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Pursuing A More Modest Lifestyle

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My life began, like all humans, as a simpleton. I was a child. Then a kid. It was all pretty simple (a good thing since I was a simpleton) until junior high, but that was a million miles away when I was a child. Junior high was only complicated because of relationships - and girls. ;) Things didn't complicate it so much because as long as I didn't stick out like a sore thumb among my peers, I was pretty good. Besides, we were middle-class and so were most of the kids I knew. I didn't grow up really making a distinction between the economic prowess of somebody's parents. In grade school my best friend, Terry lived right across the street from the school in a very modest little frame house. I knew his family wasn't as well off as mine, but it had no impact on my relationship with him, or how I viewed him. It never crossed my mind that my family was somehow better, smarter, more clever, or anything else. But let's not start with the past...let's jump to the present. My son recently turned 42, which prompted me to think about the span between my 42 and my current age, 65. Leaning Toward Wisdom began when I was 42. Twenty-three years is a long time. At 42 I was, like my son, hitting the prime of my professional life. But my life was also growing increasingly complicated. My son was turning 19...so we were in the throes of kids entering college. Junior high kids cost more than elementary school kids. High school kids cost even more. And college kids may cost the most because of college costs...but our kids worked, too...so I'm not sure. Oh, and add the cost of sports during high school and I'd guess it's likely a toss-up between high school and college expenses. At least for us. But I haven't analyzed it. No matter, financially things naturally grow increasingly more complicated as the kid's age. And as we parents age. Enter a bigger house, a nicer neighborhood - all demanding more money upfront and more money ongoing. Enter more cars, more insurance, more maintenance...more complexity. As kids grow up and enter adulthood life grows more complicated because lives are growing more independent. This is exactly what we want as parents, but it's not a simple or easy thing. Especially when your son tells you he's going to leave and move to another state. But you do what you have to do, say what you must, and grind your way through the sadness, sorrow, and worry. Then sometime later, he comes back home and your spirits soar, you feel like you can breathe again and if you're like I was, you dive as fully into being present for your kids like never before (and it's not like I wasn't before, but now it was different). These are complicated years as you attempt to help your kids navigate the unchartered waters of their own lives, in search of their own independence - something we had always tried to help them pursue, especially from high school forward. Birds leaving the nest is a great thing - a terrific achievement. Watching them - admiring them - figure it out was always worthwhile, even during the biggest challenges. We were in it together with a united purpose - preparing them for life in the real world. Preparing them to stand on their own, exercising wisdom to figure it out - and to do it all while putting God first. Those weren't easy years except financially. We were fortunate to have a good income and mostly we didn't fret about money. But we weren't foolish or stupid either. As I've said before, cash-flowing life was our way of life so we were never tempted to live beyond our means. Did we buy some things foolishly? Of course. Did we make some financial mistakes? Yes, I did - most notably trusting a business deal that cost us $50,000 due to my idiocy - something I'll never quite get over thanks to the betrayal of a friend. But these things happen and I mostly got past it, thanks in large part to the fact that such an amount - while large - didn't impact our lives.
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My life began, like all humans, as a simpleton. I was a child. Then a kid. It was all pretty simple (a good thing since I was a simpleton) until junior high, but that was a million miles away when I was a child. Junior high was only complicated because of relationships - and girls. ;) Things didn't complicate it so much because as long as I didn't stick out like a sore thumb among my peers, I was pretty good. Besides, we were middle-class and so were most of the kids I knew. I didn't grow up really making a distinction between the economic prowess of somebody's parents. In grade school my best friend, Terry lived right across the street from the school in a very modest little frame house. I knew his family wasn't as well off as mine, but it had no impact on my relationship with him, or how I viewed him. It never crossed my mind that my family was somehow better, smarter, more clever, or anything else. But let's not start with the past...let's jump to the present. My son recently turned 42, which prompted me to think about the span between my 42 and my current age, 65. Leaning Toward Wisdom began when I was 42. Twenty-three years is a long time. At 42 I was, like my son, hitting the prime of my professional life. But my life was also growing increasingly complicated. My son was turning 19...so we were in the throes of kids entering college. Junior high kids cost more than elementary school kids. High school kids cost even more. And college kids may cost the most because of college costs...but our kids worked, too...so I'm not sure. Oh, and add the cost of sports during high school and I'd guess it's likely a toss-up between high school and college expenses. At least for us. But I haven't analyzed it. No matter, financially things naturally grow increasingly more complicated as the kid's age. And as we parents age. Enter a bigger house, a nicer neighborhood - all demanding more money upfront and more money ongoing. Enter more cars, more insurance, more maintenance...more complexity. As kids grow up and enter adulthood life grows more complicated because lives are growing more independent. This is exactly what we want as parents, but it's not a simple or easy thing. Especially when your son tells you he's going to leave and move to another state. But you do what you have to do, say what you must, and grind your way through the sadness, sorrow, and worry. Then sometime later, he comes back home and your spirits soar, you feel like you can breathe again and if you're like I was, you dive as fully into being present for your kids like never before (and it's not like I wasn't before, but now it was different). These are complicated years as you attempt to help your kids navigate the unchartered waters of their own lives, in search of their own independence - something we had always tried to help them pursue, especially from high school forward. Birds leaving the nest is a great thing - a terrific achievement. Watching them - admiring them - figure it out was always worthwhile, even during the biggest challenges. We were in it together with a united purpose - preparing them for life in the real world. Preparing them to stand on their own, exercising wisdom to figure it out - and to do it all while putting God first. Those weren't easy years except financially. We were fortunate to have a good income and mostly we didn't fret about money. But we weren't foolish or stupid either. As I've said before, cash-flowing life was our way of life so we were never tempted to live beyond our means. Did we buy some things foolishly? Of course. Did we make some financial mistakes? Yes, I did - most notably trusting a business deal that cost us $50,000 due to my idiocy - something I'll never quite get over thanks to the betrayal of a friend. But these things happen and I mostly got past it, thanks in large part to the fact that such an amount - while large - didn't impact our lives.
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