMS into REALITY 24:37
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24:37When I was about 21 years old I remember telling one of my friends about my crazy life as a child. She said to me, “wow, you’re going to write a book some day”. That ONE comment sparked a tiny little flame of belief in myself. I never would have expected anyone to say something like that to me. I always believed that I wasn’t very smart. We moved about every 6 months growing up which meant I was constantly changing schools and curriculums, not to mention the adjustment period I went through each time. I was in the lowest reading level and often had to go to a separate class with the kids who needed extra help. So this sure did a number on my self esteem. Also, I was completely unaware of the growth mindset that Carol Dweck so beautifully reveals. I always believed that my genes determine my potential. I wasn’t one of the “lucky” ones. Wasn’t “blessed” with any special gifts or talents. My parents couldn’t afford to put me in dance or any sports, so I didn’t have opportunities to find out if I was even good at anything. So when my friend said this to me I just went with it. I started thinking a lot about it, imagining it, brainstorming ideas of what I could write about in a book. Five years later I started the Wannabe Balanced blog, ten years after that I wrote that book! Download the FREE workbook I created for you. ( http://www.wannabebalanced.com/Desires-Into-Reality )…
1 Ep #143: I Want it NOW! | Delayed Gratification 12:26
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12:26Let’s talk about the marshmallow experiment, except we are going to use eggs instead of marshmallows . Are you a one (instant gratification) or 2 (delayed gratification) kinda person? Don’t forget to join me live on Facebook, Thursday (6:00pm MST) night for our monthly MINDSET call. Also check out my recent YouTube video sharing how I chose what to wear each day and have minimized my wardrobe in order to avoid decision fatigue. And if you’re interested in my Time Management course then schedule a FREE mini session with me to start out.…
Spent some time over the weekend reading journal entries from when I was in highschool. It’s so fun for me to look back on the person I was then. To visit the 16-18 year old version of me. Lots of thoughts come to my mind. Wondering how differnt I might have been as a teen if I understood my emotions. I had no clue the effect hormones were having on my mind. Wondering how different my experience might have been if I understood how much emotions, beliefs, and thoughts were impacting my outlook on life and my own self worth. If my 40 year old self could have just one hour to talk to my 20 year old self, how cool would that be? First off, I’d tell her she has nothing to worry about. I worried so much about my future happiness, and I feared being alone & unloved more than anything. I would spend some time explaining how the mind works, about thoughts, emotions, hormones, and my beliefs. I would teach her about the growth mindset. I would tell her to embrace her sexuality and to stop feeling ashamed about all of it. I would explain to her about truth being subjective, and what I know now about religion and how beliefs are just beliefs, and that I don’t HAVE to adopt them. Especially if they are causing me pain and suffering. So many things I’d like to tell her if I had the chance. What would you say to your teenage self?…
1 Ep #141: Relationship Talk and Update on Life After Mormonism 8:53
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8:53Uploading more bite sized episodes, sharing pieces of some of my recent coaching sessions. The kids are back in school and I've been joyously working on my schedule, routines, and time management. Speaking of which, I'm now offering a 4 week one on one Time Management package for $111. I will help you plan out your time in a way that creates more balance, efficiency, and productivity. Time management is one of my super powers! I get so giddy any time I get to help someone in this area. If you're needing help with managing your time, then I'm your gal. Schedule a free session with me using my calendar link: https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session There we will be able to discuss ore about how I can help you balance your life and your time. In a nutshell, this package includes weekly 30 min. one on one coaching/ planning sessions, weekly to do's and do don'ts, as well as a live class where I go into all of my time management tips and answer all of your burning questions.…
The ALL or NOTHING mentality is a cognitive distortion that results in depressions, anxiety, procrastination, binging, and completely sabotaging your progress. It's a black and white way of thinking, perfectionist syndrome, causing you to see reality in extremes. It's good or it's bad... Right or wrong... Success or complete failure... Where does this mentality stem from? I believe it's simply the natural evolution of the human experience. Just like new born babies are only able to see in black and white, but over time the begin to develop the ability to see shades of grey, and then even color. Historically speaking, we come from generations of black and white thinking. Religion and politics are great examples of how this mentality has perpetuated over centuries. Democrats and Republicans, heaven or hell, good vs. evil, true or false, worthy or unworthy. More often than not we find that one group believes they are right and everyone else is wrong. No disrespect intended towards religion or politics, I believe humanity has come a long way in this arena. This mentality has spilled over into a lot of parenting styles, then we wonder why we as adults struggle with this. Anyone come from a home where anything less than an A is unacceptable? Believing that punishment and shame will keep us from doing "bad things", using fear as a motivator... it may have worked in the short-term, but look at the long-term repercussions. Fear as a motivator is just not sustainable. It will never produce lasting results, it only keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns.…
Indulgences are not bad, it's all about finding a healthy balance and taking breaks from these things for a period of time in order to reset and gain even more control over your urges and cravings. Here's a new video Sean and I recorded, talking about the ER Shred being the perfect Dopamine Reset and how this can be a useful tool in other areas of our lives. www.ERShred.com…
1 Ep #138: Things are shifting for ALL of us... 7:35
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7:35New season of life… We are all finding ourselves in a new season, unlike anything we’ve ever experienced before. A lot of uncertainty and unknowns can feel pretty scary. I hear yah. The last 4-5 years has caused me to do a lot of soul searching and introspection. Unearthing all kinds of things about myself that I was completely unaware of. It’s become somewhat of an obsession to understand myself and human nature for that matter. In this process of self discovery I began craving opportunities to help others work through the same things I’ve been working through. Finding what my emotional triggers are and getting to the root of them. Healing old wounds and rewiring my brain. It’s been a journey and I’m still on it, but I feel more equipped than ever before to help people out of their own ruts and painful patterns. Schedule your free session with me below. https://calendly.com/crystalescobar/1-hour-coaching-session…
There will always come a time in life when we have to say goodbye... Relationships... Homes... Religion, community, neighborhood... Impermanence is the very nature of life. Music by: Bensound.com
I'm all about feeling better not only physically, but feeling better holistically. MIND 🧠 BODY 💪🏼 & SOUL 🧘♀️ Let me walk you through how I coach myself through various things that I struggle with myself. Submit your questions: https://tinyurl.com/2p8fc2hf Print out your worksheet. https://tinyurl.com/2p975h86…
1 Ep #135: BELIEFS and How to Change Them 59:31
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59:31Innocently many of us believe that our life circumstances are what make us feel good or bad, happy or sad, angry or peaceful. I used to believe that my happiness came from other people's love and appreciation for me, or when you make a lot of money, or when you reach your goal weight, are from being in a loving relationship. We grow up learning that happiness must come from within, but I never understood HOW to do that. Some things in life we perceive as GOOD and others we perceive as BAD. We live life, hoping, praying, and even begging for more "good" to come our way so that we can be happy. We fail to realize that what we classify as good and bad is all subjective. It's in our own minds. Everything in life starts out as NEUTRAL, but then our minds are what judge, label, and categorize things. It's our thoughts, beliefs, preferences, and opinions that separate them into the good and bad categories. When we clean up our minds, then is when we begin to take our power back. No longer are we at the affect of our circumstances, we are only at the effect of our beliefs about them. Finally I'm understanding what it means to find peace from within. It means working on our beliefs, not attempting to change what I can't control, but control what I CAN change... My BELIEFS. If you plan to join me tonight then be sure to print out this worksheet I put together. I'll explain on the call how to use it. http://www.wannabebalanced.com/.../Wannabe-Feel-Better...…
"I don't know..." Is that a statement we should learn to get comfortable with? Is it the way to creative flow? Or is it a statement the BLOCKS the creative flow? A way of giving up? Or is it surrendering to the higher power within us? Depends on how YOU want to interpret it. It has everything to do with the meaning you put behind it. You can say, "I don't know" then decide you'll NEVER know. Or you can say, "I don't know" with the confidence that the next step or idea will revealed THROUGH the acceptance of not knowing. Question is, how does this statement make you FEEL? Defeated or Empowered?…
1 Ep. #133: No Shame, No Blame, Life is a Game 25:20
