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Why do our kids have tantrums? What is a tantrum really? How do we help our kids when they're tantruming? That's what we're getting into today. Because raising humans and tantrums seem to go hand in hand. So let's understand the outburst a bit more so we can help them navigate the storm.

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Ep #139 The Acceptance Shift Model 31:19

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Today, we're diving into something that's been buzzing in my mind lately—what I call The Acceptance Shift Model . This isn’t just a concept I teach; it’s something I’ve lived through in my own parenting journey. And let me tell you—it changes everything. Here’s the truth bomb: When we argue against reality, we lose 100% of the time. Acceptance gets a bad rap. A lot of us think it means giving up, being passive, or saying, “Sure, just keep tantruming forever.” But nope. That’s not it at all. True acceptance is one of the most active, intentional shifts we can make as parents. In this episode, I share: A dinner-date disaster turned transformational moment (yes, I literally covered my mouth mid-convo 😅) How acceptance rewires your brain and calms your nervous system so you can actually think clearly again Why the “A” in my PEACE Process (Allow/Accept) is the hardest—but most transformative—step What really happens when we feel our emotions (instead of overthinking them) Stories from Viktor Frankl, Nelson Mandela, and Stephen Hawking that show what powerful acceptance can look like in the most extreme human conditions I’m also giving you six practical steps you can start using today to build your “acceptance muscle.” Think of it like emotional strength training—the more you practice, the more powerful your calm becomes. Yes, acceptance takes effort—sometimes messy, soul-searching, deep-breathing effort. But it’s the kind of effort that creates real change: ✨ More connection. ✨ Less chaos. ✨ A deeper relationship with your child—and yourself. Remember : You already have everything you need inside you. This work is just peeling back the layers so you can show up as the calm, clear, connected parent you truly are. Until next time, keep connecting 💛 —Andee P.S. If you’ve ever preferred shocking yourself with electricity over sitting quietly with your feelings (yes, that’s a real study!), you are exactly who this episode is for. 😉 REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #138 The Reboot: 2 days. 1 plan. 0 judgment = transformation 22:14

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From desperate bathroom floor journaling to parenting transformation - this is the system that saved my sanity... So here's the scene: Me, sliding down my bathroom door, desperately clutching a journal, trying not to ugly-cry because bedtime felt like scaling Mount Everest in flip-flops. Been there? That rock-bottom moment? TOTAL GAME-CHANGER. I started asking myself three stupidly simple questions: What worked today? (took me like 20 minutes to find ANYTHING 🙈) What didn't work? (umm, where to start?!) What's ONE thing I can do differently tomorrow? These questions became my daily "reboot" ritual. Then, weekly check-ins. Then SEASONAL resets. And slowly things began to shift for me. THE BIG NEWS I'M LITERALLY BURSTING TO SHARE! I'm hosting my first-ever public QUARTERLY REBOOT WORKSHOP! April 10-11, noon Eastern Two days that will transform your next 90 days Just $7 for non-League members (I know, that's basically one fancy coffee... my husband thinks I'm crazy but THIS IS MY MISSION!) What We're Doing Together: Day 1: REFLECT - We'll dive deep into what's working, what's not, and why. We'll identify your personal parenting triggers and do this incredible exercise I call "Reverse Engineering Your Reactions" Day 2: RESET & RISE - I'll help you set your 90-day parenting vision (that actually FEELS possible), and create your personalized RISE UP plan that won't overwhelm you! Plus, you'll get my "Parenting Pivot Protocol" - because let's be real, things get messy and we need a backup plan for when life throws curveballs at our beautiful intentions. Imagine breaking your year into 90-day chunks. It's like getting FOUR FRESH STARTS every single year! Who doesn't need that in parenthood?! If you're in League already, you're automatically IN (yay you!). If not, join me at https://cmp.works/3ea714 Because you don't need to wait until January 1st to become the parent you want to be. You just need 90 days and someone who's been there (🙋‍♀️) to show you how. Can't WAIT to reboot with you! xo, Andee REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #137 The Three Mistakes That Destroy Connection: Stop Should-ing Your Kids 54:00

