E. 8 Deconstructing New Years Resolutions

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Hello So Deep Peeps!

Welcome to That’s So Deep. This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are: DECONSTRUCTING NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS!

Some deep things we cover:

1. Life is hard enough! Let’s not make it harder with well intentioned but unrealistic resolutions! Phyllis and Julie share some thoughts on reimagining the new year and setting us up for success.
2. Go with the natural rhythms of life: Don’t go jogging in the snow if you live in the Midwest! Maybe it’s time to hibernate and reflect.
3. Identifying our CORE VALUES and how they align with our goals.
4. Types of Resolutions: 1) Results 2) Habits 3) Holistic 4) Cessation
5. Abundance Mindset vs. Scarcity Mindset: How to let go of things to make space for what matters to us most.
6. Fresh Start Effect: It’s okay to restart as many times as you need.
7. Set Mini Goals: Focus on the next step, not the whole mountain!
8. Tweak your goals until you’re excited: Make it fun!
9. Threat goals vs. Challenge goals: Phyllis shares some stories about her demotivational parenting threats.
10. Accountability: Write your goals down or sign a social contract with a friend. Scary but effective!

Take-aways:

This week, let’s figure out our CORE VALUES and align them with our intentions and goals. Time to bust out the journal or go for a reflective walk!

1. Reflect upon times you felt the most joyful, alive and present. What were you doing? What do you think was the core value?
2. Make a list of the things you value most (core values).
3. Make some mini goals or intentions for yourself this year.
4. Cross check with your core values. See if they align. If they do, great! If they don’t, toss ‘em!
5. Tweak your goals until they feel exciting and fun!
6. Revisit and restart as many times as you need!

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Phyllis & Julie

Resources and articles we referenced in the episode:

1. 004 SP Why Your New Year's Resolutions Fail (and How You Can Change the Pattern) - The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health
2. 276 - 4 Psychology Hacks to Help You Stick to Your Goals - The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health
3. Simply and Fiercely: https://www.simplyfiercely.com/blog/