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25:20Some guilt crept up in me the other day as I was remembering something. I realized I had yet to resolve this in my mind. My goal is to be extra attentive each time a past memory or thought comes into my mind and it causes a low vibe emotion. I want to gather all the pieces to the story and see if I can rewrite it. I still hold guilt for Owen’s ear. Two reasons come to mind when I think about what may have caused his birth defect. Let’s start with not calling it a birth defect, not that I necessarily want to pull the wool over my eyes and not recognize mistakes or consider how I could have done things differently, but what’s done is done and I can only move forward in the way I see it and describe it, I don’t want to project my mistakes onto Owen. So calling it a defect makes me feel like I’m describing him as not whole. I will never gain with blame. I will only gain by honoring how the experience has contributed to my wakening of the dream we all find ourselves in. It’s the nightmares that tend to wake us up. Then we SEE that the tiger chasing us is not even real. We wake up, safe in our beds, and recognize the peace around us. But even awakening from the dream is a cycle. We go back to sleep and we dream again. So it’s not like you have an awakening and suddenly you’re awake for the rest of your life. You go to sleep again, and you dream. But there is such thing as lucid dreaming, which I believe is the goal. To allow yourself to sleep and be immersed in the dream, but you KNOW you’re dreaming, therefore you don’t get so emotionally caught up in the dream. It becomes more fun and playful.…
My skin, my greatest teacher. I used to believe my skin was my greatest enemy. Like it’s role in my life was to torture me and make me feel insecure. At one point I even believed it was God’s way of keeping me humble. I don’t want to hide my imperfections anymore. I don’t even want to SEE them as imperfections. I realized I’m causing my own stress because I want to have flawless skin more than I want to appreciate what my skin is trying to teach me or how it’s my bodies way of communicating to me. Our bodies communicate in different ways. Some have pain in their joints, or other area of their body. Headaches, brain fog, fatigue, bloat or discomfort in the gut. I’ve been believing my whole life that perfect skin, good hair, and a super model figure was the answer to all my problems. But now as I’m aging I’m realizing that I’ve been putting my energy in the wrong place (climbing the wrong latter as Sean describes it). If I believe that external beauty is the answer to life’s struggles then I’m in for a rude awakening. So let’s bare it all, strip it down, embrace our imperfections and stop seeing them as flaws. Appreciate what your body is offering you NOW and stop waiting to be happy and at peace until we lose that last pound or cure every illness we have. Enjoy the ebs and flows of life, embrace the seasons, and see everything as a gift.…
1 Ep #131: In the Grips of Social Media 21:37
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21:37I remember back when I was really actively pursing my goal to grow my Instagram following. How much anxiety, stress, jealousy, and overwhelm I felt on a DAILY basis. Often times I would wish I could let it all go. I honestly felt trapped in my own mind about it. For so many reasons I thought letting go was not an option. I thought… I’ve invested too much time and money into this, I can’t stop now. Sometimes I would meet people that weren’t on social media at all. Some part of me judged them for trying to avoid the inevitable. Social media is a part of our lives now, either we reject it or embrace it. But mostly I felt envy. I desperately wanted to be FREE of the hold it had on me. I would often imagine what it would feel like to just LIVE my life without the pressure of putting it all online. Some how some way, I finally broke free from the chains! I still post some things now and then, mostly to announce a new podcast episode or about how cute my cats are, but I can’t tell you how amazing it feels to finally let go of the belief that social media is my answer to success.…
The other day I found myself TRIGGERED by something and wanted to share my process in coaching myself through it. Triggers can show us where our attention is needed. What is unresolved within our subconscious. It's an opportunity for us to do an investigation and it can actually be a lot of fun. Like solving a mystery. You follow the breadcrumbs to find the source of your pain. When did this start? Describe in full detail the story you've been playing on repeat. It's a chance to discover the parts of the story that were fabricated. What creative/ negative/ dramatic twist did yyour mind add to it? Can you rewrite the story in a way that makes you feel more empowered? Now just practice this new narrative every time you are triggered and eventually it will naturally disolve. Because you become AWARE of the false story that it no longer has power over you.…
1 Ep #129: Raising Your Emotional Frequency 22:53
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22:53Our theme this year is Discover YOU in 2022 and I believe the best way to self discovery is through our EMOTIONS. As we get to know our feelings and where they are coming from, we get to know ourselves. We are always saying things like… “I didn’t like the vibe I got from that person… or… what a great vibe this place has… or… we just weren’t vibing with one another. I never really knew there was some scientific validity to the whole VIBE term… Physicists explain that inside every atom is mostly empty space and what’s left is more like a vibrational frequency. Albert Einstein said, “Everything in life is vibration.”…
Little did I know that my initial breakdown/breakthrough would last almost 4 years before I began making sense of things and feeling put back together. The interesting thing though is that it really feels as if I’m putting pieces of myself together but not using any of the old pieces. Like putting a puzzle together that is completely blank. Every piece is just pure white, nothing on it, not even a spec of color. Putting the pieces together gives me a sense of wholeness and a feeling of pure potentiality. You would think I’m describing emptiness, but really it’s such an exciting process to put this blank canvas together, because now I’m ready to create a masterpiece. With new shapes and colors I’ve never used before. I never realized that contribution is what gives us purpose. I really had to question my intensions over the years. In the beginning of my blogging endeavors. I think deep down I knew it wasn’t coming from a pure desire to contribute. It was tainted by my insecurities and need to prove myself. So I carried subtle shame and always felt defensive about my intentions behind it all. The clarity I have now is unreal. It reminds me of when I first got to Germany where I served my 18 month Mormon mission. Before I got to Germany I spent 2 months intensively learning and studying the language. On the plane ride to Germany I remember how confident I felt in my ability to communicate in German. I was quickly humbled and discovered I hadn’t even scratched the surface. I didn’t understand a WORD of German. I remember thinking, there is no way I will ever be able to understand or speak this language. I couldn’t make sense of any of it. And one day (a year later) I realized I understood it all perfectly. It was a gradual process but eventually the impossible became possible. This is how I would compare my spiritual growth over the past couple of years. I’ve been rereading some of the books that were way over my head the first time, felt like I was reading another language. But now I’m understanding them so clearly. It’s all making perfect sense and it’s such a cool realization. Serves as a reminder for me to keep trying, keep learning, teaching, writing, sharing, and coaching. THIS is my path and my purpose.…
1 Ep #127: FOMO | Fear of Missing Out {on social media} 18:33
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18:33Over the break I tried something new... I made a goal to go an entire week without reading books or consuming content via podcasts, audible, and YouTube. I know this seems like a silly goal, but one thing I realized is that I have an addiction to seeking answers outside of myself. I've identified where my addiction to information began and I believe it started when I was a child. Growing up we moved a lot, and I changed schools about every 6 months for a while. Because I always felt behind in school I thought I wasn't smart. Catching up to everyone academically has been a way of life for me. I've felt a lot of pressure to work harder and longer than everyone else just to keep up. Going without consuming books and podcasts for a week brought my fear of missing out to the surface. I fear missing out on life and opportunities because of my belief that I'm at a deficit. Our motto this year is to DISCOVER YOU IN 2022, and that's exactly what I'm going to do, one layer at a time.…
I believe we are all vulnerable to unhealthy cult like structures. They come in many forms. Not all cults are necessarily bad, but in my opinion, many of them have unhealthy practices that can lead us down a path of even more separation rather than community. In this episode I explain how I've been influenced by cult like structures in ways that has caused me so much confusion about my path and purpose. One of my biggest takeaways from participating in "cults" is that I don't want to be an imitator, I want to be an innovator. Sometimes cults can create uniformity rather than individuality.…
1 Ep #125: Resenting My Husbands Success 21:04
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21:04There's no doubt Sean has achieved tremendous success in which I'm so grateful for, proud of, and inspired by. But admittedly, there has been a part of me that resents his success when I compare myself to him. I've spent over a decade trying to build the same kind of success, but in my own unique way. In some ways I'm very proud of what I've created over the years, but when I compare myself to Sean I come up with all kinds of reasons why he's just better than me. My mind spirals into victim mentality, poor me stories, and multiple reasons why I haven't been able to succeed the way he has. In this episode I share more thoughts and lessons learned when it comes to collaborating, co-creating, and soul-creating.…
1 Ep #124: Ghosted...Why I Disappeared 15:45
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15:45Explaining where I've been the past few weeks.