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I recorded this as part of a five-day training I did for my League of Extraordinarily Connected Parents (which, by the way, is the BEST group of humans ever), and halfway through planning it, I thought, "Wait! EVERYONE needs to hear this!" What You're About to Discover: I'm spilling ALL the tea about the three MASSIVE mistakes I used to make as a parent (and sometimes still catch myself making because, hello, I'm human!). These are the sneaky little thought patterns that absolutely DESTROY our connection with our kids: The "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" Complex – Oh my goodness, I was QUEEN of this one! That mental loop of "they should have known better" or "they could have done this differently" that runs through our heads? It triggers our kids' nervous systems INSTANTLY. I share a story about getting pulled over by a police officer who taught me the most incredible lesson about setting boundaries without shame. Game. Changer. The "Please Just Listen!" Desperate Energy – Remember when my kids were little and I'd literally cross my fingers hoping they'd cooperate that day? That graspy, needy energy is REPELLING our kids! I share this wild story about a street performer who attracted HUNDREDS of people without begging anyone to listen. What if we could parent like THAT? The "I Can't Figure This Out" Self-Doubt Spiral – This one hits deep. That voice that says it's too late, we're not patient enough, we can't change? It's a LIE. I unpacked what true self-confidence really means (hint: it's not what you think!). Here's the crazy part – I didn't even realize how these thought patterns were RUNNING MY LIFE as a parent until I started questioning them. Our thoughts create our emotions, which fuel our actions... and then we wonder why we keep getting the same frustrating results! I challenge you to ask yourself: Where am I "shoulding" my kids today? Where am I being graspy and desperate for cooperation? Where do I doubt my ability to change? Connection over correction, always. ❤️ Let's do this parenting thing differently, Andee REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #136 When Your Child Says 'I Hate You': The Surprising Path to Deeper Connection 39:37

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So you know that gut-punch feeling when someone says they don't like you? Or when your sweet little angel screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum? Talk about emotional whiplash! Today I'm diving into this ultra-relatable parenting challenge in this episode, and trust me - it's the pep talk we all desperately need. What You'll Discover in This Episode Why someone saying they hate you is actually NEUTRAL until you decide what it means (mind=officially blown, right?!) The exact thought patterns that turn your kid's tantrum words into your emotional meltdown (spoiler: we're doing it to ourselves, guys!) My embarrassingly real story about former friends who—quite literally—couldn't stand me anymore (and how it transformed me from a people-pleasing pretzel into the parent I am today) The STEER method that will SAVE YOUR SANITY the next time your sweet angel looks you dead in the eyes and says they wish they had a different mom (been there, bought the t-shirt!) Episode Highlights [00:02:30] My humbling journey through friendship breakups and what they taught me about unconditional love (it was the BEST awful experience of my life!) [00:08:45] The life-changing realization: someone saying "I hate you" is just... words. That's it! (Mind. Blown.) [00:13:20] Why your kids are 100% allowed to have their opinions about your parenting—even when those opinions make you want to hide in the pantry with chocolate [00:17:40] How to use STEAR when your 8-year-old is staging a full rebellion against bedtime (complete with dramatic declarations about your parenting abilities!) [00:22:15] The secret science of mirror neurons and why you FEEL your kid's emotions (but don't actually have to absorb them—hallelujah!) [00:27:50] The counterintuitive trick: feeling COMPASSION for your tiny dictator when they're mid-meltdown (sounds impossible—I promise it's not!) [00:32:10] The ultimate parenting superpower: being totally okay when your decisions make your kids temporarily despise you Connect Method Parenting FTW When your child screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum, it's not actually about you. It's about THEM and their big feelings that they don't know how to handle yet. But here's the magic: when you stay regulated instead of diving into the emotional dumpster fire with them, you're teaching them something INCREDIBLE about emotional regulation. Remember: The moments when your child likes you least are often the moments they NEED you most! ❤️ 💡 Truth Bomb : "The less you fear being disliked, the more freely you'll show up as your best self, which will change the way you parent and the way you're able to show up for your child when they're completely dysregulated." I want to hear from YOU! DM on IG (@connectmethodparenting) and tell me about your "I hate you" moments—how did you handle it? What worked? Sending you mountains of love and patience, Andee REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #135 The Lovability Principle: Why You’re Worthy Without Conditions 35:49

