211: Sexual Dry Spells: When Safety Kills Passion

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

The holidays are coming up, and this is often a stressful time for a lot of couples.

The stress and busyness can often lead couples to fall into dry spells in their sex life. And Emily and I are not immune to those dry spells either. So whether you're in a dry spell or looking to avoid one, this episode is for you! We're going to cover practical ways to keep your marriage and sex life going strong through all the seasons of life.

Resources:

Intimately Us App

FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less

2025 Couples Retreat

You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Episode highlights:

4:37: Seeing the Patterns in Your Relationship

6:13: Calm the heck down

7:18: Notice emotions and how they present in your body

7:40: The measure of your marriage isn't how you handle yourself when things are going well, but when life is hard

9:00: Separate the act of sex from the meanings attached to it.

11:04: When we look to our spouse, as a reason behind the dry spell, it opens you up to a potential of self-deception

12:25: Routine kills passion

14:34: Need both love and desire

17:37: Offer good sex

19:07: Questions to ask yourself and thoughts to consider

21:55: "But my spouse doesn't want to change"