1 Ep #123: Letting Go & Letting it Flow 24:40
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24:40Our motto this year is really been about letting go and letting it flow. So this week on the podcast I wanted to elaborate more on that topic since I feel that has been such a big part of our experience lately. 2020 has really turned out to be a gift in many ways. Mostly because it has presented us with the opportunity to practice our “letting go” muscle. It’s been one of those huge letting go lessons that has yet again turned out to be the catalyst for receiving MORE. It’s one of the benefits of allowing things to flow instead of gripping so tightly to results, expectations, and outcomes. Many of us have a strong hold on what the outcome SHOULD be in any given situation. And if it doesn’t go the way we hope then it leaves us feeling discouraged and sorely disappointed. We are taught at a young age, that if you believe then you can achieve. But there’s the fine print that I never even considered before. There have been many times in my life when I BELIEVED. But things didn’t happen the way I wanted which always left me wondering, WHY? Did I not believe enough? Do I not deserve it? Am I not worthy of it? What I didn’t realize is that I was believing in the wrong thing. Instead of believing it would happen the way my limited perspective wanted it to happen, I needed to believe that my deepest desires are at play. Desires that I may not even be aware of yet. It’s a part of me that is still unknown, the unrealized aspect of me that is manifesting the magic. It’s the part that has the power to manifest what is truly wanted, at a deep soul level. So it’s more like getting into a space of believing that what ever the outcome, what ever happens, it’s all happening for me and for my greatest benefit. Beneath all the superficial, impatient, human minded desires. It’s much deeper, and much more gratifying. So trusting in that can be extremely empowering.…
1 Ep #122: Update on Life After Mormonism 40:55
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40:55Today Sean and I wanted to share an update as far as where we are, mentally and emotionally as it pertains to our journey out of Mormonism. This past year has been quite the whirlwind. I turned 40 and for some reason, along with that came a whole host of internal issues that came up for me. I was struggling with finding a purpose and positive outlook in life. I was confused and overwhelmed by my own lack of beliefs, and unanswered questions. There were so many things swirling around inside of me and I couldn’t make sense of any of it. Felt like absolute chaos. At the same time I was becoming more tolerant of the Mormon beliefs. I didn’t feel as much anger and resentment around it all. Sean and I both stopped focusing on it and decided that we were done being “post Mormons”. We wanted to just be US. So me made a conscious decision to put our energy elsewhere. In that sense things felt great but on the other hand I was plagued by lack of understanding how the world works, what is my PURPOSE! I was so worried of being deceived or brain washed by information that I became far too skeptical of Everything. I began to miss having the beliefs that strangely brought peace and comfort to my days. Now looking back I find it silly to believe in many of the things that used to have such a hold on me, but I really began to miss feeling the “spirit” if you will. And don’t get me wrong, I’m very much aware that what we called the “spirit” was just elevated emotion from being inspired by something we see or read. That can happen in any moment of life, and it does’t mean that the Mormon church is true. Just means that you liked something that was said and the thought made you feel warm and cozy inside. So I feel like there was a time that I had completely closed myself off from feeling that way. My world became so black and white and I didn’t even realize that I had unintentionally blocked out all the beautiful colors in life. It’s as if I was trying to go back to my little tiny box like home, and out of fear began nailing all the doors and windows shut in order to protect myself, believing that the sun itself was a threat to me. And it’s only been recently that I’ve allowed myself to believe in certain things again. A few things that I’ve selected are God, prayer, Jesus, and spirit guides. But I don’t believe in God, prayer, and Jesus as Mormons do and the way most religions do. I would like to even use different terminology for these things because I don’t want to associate it with any kind of religious belief. But God for me is just source energy. The part of us that is one with everyone and everything. There is the human part of us, but then there is also the “being”. And that to me is God, and each of us come from that same source. It’s like God is the ocean and we are all part of it, each of us is a drop in the ocean. We think we are separate but that’s impossible. If we are a drop in the ocean then we ARE the ocean. Then prayer is just a way to send out positive vibes of gratitude to the universe and also a way to ask the universe for answers and guidance in our lives. I want to believe that the universe responds to the requests we put out there. As I’ve allowed myself to pray again, of course it’s nothing like the Mormon prayers. I don’t get on my knees, I don’t address God or Jesus, and I simply think or say all the things I’m grateful for, then I ask for answers to questions in my heart. That has been a really cool thing for me to practice. I’ve noticed some awesome things and it really feels good to accept some of these things back into my life but in a much different way. And as far as Jesus goes. I still think of him as an important figure in history who taught us a lot of good things through his parables, wisdom, and example. I think a lot of what religions teach about Jesus is completely misunderstood, misused, and misinterpreted.…
I'm BACK at it my friends. I had a crazy busy summer and in this episode I'm just catching you up on what I've been up to the past few months.
1 Ep #120: Healing Childhood Trauma 1:03:30
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1:03:30The more people I get to know on a deeper level, the more I'm realizing that every one of us has some level of childhood trauma. Not to shame and blame the caregivers because heaven knows I'm no saint when it comes to parenting. We are all doing the best we can with what we know therefore we must offer that same understanding and compassion for the people who devoted so much of their time and energy in raising us. Healing the inner child is not about bringing up old wounds for the intent of revenge but rather to rewrite the narrative. Today on the podcast Lenny Evans gives us some useful tools to start the work of healing from past trauma. Lenny Evans is an author, motivational speaker, belief coach, yoga teacher, and much much more.…
1 Ep #119: My Weight Loss & Personal Growth Journey 1:18:56
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1:18:56ER Shred Ambassador Jesse James Jamnik interviews me about my weight loss and personal growth journey thus far. "As Co-Founder of the ER Shred Protocol, along with her husband Sean, Crystal has a true passion for helping transform people's overall well-being. Especially seeing as though she herself struggled for years before finally cracking the code. Join us as Crystal and I break down the past and touch on subjects that you very well might be struggling with yourself. Sugar & Carb Cravings Baby weight Self Esteem Adult Acne Dieting and the restrictions on life And so much more!"…
1 Ep #118: When people don't love you like they "SHOULD" 12:08
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12:08First of all, how can we possibly know how people SHOULD love us? Letting go of all my shoulds has been the hardest thing for me to do. I want to believe that people should do things the way I think they should. But as Byron Katie always says, when you “turn it around rather than waiting for someone else to do it is the end of the road not traveled”. I love the turn around technique she teaches, it helps me really put things into perspective and switch my focus off the person I’m judging and allows for my own introspection. I can then ask myself how I might be doing the very same thing I think others should NOT being doing. For example, when I want someone to stop being so critical of me. I usually discover that I too am being critical by criticizing that others should not criticize me. Or when I yell at the kids for yelling at each other. I often get angry at them for fighting with each other but in turn I end up arguing with them about arguing with each other. "Shoulds" are just our own biases and opinions. “As you inquire into issues and turn judgements around, you come to see that every perceived problem appearing “out there” is really nothing more than a misperception within your own thinking.”…
We all dream of the days when life ceases to be challenging. When we learn all the lessons there are to learn, we make our millions, solve our problems, achieve all our goals, and ride off into the sunset with our happily ever after. Unfortunately, or should I say FORTUNATELY, life never stops presenting us with a healthy dose of difficulty. Itt all comes down to our attitude and whether or not we’re able to embrace life’s challenges and see them as the perfect opportunity for growth and self discovery.…
Stripping myself down of all the things that feed my ego has been extremely challenging. In this episode I go into more detail about some of the things I found myself addicted to, not realizing the driving force behind it all.
1 Ep #115: Reinventing Your Life w/ Natascha Weedon 53:47
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53:47Thinking outside the box, new and different ways of doing things. Stepping into the unknown, reinventing, and redefining life. That's what 2021 is all about.
Grief is an emotion I'm learning to sit with these days. Grieving the loss of certain beliefs I've clung to my whole life, and grieving the loss of a pet. Sometimes when we feel an intense emotion like grief it almost feels like you're wearing a shocking device. It hurts so bad you become desperate to relieve the pain. But I've found that, relaxing, allowing, and breathing can be the best antidote to painful situations.…
Human behavior is something I'm completely fascinated by these days. Learning how the mind works and why we cling so tightly to specific beliefs. I understand there is a level of comfort that comes from firm beliefs, but in my opinion it hinders our growth. Anytime we believe we KNOW things with certainty, it blocks us from ever expanding beyond what we currently understand. Often times we just become robots, programmed as a child in order to fit the societal mold.…
Today I'm talking about my midlife crisis that started 3 years ago, but became overwhelmingly intense the last 3 months. Going into all the things that have contributed to my "falling apart" right before my 40th birthday.
1 Ep #111: Emotional Eating w/ Andrea @thingsandreasays 28:12
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28:12Emotional Eating Coach, Andrea at ThingsAndreaSays.com is going to walk us through some of the reasons why we might be feeling stuck when it comes with finding the discipline and willpower to stick with our protocol.
1 Ep #110: Aligning Your Passion w/ Your Profession 41:41
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41:41Sharing my business journey story and all the different endeavors I pursued beginning at age 15.
1 Ep #109: Let's Talk Shit | Bowel Movements and Gut Health 41:39
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41:39Let's talk shit, bowel movements and gut health. Talking about Sean's struggles dealing with various gastrointestinal issues over many years. Also listing several things we both tried in order to improve our gut health. Coffee enemas, fiber overload, probiotics, kombucha, fermented vegetables, etc.