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Ever catch yourself thinking about what LOVE really means in our parenting journey? Because WOW - I had so many thoughts swirling around this week that I just HAD to share with you all! In this episode, I'm diving DEEP into unconditional love and lovability (and trust me, this one's a game-changer for both you AND your kiddos). What We're Unpacking Today: Why love is ALWAYS the best option (and feels SO much better than frustration!) The mind-blowing truth: your lovability is ABSOLUTE (not dependent on anyone else!) My step-by-step framework for having those tricky conversations without everyone melting down The surprising connection between loving others unconditionally and finally loving YOURSELF Why it's not our children's job to make us feel good (this one hit me like a ton of bricks when I first realized it!) My Favorite Moment From This Episode: "If I have to choose between feeling frustrated or loving, loving feels SO much better. Learning how to choose that intentionally is everything." Remember when I talked about that lightbulb moment I had lying in bed? "You can either be right or you can love. You really can't do both right now." That changed EVERYTHING for me! The Connect Method Way: Drop into curiosity instead of criticism (game-changer!) Focus on understanding, not being right Create safety in YOUR nervous system first Get clear on just the facts everyone can agree on Identify what you're both making those facts mean Brainstorm solutions together without rehashing the problem Here's the beautiful truth: Your relationship with your child is simply your thoughts about them. That's it! And YOU get to choose those thoughts! How powerful is that?! 💪 Remember, love is a SKILL we're developing. It takes practice, and that's exactly what we're here for. Can't wait to hear how this resonates with you! Love and connection, Andee 💕 PS - If something from today's episode sparked something for you, use that as your focus for the week ahead. Small shifts create BIG ripples! REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #134 Encountering Futility: Why It’s Life-Changing (Even If It Sounds Depressing!) 55:46

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So today's episode is ALL about a concept that might sound super depressing at first glance, but is actually one of the most powerful tools we have for emotional growth. I'm talking about encountering futility - yep, that word you probably haven't tossed around since your college philosophy class (if ever)! What Is Futility Anyway? 🤔 Futility is when we're up against something we literally CANNOT change. You know that feeling of figuratively banging your head against the wall? That's it! Think: Your toddler flailing on the floor because you won't give them a cookie Your teenager giving you death glares because you set a phone curfew Not making the team or getting invited to the party Missing an important call (more on my personal meltdown about this later!) The word actually comes from Latin "futilis" meaning leaky, vain, or useless - like a vessel that can't hold water. How perfect is that? Because when we encounter futility, we often "leak" tears as we process those emotions! Why Encountering Futility Is Actually AMAZING ✨ Here's the wild part - every time we go up against something we cannot change, we're given this incredible opportunity for growth. When we allow ourselves to feel the emotions instead of fighting them, our brains literally change! We become more emotionally mature. The science shows that when we go from "mad to sad" (Dr. Neufeld's brilliant phrase), our nervous system logs this experience as safe, and our emotional capacity increases. It happens spontaneously - we don't have to consciously try to grow emotionally. It just happens when we create the right conditions! The Mad-to-Sad Journey 🛣️ The magical transformation happens when we: Stop resisting or fighting against the unchangeable situation Allow ourselves to feel the disappointment/sadness/grief Surrender to what is And guess what? Those tears of sadness are actually different chemically from angry tears - they contain stress hormones that we're literally crying out of our bodies! (How cool is THAT?!) My Personal Futility Meltdown in New Zealand 😭 I had this intense experience last month in New Zealand. My son Cooper is living in Chile having some really challenging experiences, and we had this important scheduled call. But because of the time difference, travel, and my notifications being off, I MISSED IT. I completely lost it when I realized I wouldn't be able to talk to him for another week. I sobbed for hours (yes, HOURS) on the couch, surrendering to this situation I couldn't change. And then something magical happened - I felt this incredible shift inside me. The resilience that followed was palpable. I actually wrote a poem about the experience (which I shared in the episode - it's not winning any awards but it captures the journey!). How to Create Your Own Futility Encounters 🗓️ You don't have to wait for life to throw futility your way - you can actually schedule these encounters! Remember that beautiful scene from "Shrinking" where Jimmy and Alice sit on a park bench with headphones, listening to music and crying together over their loss? THAT'S encountering futility intentionally! Here's your homework this week: Prepare a "futility playlist" - songs that bring up emotions for you (mine is Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto No. 2) Find movies that reliably make you cry (I love "About Time" - watch it every year!) When you feel emotions building up, schedule time to feel them completely Remember This Truth 💫 Don't try to teach your kids all of this until you know it yours REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #133 The Baby Powder Blizzard: How I Stopped Yelling and Started Connecting 44:52

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Remember my infamous "baby powder blizzard of 2007"? That moment when my toddlers created what felt like the apocalypse in our playroom, and somehow—miraculously—I didn't lose my mind? That was my pivot point, and I'm sharing exactly how you can create these pivots in your own parenting journey. What You'll Learn: Why the traditional "correction" approach to parenting backfires (even positive rewards can dampen intrinsic motivation!) The mindset shift from being a "sculptor" of your children to being their "gardener" My 5-step process to transform your parenting style and create lasting connection How to understand your own mind and identify the thought patterns sabotaging your parenting The science behind why consequences don't work (and what actually does) REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #132 Regret Growth 29:22

