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"Why am I still not seeing results even after many thousands of approaches?"
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This will probably be one of my least popular videos and posts because the answer is not what most guys would want to hear. But I'm not about preaching answers that are designed to pander or make you feel good. I'm about communicating truth. The main question I was asked was: why might it be the case that some guys who approach consistently for many months still aren't acquiring sexual outcomes / plates. Before addressing that question head-on, it should be noted that even many guys who would consider themselves active approach practitioners *still* aren't actually as consistent with approach as they imagine themselves to be. I've said that a male should expect to approach a bare minimum of 4+ days per week, 20-40+ girls per day, for at least 6 months, in order to generate 5+ girls he's seeing. So in theory, to have 2-3 plates, the male could probably get by approaching 20ish girls per day, 4 days per week, for at least 4-6 months. In contrast, the 2-3 days per week that you approach 10-15 girls don't constitute practitionership. That's better than zero. But, no, I don't consider that sufficient approach. So the first step in addressing this question is honestly reflecting on whether you have been approaching 4+ days per week, 20-40+ girls per day, for at least 6 months. If no, then you just need to be more patient and put in the work. The male then says, "No but Michael, *I have* been doing that amount of volume and am not even seeing like one or two girls, so now what? What am I doing wrong?" I should also make a point that consistency matters just as much as raw approach volume. The growth in male non-neediness and confidence is greater if he approaches 20 girls per day, 4 days per week, versus if he goes out one day per week and approaches 80. Consistency plays into the male psych in a way that cannot be faked. So even if your raw approach volume has been satisfactory, reflect on whether you have been approaching at least four days per week. And as I've talked about in previous content, the male must also fully deregulate his behavior and not implement any contrivances, i.e., kino, negging, disqualification, etc. The male is his most attractive when he is fully winging his approaches and not trying to circumvent rejection in any way. Conversations should be short, direct, and pushy. Deregulation is not a permission slip for non-forwardness. Your aim should be to have short, direct convos with girls, while still completely winging it. You will get rejected incessantly no matter who you are, what you say, or what you do, but I ask that you're patient and do 4+ days per week of approach, 20-40+ approaches per day, for at least 6 months. Then tell me at that point whether you're still not accumulating plates. "Michael, you're not getting me. I'm telling you that I have been approaching consistently and at high volume like you're talking about. I know I'm more non-needy and confident for sure. But I'm still not seeing results. Why." Okay, well this is where I give more of an answer guys don't want to hear:
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/
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Manage episode 287065708 series 2439125
Main blog - https://mikemehlman.net/
Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/mikemehlman
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike_mehlman/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikemehlman.net
This will probably be one of my least popular videos and posts because the answer is not what most guys would want to hear. But I'm not about preaching answers that are designed to pander or make you feel good. I'm about communicating truth. The main question I was asked was: why might it be the case that some guys who approach consistently for many months still aren't acquiring sexual outcomes / plates. Before addressing that question head-on, it should be noted that even many guys who would consider themselves active approach practitioners *still* aren't actually as consistent with approach as they imagine themselves to be. I've said that a male should expect to approach a bare minimum of 4+ days per week, 20-40+ girls per day, for at least 6 months, in order to generate 5+ girls he's seeing. So in theory, to have 2-3 plates, the male could probably get by approaching 20ish girls per day, 4 days per week, for at least 4-6 months. In contrast, the 2-3 days per week that you approach 10-15 girls don't constitute practitionership. That's better than zero. But, no, I don't consider that sufficient approach. So the first step in addressing this question is honestly reflecting on whether you have been approaching 4+ days per week, 20-40+ girls per day, for at least 6 months. If no, then you just need to be more patient and put in the work. The male then says, "No but Michael, *I have* been doing that amount of volume and am not even seeing like one or two girls, so now what? What am I doing wrong?" I should also make a point that consistency matters just as much as raw approach volume. The growth in male non-neediness and confidence is greater if he approaches 20 girls per day, 4 days per week, versus if he goes out one day per week and approaches 80. Consistency plays into the male psych in a way that cannot be faked. So even if your raw approach volume has been satisfactory, reflect on whether you have been approaching at least four days per week. And as I've talked about in previous content, the male must also fully deregulate his behavior and not implement any contrivances, i.e., kino, negging, disqualification, etc. The male is his most attractive when he is fully winging his approaches and not trying to circumvent rejection in any way. Conversations should be short, direct, and pushy. Deregulation is not a permission slip for non-forwardness. Your aim should be to have short, direct convos with girls, while still completely winging it. You will get rejected incessantly no matter who you are, what you say, or what you do, but I ask that you're patient and do 4+ days per week of approach, 20-40+ approaches per day, for at least 6 months. Then tell me at that point whether you're still not accumulating plates. "Michael, you're not getting me. I'm telling you that I have been approaching consistently and at high volume like you're talking about. I know I'm more non-needy and confident for sure. But I'm still not seeing results. Why." Okay, well this is where I give more of an answer guys don't want to hear:
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/
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