1 Ep #108: Latter Day Lesbian Shelly Johnson 1:02:22
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1:02:22Shelly DeWitt Johnson was born and raised in a very strict and patriarchal religion. She got married young and had 7 children. At age 40 she left the religion and culture that had been the biggest part of her life. After starting to deal with that trauma, she realized that she was gay, which added a whole new set of issues. Not long after, she got divorced. As a single Mom with no college education she had to start her life again at age 43. Shelly met her girlfriend Mary and they started a podcast called Latter-Day Lesbian. The podcast became an instant hit with listeners recovering from religion, and listeners in the LGBTQ community. The podcast is raw and vulnerable, yet healing and downright hilarious. Along with her ongoing recovery from emotional and spiritual trauma, Shelly has now added a focus on physical health as she continues on her journey of overall wellness.…
1 Ep #107: John Gray | Resolving Conflict in Marriage & Relationships | Self Love 1:06:10
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1:06:10I've been a fan of John Gray, Author of Men Are From Mars Women are From Venus, since I was 19 years old. Can you believe that? I had the amazing opportunity to interview him on my podcast. He shared some incredible advice on marriage and relationships. John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.…
1 Ep #106: Relationships Part 2 | How to Argue WELL 34:12
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34:12I can confidently say that Sean and I are EXPERTS at arguing. We have a lot of experience when it comes to having disagreements in marriage. Allow us to teach you exactly what NOT to do.
1 Ep #105: Relationships & Connection | Part 1 28:48
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28:48This is a raw uncut episode. As we started recording the episode Sean got ultra vulnerable and shared some never before told stories. I left the room while he recorded but when I listened to it back I was pleasantly surprised with what he chose to share.
1 Ep #104: How to Recognize Your UNIQUENESS 11:38
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11:38For many years I’ve been paralyzed with the fear that I don’t have anything unique to offer this world. It’s caused me to unintentionally block the flow of inspiration and creativity. I’ve been really diving deeper and trying to identify what makes me unique. And I wanted to share some of my insights as I’ve been making a conscious effort in this area. I think it all comes down to the belief I had that there is nothing left to invent or create. It was more of a subconscious belief that I uncovered by asking myself a lot of questions. When I read books I noticed some common themes. They all have similar messages, just different ways of saying it. But I still LOVE reading them and always feel I’m able to gain something new. My understanding of a concept deepens as I read all the different ways people express it. I was having this conversation with Sean the other day and I was comparing it to chocolate chip cookies. Have you ever googled “chocolate chip cookie recipes”? I used to wonder as a little girl, why do people always claim they have the BEST recipe for chocolate chip cookies? Chocolate chip cookies are chocolate chip cookies, right? A little butter, flour, salt, eggs, vanilla, sugar, and chocolate chips. What I didn’t realize is that one slight adjustment to a recipe can completely change the composition, taste or texture of a cookie. It’s quite miraculous and even inspiring. Kinda makes you see the endless possibilities we have available to us. We have universal truths. Things that most of us can agree on, like... Love is the answer... Doing good can make you happy... Taking care of your body is an important component to having a good quality of life... And that there is a part of us that wants to grow and evolve… When we take universal truths/ ingredients, we can create our own unique recipe by simply adding in a few secret ingredients. These are ingredients that nobody else has access to. We add a cup of our personality, with a pinch of our own life experiences, combine it all together and bake for (enter your age) years until the outer edge is slightly golden brown. THIS is what makes everything we do and say totally unique. We can build upon the things that we learn from other people by simply adding in our own special sauce.…
1 Ep #103: CRISIS | Exposes Weakness & Inspires Creation 42:49
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42:49In this episode Sean shares his crisis during the crisis. "The humbling moment in life when everything you've endured for so long suddenly feels worth it. When you are finally able to make sense of all of the confusion and frustration. When everything you have experienced was obviously meant to forge your path moving forward." ~Sean Escobar…
1 Ep #102: Procrastination Perfectionism & Productivity 26:13
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26:13I used to believe that the AMOUNT of things I got done was equal to my value as a women/ mother. Procrastination, perfectionism, and productivity was all intermingled with my misinterpretation around the goal to "become like Christ". I didn't realize I was striving for an unattainable goal of perfection. I desperately wanted to BE what others told me I should be, constantly hustling for my worthiness.…
1 Ep #101: When eating "HEALTHY" doesn't work 34:59
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34:59Laura Hernandez vulnerably shares her struggles with her health and weight after years of research and working at perfecting her diet. In a facebook post she recently shared her experience after 11 days on what we're calling the ER Shred. "I wish I could just say I had “let myself go” in that first pic, & that I made a decision to get “healthy” in that 2nd pic, bc that would have been easier. But, NOTHING could be further from the truth, as my close friends & family can attest to how hard I exercise everyday & how clean I eat 90% of the time!"…
100 Episodes!!!! Wow! I'm so dang proud of that. Here's a recap of what those 100 episodes are about; 1-20 was the beginning stages of a LOT of personal development which ultimately led to the choice to leave our life long religion. 21-99 was basically our entire journey and all the different phases we experienced after leaving the church. Now starting season 4 and going a slightly different direction. We will be discussing all different kinds of topics around personal growth and development as well as sprinkling in some Mormon Enlightenment interviews and discussions.…
Use your past to enhance your present. It all comes down to the way we tell our story. Were you the victim? Or were you the hero? Train your brain to notice what was good about the way your life has played out. Ask, how is this happening FOR me and not to me?
1 Ep #98: Finding Your Tribe | Making Friends Post Mormonism 59:54
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59:54When we leave Mormonism, we also leave behind our community to some extent. But when we become so focused on what was lost, or our lack of something, our brain stops trying to find solutions. When we begin focusing on what we WANT, believing that it's on it's way, then suddenly we open ourselves up to creativity and BOOM, the answers (or people), arrive.…
When I was 10 years old I had a traumatic experience that caused me to feel overwhelming SHAME. A year later I finally gained the courage to "confess" it to my bishop. Growing up in the Mormon Church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) I adapted this belief that my leaders, bishop, priesthood holders, elders, and prophets were the ones with the final say regarding my worthiness. Now I see how this has contributed to my need for validation and approval from others. Instead of being grounded in my inner knowing, the truth about ME, I gave my power away and silenced the true me that KNOWS I'm enough, worthy, and pure, NO. MATTER. WHAT.…
1 Ep #96: Negative Emotions Around Mormon Teachings 23:34
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23:34A few years ago I was at my wits end with all my bottled up Mormon Mom emotions. So much guilt, jealousy, envy, and pressure to do everything amazing all the time with a perfect smile on my face. I was desperate for help. I prayed, I studied scriptures, and had conference talks playing on repeat all day. I could never find anything that spoke to me, or that offered any kind of relief from my inner suffering. Until one day I found a podcast by an LDS life coach. Ironically she was the one that released me from my living Mormon hell. She taught me one simple truth. That I could choose to believe what ever I wanted to believe. I know some might say, "well, of course we get to choose what we believe". But I literally did NOT know this. I thought I was supposed to believe what the CHURCH told me to believe. They taught me it was the one and ONLY way, the ONLY true church, and the ONLY path to live a happy life full of blessings. Since leaving the church and experiencing for myself whether or not that is true, I've come to discover that it is NOT.…
1 Ep #95: How Much is Too Much Alcohol? 24:06
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24:06I've been wanting to talk about alcohol consumption for a while now but haven't felt I was in a place to really give any kind of useful advice. I've been battling my own internal struggle ever since we allowed drinking to be part of our lifestyle. Not about the shame and guilt from the church, but mostly just fears around my health and addiction.…
1 Ep #94: Live Your Truth w/ Kyla Faye Dickerson 49:23
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49:23Here is an interview with Kyla Faye Dickerson. She shares her story growing up in the Mormon church and getting married in the temple. Eventually she gained the courage to live her truth by leaving the church and discovering a whole new way of seeing her life and the world.