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In this episode, we're exploring the concept of "Regret Growth" - a transformative approach to handling those moments of parental regret that so many of us experience. Key Takeaways: Regret Growth vs. Regret Spiral : Discover the crucial difference between using regret as a catalyst for positive change versus getting trapped in cycles of shame and self-judgment Why most regret is unproductive : Learn why dwelling on past mistakes rarely leads to meaningful growth and often keeps us stuck The three-step Regret Growth cycle : Awareness : Acknowledging the ping of regret without judgment Acceptance : Understanding you were doing your best with what you had in that moment Accountability : Taking responsibility and creating a plan to do better next time The Regret Forecast : A powerful exercise to imagine what you might regret 10 years from now, helping you prioritize what truly matters today Why growth doesn't come from guilt : Understanding that beating yourself up over past parenting moments doesn't lead to positive change Powerful Quotes: "A man is not old until regret takes the place of dreams." - John Barry Moore "Growth doesn't come from guilt. It comes from choosing to move forward with intention." "Let your past mistakes inform you of how to do better. But never let your past mistakes define you." This episode is perfect for any parent who has ever found themselves ruminating over a difficult moment with their child, wishing they could go back and handle it differently. Turn those moments of regret into opportunities for profound personal growth! REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #131 The Failure Feedback Loop: How to Parent Smarter, Not Stricter 27:56

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In this juicy episode, I am spilling ALL the tea about why failure isn't just normal—it's your secret parenting superpower! 💪 Think about it: Michael Jordan missed 9,000+ shots and Ed Sheeran was once a super awkward teen musician (he showed the receipts and everything!). Their "secret"? They didn't avoid failure—they COLLECTED it like badges of honor! I'm breaking down my game-changing "Five E's" formula that transforms those epic parenting face-plants into golden growth opportunities: • Energy (showing up 100%) • Effort (going all-in) • Ending power (sticking through the hard stuff) • Evaluation (learning from every no) • Emotional presence (bringing your whole self) And I share the absolutely LIFE-CHANGING advice I gave my son while he's out there getting doors slammed in his face selling pest control. Turns out, every "no" is just collecting evidence that you're getting closer to your "yes"! (Mind = blown, right?!) So next time your toddler throws spaghetti across the room or your teen gives you The Eye Roll™, don't beat yourself up! You're not failing at parenting—you're actually building your parenting muscles through productive failure. Ready to start collecting productive failures? I dare you to track 100 this month! (And yes, small ones totally count!) Let's ditch the perfectionist thinking and get EXCITED about our fails, friend. Because that's where the magic happens! ✨ REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #130 The Awareness, Allowing, Wisdom Process 1:06:42

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Hey there, amazing parents!!! Today's episode is ALL about the transformative power of the awareness, allowing, and wisdom process. I'm walking you through my signature STEAR and PEACE processes that have helped thousands of parents shift from correction-based to connection-based parenting. It's not about being perfect—it's about being present and compassionate with yourself first. Episode Highlights: STEAR Recap : How our thoughts about situations create our emotions, actions, and ultimately our results The Power of Awareness : Why looking at your thoughts is the essential first step to changing anything in your life The Art of Allowing : Why most of us rush to change our thoughts before we've fully allowed and processed our emotions Wisdom-Based Change : How to make changes from a place of peace rather than panic The Compassionate Witness : Becoming the observer of your thoughts instead of being identified with them Remember, lovelies: you can't skip the ALLOW step! That's where all the magic happens. And yes, it's the hardest part because it means FEELING those uncomfortable emotions. But trust me—I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt—it's worth it. Sending you so much love and support on your parenting journey! ✨ xoAndee REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #129 Parenting: The Job Where Everyone Thinks You're Doing It Wrong 45:40

