3 Ways to Stop People From Venting (Nicely)

The Carvery with Alex Dorr

We dove deep on venting and whether it is helpful or not in the workplace.

As we discussed, an attendee in one of my sessions wanted to know our best ways to stop the venting, but to do it nicely where it doesn't hurt the person's feelings AND doesn't look like you are taking the side of the other person, group or department involved. Here are my 3 best suggestions for that situation!

This is always a sensitive subject in most workplaces because many have been allowed to vent or they may be chronic venters at their organization.

In fact, some egos get a little defensive when we share the research that venting is just the ego's way of avoiding self-reflection and sharing it's version of the story. That act of avoiding self-reflection is what most people don't realize is all that is keeping the ego alive in that moment. One great coaching question or moment in "What could I do to help?" or "What do I actually know for sure?" just might put the ego that is complaining and venting to sleep and get us accountable.

Why venting feels good in the moment, I promise you accountability, toggle-switching to your high-self and having impact in the situation feels WAAAY better.

So for those that want to carve away the amount of time and energy you spend each week venting or listening to those who are venting. This is the episode for you!

My 3 best ways to free up time, hear less complaining and all doing so in the most respectful way possible.

Can't wait to hear how this works for you!

So if you are someone wondering:

• How do I stop someone from venting?
• Is venting good for me?
• Does everyone need time to vent?
• Am I allowed to share feelings at work?
• Nice ways to deal with venting
• How to stop people from complaining

Or anything along those lines - this podcast will get you started!

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Let's keep ditching the drama.