1 Ep #93: My Mormon Mindset vs. Current Reality 19:16
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19:16Recognizing the shift in my mindset and sharing a list of the old verses the new. Here are a few; Old: Worthiness and pleading with God for things is the way to receive blessings. New: I'm ALWAYS worthy of everything my soul desires. Intensions, and actions fueled by love, is the way to attract more good into my life. Old: The Prophet knows whats best for me and my family. New: I know best, what's best for me. For the first time in my life I'm learning to listen to ME. At the same time, remaining open to feedback and information. Old: It's not my "calling" to make money, therefore I'd never really be able to because God wouldn't bless me. Working makes me a bad mom. Men are more successful. By the time my kids are grown I'll be too old to pursue anything worthwhile. New: I'm not a bad mom if I choose to work. Women are just as capable of making money as men. It's NEVER too late. Louis Hay (Hay House Publishing) is the perfect example of a women who didn't let age stop her. When she was in her mid 40's she started teaching. At 50, she began her publishing company. At 55, she took classes and learned how to use computers. 60, started her first garden. 70, entered a children's art class 75, graduated to an adults art class and started selling paintings, also took up yoga. 76, took up ballroom dancing, fulfilling her childhood dream of becoming a dancer.…
1 Ep #92: On Feeling the "SPIRIT" | What that means to me now. 28:00
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28:00I used to believe I had to be WORTHY of receiving inspiration and guidance in my life. It was a constant questioning of myself, wondering if God would still speak to me even if I wasn't doing A, B, and C. Now unpacking and discovering a whole new meaning of what "feeling the spirit" is to me. Regaining the trust I lost when taking the "wrong" road far too often after following the "spirit". What does feeling the spirit mean to you? Is it a question of worthiness? Is it your gut feeling? Is it warning signs? A burning in your bosom? I'd love to hear your thoughts.…
1 Ep #91: Deprogramming w/ Wendi Jensen 55:05
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55:05I had that opportunity to chat with Wendi Jensen, Author, Speaker, Trainer in the field of human potential and Religious Recovery. We talked all about the beliefs that have been programmed into us as children and ways in which we can work to DEprogram the ones that are no longer serving us. Wendi Jensen has worked as a facilitator in the healing arts for over 16 years. Her specialty is in human development. She is the author of The Healing Questions Guide – A resource guide for healing the body by accessing the mind. Wendi is also the author of A Peculiar Transition – Healing the Trauma of Mormon Faith Crisis. After her own life altering transition out of Mormonism, Wendi has dedicated her healing practice and her diverse skills to serving the former religious community to heal themselves, heal their relationships, and move on to a joyful and productive life. She is the mother of 5 adult children and the grandmother of 4. She lives in the Mesa, AZ Learn more about Wendi and the tools she offers over at WendiJensen.com…
1 Ep #90: Ways to Bring About Positive Change 17:47
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17:47It's a team effort. We all can't be activists for every problem in the world, but we can choose one or a few things that we are most passionate about and focus on that. We need more gratitude for the things that each of us decide to spend our time on and less shaming for the things we don't.
1 Ep #89: Building Bridges w/ Terina Maldonado 55:37
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55:37Terina Maldonado is a survivor in every sense of the word. She has overcome child abuse, sexual assault, and leaving a high demand religion. These experiences have taught her resilience, empathy, determination, and instilled in her a desire to inspire others to join her in a place of thriving. She loves sharing her message of hope and joy through public speaking, and writing. In 2018 she wrote an article calling attention to sexual grooming in a children's movie. The article quickly went viral reaching millions of people around the world. Terina has contributed to blogs, been interviewed by news and media outlets, and been a podcast guest. She is currently anticipating becoming a published author this summer as a contributing author in the book, Fear to Freedom, Stories of Triumph After Leaving High Control Religion. Terina finds her greatest joy with her husband and 3 children. Connect with Terina: www.terinamaldonado.com https://www.facebook.com/HealEmpowerEducate/ https://www.instagram.com/terina_maldonado/ https://www.prideandjoyfoundation.com/…
Labels put people in boxes and generates separation, hate, arguments, and destruction. When we truly see ourselves and others void of labels, our ability to relate, create, love, and connect, multiplies beyond what we thought was possible.
1 Ep #87: Alcohol, Sex, & Marriage w/ Sean Escobar 45:22
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45:22In an effort to abandon all judgement, we may also unintentionally rule out all reason. There was a time when Sean and I were both trying to allow each other to be FREE, but soon realized this mentality can backfire if we try to suppress our true feelings about certain things. It's okay to speak up. It's okay to set boundaries in your relationship. It's okay to have requests of one another as long as you feel you are both equally compromising. You can protect your marriage without trying to control or change one another.…
1 Ep #86: Margi Dehlin | Embracing the Unknown 56:20
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56:20Margi Dehlin is a co-host on The Gift of the Mormon Faith Crisis podcast and a Certified Life Coach. In her work she explores life transitions (involving religion, death or loss, divorce, illness, or empty nest syndrome) as they impact marriage, parenting, identity, family relationships--and one's ability to find a renewed sense of purpose amidst daily living. In this episode we discuss the emotions that come with a life transition as we are all experiencing one right now with COVID. We are grieving the loss of our old "normal" and learning to embrace the new and uncharted territories. Check out her recent blog post sharing her "Meditation for the HeavyHearted" https://www.beautyinthenow.org/blog/a-meditation-for-the-heavyhearted?fbclid=IwAR1NFGo-SkkstX7MNwNFllHFGbZehukmR5FBR_VzRPg2GOFhvZ58M5wzs2w…
1 Ep #85: Mixed Faith Marriage w/ Sean Escobar 33:38
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33:38Sean and I discuss some pitfalls when it comes to our ever changing beliefs and opinions. *Trying to create harmony as we navigate our different interests and understandings around the meaning of life. *How we are growing together EVEN when we disagree on so many things. *Is it okay to ONLY consume information that makes you feel good, and to what extent is that just ignorance?…
What is TRUTH? "Does it light you up? Or does it put you into fear? It is an impossibility to know THE TRUTH. Meaning there are so many perspectives . This multidimensional universe is far more complex than the human is allowed to experience. There is only so much that you are supposed to, or are designed to access. Yes, you can have cosmic multidimensional experiences. But if you are looking for "the truth" you are going to run yourself into trouble. If you are looking for YOUR TRUTH, your truth is what gets you back in your own body in a way that gets you feeling more wellbeing, happy, and in more joyous service. Truth seekers are not actually seeking truth, they are seeking themselves." ~Lee Harris…
What story do you choose to believe? In this episode I share my persepective on this world wide crisis we are faced with and the story I'm choosing to believe.
1 Ep #82: Leah Young | Parenting After Mormonism 1:16:08
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1:16:08Leah Young and I discuss some of the ways our parenting has changed since leaving Mormonism. *How to allow our children to make their own choices while still maintaining rules and boundaries. *Ways to have better communication with our teens. *Overcoming the Mormon mentality around comparisons and feeling we're never measuring up as parents.…
1 Ep #81: ESCAPE the Outbreak (COVID-19) w/ Tru Eastman 57:45
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57:45C.S. Lewis on pandemics and other horrors: “In one way we think a great deal too much of the atomic bomb. “How are we to live in an atomic age?” I am tempted to reply: “Why, as you would have lived in the sixteenth century when the plague visited London almost every year, or as you would have lived in a Viking age when raiders from Scandinavia might land and cut your throat any night; or indeed, as you are already living in an age of cancer, an age of syphilis, an age of paralysis, an age of air raids, an age of railway accidents, an age of motor accidents.” In other words, do not let us begin by exaggerating the novelty of our situation. Believe me, dear sir or madam, you and all whom you love were already sentenced to death before the atomic bomb was invented: and quite a high percentage of us were going to die in unpleasant ways. We had, indeed, one very great advantage over our ancestors—anesthetics; but we have that still. It is perfectly ridiculous to go about whimpering and drawing long faces because the scientists have added one more chance of painful and premature death to a world which already bristled with such chances and in which death itself was not a chance at all, but a certainty. This is the first point to be made: and the first action to be taken is to pull ourselves together. If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things—praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts—not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies (a microbe can do that) but they need not dominate our minds.”…