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Let's get real for a hot second—ever feel like parenting is just one giant tug-of-war? (And somehow you're ALWAYS the one about to face-plant into the mud puddle, am I right?!) In today's episode, I'm diving into my "Dream Relationship Strategy" – the exact framework I've used to transform my relationships with my kids (including my son who's turning 24 this year—which is WILD because I'm pretty sure I'm still 24 myself! 🤪). What You'll Learn: Why your brain is literally the command center of your parenting (yes, everything starts RIGHT there!) How those sneaky thoughts like "nothing will ever get better" are totally sabotaging your connection with your kids The mind-blowing reframe that turns "my kid is SO frustrating" into "my child is doing the hard work of growing up" (game-changer alert! 🚨) Why Indigenous cultures have been nailing this whole parenting thing while many of us are still struggling with outdated strategies My Favorite Quotes From This Episode: "All of those external tools that I depended on for years, it was better for me to parent without them." "My child is doing the hard work of growing up. I'm honored to be here to help." "Connection teaches more than consequences." Your Homework Assignment (because growth doesn't happen by accident!): Identify one sticky situation where your relationship feels strained Write down ALL your thoughts about it (yes, even the judgmental ones we all have!) Thank your nervous system for trying to protect you (because even those triggered reactions are trying to help!) Create new, empowering thoughts to replace the draining ones Practice visualizing yourself believing these new thoughts Remember: You're not just studying for a test here—you're rehearsing for the role of a lifetime as the parent your kids actually WANT in their corner! Want to become the parent your kids call when they're 25 with GOOD news, not just when their car breaks down? This episode is your roadmap! REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #128 Why 'BEING' Trumps 'Doing' in Parenting (And Most Parents Get This Backwards) 1:04:36

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So there I was, wide awake at 5:15 AM in FREAKING NEW ZEALAND (yes, we're still traveling—more on that later!) with this message practically BURSTING out of me. My body was like, "Andee, get up RIGHT NOW and talk to your people!" So here I am, messy bun and all, coming in hot with some truth bombs about parenting that literally changed my entire life. The Big Juicy Secret I Can't Keep Anymore: Who you're BEING matters waaaaay more than what you're DOING as a parent. Think about it—you could say "time to wake up" with the exact same words but completely different energy: Option A: Frazzled, irritated, rushing (we've ALL been there) Option B: Grounded, present, compassionate Same words, totally different result! And guess what? Your kids have these amazing things called mirror neurons that pick up your emotional vibe INSTANTLY. They're like little emotional WiFi receivers! 📡 Real Talk Moment: Remember when I was first shifting my parenting and thinking, "Why didn't that work? I said the words in a calm voice!" Meanwhile, I was RAGING inside but kept my tone even. Newsflash: the emotions behind our words don't lie, people! The Ultimate Parenting Glow-Up: I'm spilling all my favorite insights from this amazing book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin: They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves (but they DO feel their feelings—big difference!) They don't give their power away (your teenager's eye roll doesn't control your mood, I promise!) They don't shy away from change (hello, adapting to each new stage of childhood!) ...and there's so much more goodness in the episode! The Story That Still Makes Me Tear Up: So picture little Andee, maybe 10 years old, in our giant brown 80s Suburban (oldest of SEVEN kids, remember?). I accidentally stepped right into one of the homemade pies my mom had made for the school fall festival. 🥧👟 I was MORTIFIED, waiting for the judgment hammer to fall. But my amazing mom just looked at me and said, "It's fine, it's totally fine," and drove on minus one pie. No big deal. THAT, my friends, is someone whose BEING and DOING are perfectly aligned. (Thanks, Mom! 💕) Your Homework (Because I Care): Stop asking "What do I DO when my kid does XYZ?" and start asking "Who do I want to BE when my kid does XYZ?" Game. Changer. Your kids don't need perfect—they need YOU in all your beautiful, messy, authentic glory. (And honestly? That's way more interesting anyway!) Sending buckets of love from New Zealand (only a week and a half left—we're soaking up every second!), Andee 💫 P.S. If you feel like you're failing sometimes, welcome to the club! The people who succeed aren't the ones who never fail—they're the ones who refuse to let failure be the end of their story. Keep going! P.P.S. I'm totally planning a whole episode on the journey of this trip and how it relates to parenting. Stay tuned! 🌏✈️ REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #127 Relationships 2.0: Why Being Right is Overrated 45:40

