Why We Should Never Settle For "Mr. Unavailable's" With Baggage Reclaim Founder, Author, And Podcaster Natalie Lue
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Today, we have the MOST special guest—this woman is my HERO, and her books changed my life. Her name is Natalie Lue; she's a podcaster, speaker, artist, and writer of well-known books such as Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, a book that means so much to me I can basically recite it. Like so many women, Natalie had a litany of problems that included bad boundaries, toxic relationships, and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men. Until everything changed in 2005, when a crippling disease and the breakup from a barely-there guy triggered an awakening, igniting the desire to fight back. She wrote down her experiences and documented her journey, which led to self-publishing five best-selling books and creating Baggage Reclaim, including online courses, over 16,000 blog entries, and a podcast that has helped millions of women become "reclaimers" in over 140 countries. Through it all, her mission remains the same: if she can help even one person avoid what she went through and support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling "not good enough," she's making the world a better place.
Natalie Lue is a thought leader in relationships. Her no-nonsense, compassionate, and humorous take has garnered a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC, to name a few. She's the author of Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, which has sold 140K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 2 million downloads. Harper Horizon is publishing her next book, The Joy of Saying No, in October 2022. Aside from her self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim, she is also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog Bambino Goodies. She's based in London with her husband, two daughters, and crazy cockerpoo. She left advertising to become a full-time blogger for the past 13.5 years. She's the former relationship columnist for In The Moment Magazine and has spoken worldwide at numerous conferences. Her current work centers around people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity.
Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue cover a lot of ground. In my opinion, Natalie is a brilliant writer who channeled this epic book and had the unique and perfect skill set to put it all together. If you struggle to date or think something is wrong with you, unworthy or not good enough, this episode will be a game-changer. Topics include:
Why Natalie has a knack for calling a spade a spade, tune into why she's always 100 percent right when it comes to problems within relationships.
You're not crazy or losing your mind, why it's crazy-making dealing with a "Mr. Unavailable".
Why Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the the gift that keeps on giving.
Why Natalie's books speak to the collective pain women, go through.
Why women are socialized and conditioned to get the short end of the stick when it comes to toxic relationships.
Why this is not the "Last Chance Saloon" and why we should never settle!
What a relationship looks like with a "Mr. Unavailable", spoiler alert it's not pretty and never ends well. EVER!
Why "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" was survival for me because society doesn't talk about these things or these types of men who cause all this distribution, havoc, and pain.
The definition of "Future Faking" – when someone fakes a future to get what they want in the present.
What "Fast Forwarding" is and why things start intense and moments later end up in smokes.
Why "Mr. Unavailable's" use "blowing hot or cold" to manage down expectations and control the narrative.
Follow Natalie on Instagram @natlue or find out more at natalielue.com. Purchase all of her books on amazon and download her podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions on all podcast platforms.