1 Ep #80: What about Jesus? w/ Rachel Thomas 1:04:01
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1:04:01Rachel and I discuss some of her thoughts and new beliefs since leaving the church about 4 years ago. "I left the church in November 2015 when "the policy" was announced. At the time I still believed that Joseph Smith was involved in the restoration of truth, but that over 200 years the church had gone into apostasy because the moment I heard the policy, another voice loudly sounding off in my head was "Jesus wouldn't suffer the children for the sins of the parents". It was pretty loud and pretty persistent, so that Sunday I walked into the bishops office and asked to be released from the Relief Society Secretary position I was holding and that I wouldn't be back. Done and done. I had a really hard time with the fact that the church was so exclusive and INCLUSION is a word that has always resonated with my soul. My husband is still believing and we have had a rollercoaster of a ride navigating that, but we have learned to respect each other for our beliefs. The more we can give up being right the more we can come together and allow each other to just be. I think for about 7 years before I left I was very unhappy and it wasn't resonating with me. I would come home from church upset and in a bit of a stupor of though, so leaving has allowed me to really be free to explore all the wonderful truths that are in the world. THAT is the fun part I think." ~Rachel Thomas…
1 Ep #78: Talking to Teens w/ Andrea Riggs 51:50
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51:501 Ep #76: Empowering the Feminine w/ Dusty Jacobsen 48:00
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48:00My friend Dusty Jacobson and I discuss the topic of the divine feminine, gender equality, and empowering women as we raise our voices together in love and unity. We reflect on our former mentality, some of the things that got us fired up in the past as we began to recognize the ways in which we felt suppressed as women. "You are being presented with a choice or remain. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say "no more", until you choose change. If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside of the comfort zone, you will awaken to love, you will become, you will be. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve. Choose Love. By Creig Crippen…
1 Ep #75: Needed to Hate You to Love Me 26:21
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26:21"You promised the world and I fell for it I put you first and you adored it You set fires to my forest And you let it burn Sang off key in my chorus Cause it wasn’t yours I saw the signs and I ignored it Rose colored glasses all distorted You set fire to my purpose And I let it burn You got off on the hurtin’ When it wasn’t yours We’d always go into it blindly I needed to lose you to find me This dancing was killing me softly I needed to hate you to love me..." ~ Selena Gomez…
1 Ep #74: UPDATE! Life After Mormonism 34:49
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34:49OBEDIENCE... what does that mean? Is it better to choose obedience over knowledge? Doing what you are told regardless of what feels right to your soul? Obedience is a principle I’ve had to really question since stepping away from the Mormon church. What I’ve concluded is that obedience no longer fits into my moral code. Is teaching our children obedience to an authority figure really in their best interest? It would seem that way, yes. To abide by the laws, follow the rules, and be respectful of others property. Absolutely! But what if we take a slightly different approach to obedience and authority. What if we teach our children to trust their OWN authority. What if we empower them with the knowledge that they already know how to choose the right. That if they learn how to listen to their internal guidance system they will never be led astray. Nobody knows you better than yourself, your inner being. Often we listen to what others are telling us to do more than we listen to ourselves. Teaching our children obedience may in fact be keeping them from aligning with their own personal GPS system. Something to think about 🤔 .…
1 Ep #72: What is the Purpose of Life? 38:32
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38:32What is the purpose of life? To pass the test? To overcome the natural man? To serve others? To multiply and replenish the 🌍? 🤔 To align ourselves with God/the Universe? To strive for perfection? To discover, remember, create...??? I believe the purpose of life is to Experience, Expand, and Express! I no longer believe I’m here to pass a test in order to receive my reward in heaven such as eternal families, salvation, etc. I believe life is meant to be experienced without judgment, expressed in pure love, and inevitably we grow and expand as we open ourselves up to furthering our awareness.…
We had a few drinks and decided to record a podcast. You're welcome!
1 Ep #64: Molly Mormon to Ex Mormon Morgan and Jared Higdon 1:15:29
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1:15:29My interview with Morgan and Jared Higdon. After years of issues stacking up on Morgan's 'shelf', it suddenly came crashing down. Morgan and her husband Jared (a.k.a. Sister Jensen) started a YouTube channel called, "My Spiritual Life". In their vlogs and humorous skits, they share their perspective and problems during their transition out of the Mormon Church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). Leaving the Mormon church can feel very scary, and very isolating. Their purpose in creating their channel is so that none of you have to go it alone. Subscribe to their YouTube channel HERE Follow them on my instagram account! @MySpiritualLife1 https://www.instagram.com/myspirituallife1/…
1 Ep #63: Anger Transformed Into Fuel For Change 36:37
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36:37Emotions are just energy and all energy can be transformed. Today Sean and I talk about our anger. How we've been learning to channel that powerful energy into a constructive purpose. Why we left the church and still almost a year and a half later, "can't leave it alone". "Use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it." ~ Maya Angelou…
1 Ep #62 Post Mormon Life w/ Life Coach Amy Logan 50:22
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50:22"It was 2006 and my faith crisis was at its peak. I remember laying on my front room floor wishing the earth would swallow me up. It would be so much easier than walking this path of confusion. I knew life would never be the same again. [side note] I was born and raised mormon. I was a good mormon girl. I did all that was expected of me. I was on the path since day one. I held all the callings, kept all the rules and stayed on the very narrow path. BYU, married in the temple, children, stay at home mom, good wife, primary president, young women's president and on and on and on. You know the story, right? We all sing a very similar song. Thankfully, I stumbled along and found my way after my faith crisis. But it was really really hard. My life profoundly changed. Everything. Looking back, I am so grateful for what I went through. I am a better person because of it. It is now my life's work to help others navigate this path. I am a certified life coach and I love helping other's find their new voice. Being able to be a witness to this process is such a gift. I get to see my clients grow and expand in ways they never knew possible. Helping you find your new voice is one of my favorite things! The new you is showing and she is beautiful!" ~Amy…
1 Ep #60: Words of Comfort for Post Mormons 43:10
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43:10For those moments you feel lost, alone, depressed and scared. I want this episode to be one you can return to anytime you are triggered. One you can share with others who are fresh out and going through the most intense part of a faith transition, which in most cases, escalates into an existential crisis. Suddenly you realize everything you once THOUGHT you knew to be true, is nothing more than a made up story. Like finding out Santa Clause is not real. When you feel judged and misunderstood. When you feel like you're going crazy. When you feel you're the only one experiencing this. When you desperately want all the answers to life's questions.…
1 Ep #58: One Year Ago I Left My Religion 38:54
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38:54"Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness, will we discover the infinite power of our light." ~ Brene Brown This time last year is when I chose to take that leap into the “darkness”. On the podcast today I’m going to give a recap of what this year has been like since choosing to leave my life long religion. It all began with episode 15. I had no idea what was about to unfold. This year has been the most challenging and the most beautiful year of my life.…
1 Ep #57: Healing from Sexual Shame w/ Natasha Helfer Parker 51:20
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51:20Trigger Warning. If you've experienced sexual trauma, some of the things we discuss in this episode may trigger unwanted emotions to surface. Natasha Helfer Parker , a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist coaches Sean and I through sexual shame and trauma. Natasha has 20 years experience counseling individuals, couples, and families. Her areas of expertise includes working within the intersections of faith, life transitions and sexuality. https://www.natashaparker.org…
1 Ep #56: Unearthing My Own Pain and Shame 49:18
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49:181 Ep #55: Sean's Sex Abuse Story Behind the Story 56:10
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56:10Sean Escobar is one of the bravest men I know. He continues to amaze me with his courage and deep love for others. He is truly saving other victims and is an incredible example of how one person being brave enough to speak up can pave the way for others to do the same.