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Okay, can we talk about something that's been LIVING in my brain lately? You know that feeling when you're absolutely POSITIVE you need to win an argument with your kiddo... and then suddenly realize that winning might actually be losing? Yeah, THAT. 🤯 In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's about to change your whole parenting game: what if I told you that being right isn't actually the goal? (I know, I know - stay with me here!) Here's what we're unpacking together: 🎯 The mind-blowing truth about relationships (spoiler alert: they're not what you think!) ✨ Why your relationship with your child isn't actually about their behavior (say what now?) 🧠 The secret sauce to difficult conversations that'll make you feel like a connection ninja 💫 My P.E.A.C.E. method that's about to become your new best friend 🔮 A late-night revelation that changed everything (because apparently, wisdom hits different at 2 AM!) Picture this: You're in the middle of a heated moment with your child CEO (aka your strong-willed child) , and instead of trying to prove your point, you've got this magical new way of handling things that actually WORKS. Sounds dreamy, right? That's exactly what we're diving into! Plus, I'm sharing my step-by-step guide to: - Dropping the right/wrong game (because honestly, who needs that drama?) - Listening like a fascinated scientist (way more fun than it sounds!) - Using facts as your secret weapon (they're like relationship Switzerland - totally neutral!) - Turning fear into your superpower (plot twist you didn't see coming!) Here's the thing, beautiful humans: The moment I stopped trying to win at parenting was the moment everything started shifting. And I mean EVERYTHING. REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #126 The Hard Day Hypothesis 47:03

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Today's episode is basically what happened when years of parenting, and one very persistent thought about "hard days" collided into what might be one of the most important perspective shifts I've ever had. Grab your favorite drink and let's dive into this game-changing conversation! 🌟 In this episode, I'm diving deep into: Why the most successful parents (and people) are actually the ones most willing to feel negative emotions (mind-blown yet?) The shocking revelation about why there's actually no such thing as a "hard day" (stick with me on this one!) My confession about writing my book and why it took THREE WHOLE YEARS (grammar is still not my bestie, y'all) A totally new way to think about challenges that will revolutionize your parenting journey Real talk: I share some stories about my own journey, including that time I thought going to the store with one kid was THE HARDEST THING EVER (oh, sweet past Andee... just wait until you have six! 😂). My absolute favorite nugget from this episode? "The most successful people are the ones who are most willing to feel negative emotions." Let that sink in for a minute. 🤯 Whether you're currently: Dealing with a Sharpie artist who decided your walls needed "updating" Wondering if your teenager's eye-rolling could qualify as an Olympic sport Just trying to figure out why adulting feels so... adult-y This episode is your permission slip to see it all differently. Because maybe, just maybe, those "hard" days are actually just level-up opportunities in disguise! REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #125 The Off-Track Behavior Masterclass: Because Timeouts Aren't Working and Oreos Aren't a Solution 45:13

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If you've ever found yourself googling "Is it normal for kids to fight 37 times before noon?" or "How to stop yelling when everything is LITERALLY ON FIRE" – I just dropped the survival guide we've all been desperately needing with this episode! What I'm Sharing In This Episode In this workshop (which was SO good I just HAD to share it on the podcast!), I'm walking you through: 🧠 The Off-Track Behavior Truth : I'm redefining what's actually happening when kids fight, ignore you, or melt down (hint: it's not them being jerks on purpose, I promise!) 😤 The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain : Why you go from "they're fighting again" to completely losing it in 2.5 seconds (and how to interrupt that pattern!) 🗺️ Your Personal Recipe Card : My step-by-step method for creating YOUR personalized emergency plan for those moments when you want to scream into a pillow. ⚡ The Connection Secret : How I learned to stay emotionally connected when every fiber of my being wanted to run away or shut down My Favorite Ah-Ha Moments To Listen For: "Off track behavior is when the kids are not able to stay within the boundaries we've established together. It's an indicator that the kids are struggling and need help." (This definition CHANGED MY LIFE, y'all. I used to think my kids were just being difficult on purpose!) "Your thoughts about them will be dependent on your expectations of them and how well they meet those expectations." (Ouch. Fifteen years ago this one hit me right in the parenting feels. But once I got it? GAME. CHANGER.) The Too-Exhausted-To-Listen-To-It-All Version: Your kids' behavior = information about what's happening inside them (not a personal attack on you!) Your thoughts create your reactions (and you can actually choose different thoughts!) Write down your personal off-track recipe on an actual card so your brain doesn't short-circuit next time Be the calm you want to see (even if you have to fake it till you make it at first!) Be patient with yourself because this parenting gig is HARD and we're all figuring it out as we go xoxoAndee ❤️❤️ P.P.S. In this episode, I talk about how I had to drive through a BLIZZARD to deliver this workshop. That's how important I think this stuff is. So if you're struggling, please know you're not alone – and there's a way through! (And maybe leave a review if this episode was helpful. It makes my day AND helps other parents find us!) REBOOT --> https://cmp.works/3ea714 April 10 & 11 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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