1 Ep #54: Reformed Whore No More | Sean Escobar 35:50
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35:50Sean speaks on how he operated as a reformed whore, how he became fanatical and critical for many years. Definition of a reformed whore: A person who once practiced a bad habit egregiously who now rails hypocritically against other people practicing the same bad habit. "What’s changed about the way I view people? I used to look at these 2 separate peoples posts on Facebook just to see how badly they would offend me. Maybe I wanted to judge them. I was mainly put off by their language. The use of the "F" word was as common as the word “and”. Why did I continually go back again and again to see what they were saying? Why was I so tempted to set them straight? I almost pushed send on a couple of messages where I was basically condemning them. 🤦♂️. If it was that disturbing to me, why would I go to their page? What was that magnet that was drawing me in? ..... why not ignore them. Or even just block them. Maybe I just wanted to feel that hate toward them? That’s sad. I actually did admire their realness and their commitment to not caring what others think about them." ~Sean Escobar…
1 Ep #52: Open Marriage w/ Sean Escobar 45:44
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45:441 Ep #51: How to Write a Book w/ NY Times Best Selling Author Pete Cerqua 1:12:07
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1:12:071 Ep #50: My Life as a Wannabe Balanced Mom | The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough 21:24
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21:241 Ep #49: Bridging the Gap | Things we can appreciate about religion 40:31
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40:311 Ep #48: Mindy Gledhill | Falling Down the Rabbit Hole 48:20
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48:201 Ep #47: Establishing a Morning Routine 38:36
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38:361 Ep #46: Conscious Parenting w/ Sean Escobar 34:25
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34:251 Ep #45: Sound Frequency Healing w/ Eduardo Ballesteros 42:36
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42:36Eduardo Ballesteros shares his story growing up as a Mormon then choosing a different spiritual path as he began seeking further light and healing. He is now helping others heal and grow spiritually as a Yoga Instructor and Crystal Bowl Sound Healing Practitioner. Sound healing relaxes the body, clears the subconscious, calms the mind, and activates your body's natural healing systems. Resulting in a sense of expanded awareness and wholeness. These healing vibrations revitalize the mind, body, and spirit, and leave you feeling reborn. Sound Healing influences our emotional bodies as well as our physical bodies. Different sound vibrations interact with our physical and energetic bodies in beneficial ways. Benefits: – Emotional balance – A clear mind with increased focus – Feel lighter in your body – Deeper and restful sleep – Stress relief – Harmony and flow – Deep relaxation when other meditation techniques fail…
1 Ep #44: What Do Dreams Mean? | Dream Interpretation | The Unconscious Mind 35:17
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35:171 Ep #43: Of Realizations & Resolutions 33:35
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33:35About 8 months ago I experienced an intense panic attack, I talked about it in season 1 episode 18 . This experience can also be described as the “dark night of the soul”, something I now see as the turning point and most essential part of my growth. My dark night of the soul happened due my deep desire for spiritual growth. I felt stagnant, and was craving more. Although I was taught that my religion was the one and only way to receive the fulness of blessings in this life and for eternity, I couldn’t help but wonder if I was missing something. Why did I feel so unfulfilled. As I began diving deeper into my beliefs and desire for spiritual growth my sturdy foundation began to unravel before my eyes. I suddenly realized my life long religion was not LITERALLY true. It was similar to the day my mom told me that Santa Claus wasn’t real, except 100 times more devastating. Going through this faith crisis has given me many gifts, but mostly it has given empathy and a deeper understanding of how to cope with fear and anxiety. It reminds me of the movie Small Foot . There’s a part where the curiosity of a group of Yeti’s could not be contained anymore and they HAD to know if there was anything below the clouds. They were always taught that what lies below their little “perfect” world, was the great nothingness. Most of the Yeti’s just trusted that knowledge to be true even though not a single one of them ACTUALLY knew it. So one day that little group of curious Yeti’s got up the courage to explore the “nothingness”. They attempted to safely explore with a rope attached to Migo (the main character), while the others slowly lowered him into the clouds. As they were lowering him, he just kept calling out, “I see nothing… still just clouds”. The length of the rope was beginning to run out and coincidentally they lost their grip of the rope and Migo bagan his long decent deep into the clouds. I can 100% relate to that feeling he must have felt as he was falling, not knowing if there was anything below, probably thought he might just continue falling never reaching anything at all. This is how I would describe my panic attack, or dark night of the soul. Which reminds me of something Brene Brown said, “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness, will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Eventually the Migo landed and found himself in a whole new world he never even knew existed. So my point here is that as much as we FEAR fear, it can actually be an incredible opportunity for growth and self discovery. As we experience it, we begin to learn how to work WITH it rather than against it. Another one of my favorite quotes that I mention often is “Fear is excitement without the breath”. I read that in the book called The Big Leap. It was one of the first books I read once I took that leap into the great nothingness. Or what I thought might be nothingness, but couldn’t contain the desire of my soul to explore. I had a deep yearning for further “light and knowledge” and could not satisfy my hunger for spiritual growth within the religion I was a part of. “You may lose your sense of false certainty – but you will soon realize that certainty and control are always illusions, and are also the sources of much judgment, arrogance, insensitivity, and even violence. As your certainty fades, you will find that reality (over false certainty) is a much stronger foundation upon which to build a life. You will exchange a life based on false certainty for a life based on reality.” ~ John Dehlin…
1 Ep #38: Navigating a Faith Transition 52:27
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52:27Navigating a faith transition can be extremely difficult. We've only begun this process about six months ago but have learned a great deal in the process. Sean and I will share some of the things we've experienced and what has helped us most as we transitioned out of our life long organized religion.…
1 Ep #36: High Vibe Mindset w/ Sunit Suchdev 52:11
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52:11Sunit Suchdev is a biz and mindset coach whose passion is to inspire moms to live their most high vibe life. She is a certified life coach and meditation teacher and host of “the High Vibe Life” podcast. She believes that women CAN have it all, with the proper mindset shifts, and she inspires moms to live a life where they are talking about all the amazing things they are doing..instead of everything they are not getting done. She is a proud wife, a mom to twin boys, and an essential oil and green food addict. WEBSITE: https://sunitsuchdev.com INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/sunitsuchdev/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SunitSuchdev/ Sunit offers a FREE workbook to shifting your mindset and changing your life in 30 days..with a guided shift happening a couple of times a year in a private facebook group. Access all the goodness at: https://sunitsuchdev.com/high-vibe-life-workbook/…
1 Ep #33: Can Science and Spirituality Co-Exist? 29:13
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29:13"Belief is ESSENTIAL. Science is EMPOWERING." ~Hibiscus Moon Growing up with strong religious beliefs I always thought science was "of the devil", haha. I thought that it was a prideful way of saying, we know more than God and we don't need him. Recently I've come to a better understanding around science. Knowledge is power, not in the sense of having power over others, but power over the mind. Understanding the science behind life's mysteries can empower ones soul and ability to conquer the mind in order to carry out our individual purpose. I'm appreciating the many people who have gone before us and have dedicated their lives to understanding the universe.…
1 Ep #32: UPDATE on Life Without Religion 43:17
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43:171 Ep #31: Crystal Healing | How & Why w/ Hibiscus Moon 49:26
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49:261 Ep #30: Enjoying the Journey | Feeling Discouraged 24:44
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24:441 Ep #29: Millionaire Money Management 24:32
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24:321 Ep #28: Gay & Brave w/ Christopher Steele 47:02
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47:02Christopher Steele shares his story of growing up Mormon and discovering he was gay. How he overcame the trials of being shamed and judged by the ones he loved most, to happily married to the man of his dreams. He was also featured in the documentary called Latter Day Glory , where they share stories and raise awareness of the alarming suicide rates in Utah (Mormon capitol of the world). Suicide Statistics: * 141.3% increase in Utah youth suicide rate from 2011-2015. * Totalling 150 youth age 10-17 Connect with Christopher on Facebook Donate to Latter Day Glory Sign up for my FREE Instagram Class: https://www.wannabebalanced.com/free-instagram-class…
1 Ep #27: How to MANIFEST what you want! 24:47
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24:471 Ep #26: Regret, Rejection, and Reaction 18:43
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18:431 Ep #25: Chewbacca Mom Candace Payne | Laugh it up! 27:48
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27:481 Ep #9: Discovering Your Mission and Passion 25:38
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25:381 Ep #8: How We Made Our First Million At Age 27 36:29
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36:29I’m not always balanced but I’m really good at NOT being balanced. Being a well rounded person has always been a goal of mine. I remember even as a young girl I would make “to do” lists that always incorporated mind, body, and soul. Now fast forward to my life as a mom of 4 pushing 40 I’ve realized just how far I’ve come in my quest for balance. We all “wannabe” balanced right? Being balanced is like being perfect, ain’t no mama got time for that. I’ve spent most of my motherhood years checking things off my list, as if life were a mathematical equation. Mind + Body + Soul = Balance. If I do A, B, and C, then I’ll be the perfectly balanced mom. Things never happened that way. For example I would exercise, eat a salad, say a prayer, read some scripture, spend a little time developing a talent like learning the guitar, clean the house, play with my kids, and make dinner. Day after day after day I would follow this simple mechanical formula. I thought I would feel complete, and balanced, like I was doing everything God has asked of me. Instead my checked off tasks felt completely futile and mundane. There was no passion or excitement. I needed a challenge, a purpose, a “WHY”. I didn’t realize that my quest for feeling balanced and at peace would take much more than just mindlessly doing clear-cut tasks. It would take a lot of brain power to get to where I wanted to be. I discovered the missing link. My problem was I didn’t quite grasp the “mind” part of balance. And now I believe that balance actually STARTS with the mind. A healthy mind breeds a healthy body, and spirit.…
1 Ep #6: Making The Decision To Have More Kids Or Not 26:21
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26:21Making the decision to have another baby or not to have another baby is one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. In this episode I'm sharing the story of when I got my tubes tied only to change my mind a year later. I got the tubal ligation reversal surgery and sharing my thoughts now 6 months post surgery and still not pregnant. Finding meaning and purpose in the choices and circumstances of our lives brings peace of mind. It allows us to take our MESS and turn it into our MESSAGE. "Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds meaning." -Victor Frankl TTC YouTube Playlist…
1 Ep #5: Contribution | When It's Already Been Done Before 20:45
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20:45In the past I struggled with understanding my motivation behind the things I do. Like blogging, creating YouTube videos, writing a book, ect. . I questioned my own intentions based on the opinions of others. . I felt shameful at the thought that perhaps it was a need for attention or approval. Like I had deep rooted issues and was trying to fill some sort of void. . I learned that CONTRIBUTION is a basic human need. You know the scripture, “the truth shall make you free”? This TRUTH literally set me free from my own judgments I put on myself. I realized that my motivations are healthy, pure, and completely normal. We are children of God, the creator of the universe, which means we too were designed to create and contribute to his beautiful masterpiece.…
1 Ep #4: Marriage Advice with Sean Escobar 16:20
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16:20Sean and I talk marriage and share some of our tips and things we've learned in our 13 years of marriage. Also read the blog post by Sean called Midlife Crisis www.wannabebalanced.com/2017/08/midlife-crisis/
1 Ep #2: The Effects of Social Media | The Good the Bad and the Ugly 23:54
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23:54Some say we post on social media for attention. I admit it’s partially true, but I think totally normal and not necessarily a bad thing. As long as it’s not our driving force and what makes us feel valued as individuals. God wants us to let our light shine and we can’t do that if we are hiding it. It’s like saying that someone who loves to sing and has the desire to sing on stage is totally self absorbed and narcissistic. Let your light shine on others so that we can ALL shine together. Like feeling inspired by the words of a beautiful song, be that voice singing the song loud and clear for all to hear. People will have their opinions about you, but sing your song anyway. . Writing this post reminded me of one of my very first YouTube videos I made over 8 years ago. I called it my American Idol moment. It’s a clip of when I sang to my husband on our wedding day, and the message is that I’m not a “singer” but always wanted to express my love through song on my wedding day. I’m grateful I didn’t let fear and concern for what others might think, keep me from pursuing a once in a life time chance to do this. Here’s the video if you want to watch it. youtu.be/v3T2FRXyL1g There’s a lot of talk going around about the negative effects social media can have on people, especially teenagers. Last week I opened up my social media notifications to find a whole slew of mean comments on one of my posts. There was a time when this would have sent me down a path of sadness and shame, but I’m happy to announce that it didn’t bother me... MUCH☺️. I’m still human and I have feelings but I’m finally beginning to grasp the concept that, what people say and think about you, has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. . This week I’m going into more detail about this and share some personal experiences too. I think it’s great to raise awareness about cyber bullying, comparisons, perception of perfection, and everything else that goes on when we indulge in this wonderful yet destructive way of being “social”. . In the mean time, have a great weekend, be nice to others, especially yourself, and don’t take anything personally.…
1 Ep #1: I used to think EASIER was BETTER 16:37
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16:371 Ep #21: Can I tell you something? Please don't judge me... 18:43
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18:43Through many hours of study, prayer, and reflection I’ve come to the conclusion that God is purely LOVE. He sent us on this earth to experience it all. He gave us a spirit and a brain as tools to guide us in finding our own inner peace. In my spiritual journey I’ve come to a certain awareness, an awakening of some sorts. Suddenly I’ve opened the little box I’ve placed myself in for so long. My box was comfortable enough, but I could feel deep down that I was stagnant in my growth. There was something missing, something I felt but could not quite see or comprehend. I was doing what I always did and getting what I’ve always gotten, definition of insanity . I couldn’t understand why after so many years of being “religious” that I was no better now than I was 5 years ago. In fact I felt like I was moving backwards and not forward.…
1 Ep #20: Having a Healthy Body Image and Losing Weight 37:10
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37:101 Ep #18: How I Endured A Panic Attack 15:40
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15:40Just recently I experienced the most intense fear and it lasted for 3 days. I know that doesn’t seem like a long time when you compare it to someone who has been battling depression their whole life. But when you’re experiencing such intense emotion, and it stays for days, you begin to wonder if it will ever go away. Your fear of the fear intensifies because it’s hard to take control of your mind at that point. We all know that we create our own realities and what we think and believe is truly the baseline of our reality. So even through I knew this, it was hard to find thoughts that I could believe. Saying what you want to think in order to feel better, doesn’t necessarily work unless you can believe it. And believing is the hard part. Believing requires faith and faith is hard to obtain when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.…
I think jealousy and resentment go hand in hand because first we experience jealousy, and usually it’s followed by a bit of resentment toward the person we are jealous of. Or resentment towards the life we’ve been dealt. Sometimes we want to blame others or blame our circumstances for not having everything we desire to have. Junior high and high school is when I can remember experiencing the most jealousy. Over the years I’ve learned how to manage my thoughts enough to work my way out of the emotion when ever it comes up. And believe me, it still comes up. There was a time when I even had to limit the time I spent on social media because I noticed that I was always left with feelings of jealousy. Seeing pictures of other people attending an awesome party that I wasn’t invited to or noticing how influential another blogger is and wondering why I’m not gaining the same amount of traction. Social media is a blessing and a curse. The answer is not to abandon social media all together, maybe it’s necessary for a time, but ultimately I think the answer is to learn the lesson. How can we overcome our envious nature? How can we stay in a place of peace and love for everyone? That is the big question. I’ve found plenty of tips and advice on the matter but I tell yah, it’s no easy task. It’s human nature to want what others have. We recognize it in our own children as early as age two. They are happily playing with a particular toy until brother walks in with a different toy. Suddenly they must have THAT toy!!! The one they have just doesn’t seem as cool anymore. The psychology around it is that when someone else has something, it only SEEMS to be better than what we have because we don’t have it. The grass always seems greener until we get there and we realize it’s really not greener, just LOOKS greener from a distance. I feel this happens to me a lot in business and blogging. I have big goals and constantly striving to reach new heights. But there is always someone that has achieved more, or seems to be doing it better than me. “In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.” ~Albert Schweitzer In this episode I mention a YouTube video I made sharing my story, geared towards teenage girls. Check it out HERE .…
The reason our hearts become blocked is due to past experiences that caused us to feel pain, sadness, heartache, anger, ect. The heart becomes blocked as a result of fear. Fear is the root of it all. Instead of simply being an observer of our lives, we try to control it out of fear. Fear that we might suffer the same thing again. Our minds remember the pain and suffering, and the heart takes on the symptoms caused by fear.…
One thing I think has helped us most in our marriage and we touched on this a little in one of our previous episodes is acceptance. If you’re familiar with what Jody Moore teaches, you’ve probably heard her talk about the “manual”. She describes the manual as a set of beliefs, rules and expectations we bring into our marriages. The manuals are developed as a result of our upbringing, and the examples of relationships we are exposed to growing up. It’s what we believe a spouse is “supposed” to be instead of accepting each other exactly the way they are. We want to be unapologetically real about what we think, authentic and open about mistakes we’ve made and how we’ve learned from them. We’re getting better at allowing one another to be who we want to be instead of trying to fit each other into a mold. It took Sean over 10 years to finally be open about the fact that he was married before me. Last summer we did a YouTube video about this. I think this was a huge step toward acceptance. Not only are we trying to accept one another, but we are also trying to accept ourselves and everything about what has made us who we are today. Growing up with tremendous disfunction within my home I experienced a lot of shame. And one thing I learned that set me free from the shame is to be open about things. The more I shared what my life was REALLY like, the more I felt free from the bondage of shame. As I’ve studied shame a little more I’ve learned that shame only grows and triggers more shameful actions when you hide things. Brene Brown says that shame only needs three things to grow. Secrecy, silence, and judgement. So by learning this at such a young age, I’ve become an extremely open person when it comes to my life. I’m not afraid to share how crazy I am. Which reminds me, The other day I sent out an email to all the ladies on my email list. I was revisiting some of the content Sean and I have shared on marriage in the past. In the same sentence I was being open about the fact that I may or may not have scratched Sean once in a moment of rage. I wasn’t saying I was proud of it, only that I’m human and have weaknesses, but continue to learn and grow from each experience. I had an unexpected response from one of my subscribers. She was absolutely disgusted with my actions and could NOT believe someone as crazy as me would dare give marriage advice. I honestly think we learn the most from the crazies. Seriously, they’ve been to the dark side and back. I’m constantly reading books and listening to Podcasts by people who were once drug addicts, or struggled with severe depression, or were even homeless at one point. Those are the people who truly inspire me. People who can overcome such extreme circumstances and struggles. It’s amazing to me when you witness the growth and real change of another person. Not only does it allow others to say “me too” but it gives them a glimpse into what is possible for even the craziest of people.…
1 Ep #12: When Other People Don't Support You 18:04
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18:04Today we wanted to share a little inside scoop of what life is like for us as members of the LDS church. We plan to get really honest and open about some of the things we’ve struggled with over the years and also what we’ve gained by being members of this church. I understand that not all of you are LDS but perhaps you’re just curious about what life REALLY looks as members of a church that once practiced polygamy. Warning, this episode might stir up a bit of controversy, which as members of this church we are quite used to. Our intensions are in no may geared to bashing the church or our fellow members, but again, we plan to get really honest. Talk about some of the changes the church has made recently, and how we feel about the future of the mormon church.…
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