E49 Valerie Sokolosky-Do it Right The Stories That Make Us

BS With Bob Schmidt

In E49 Valerie Sokolosky and I talk about here book "Do it Right" The Stories That Make Us. We talked about being Grateful, Giving yourself permission, and being true to yourself, as well as dressing for success. Find Valerie Sokolosky at valerieandcompany.com.
The BS of Bob Schmidt podcast featuring entrepreneurs, business and marketers this time around, talking without Fox News contributor leadership. Brander and author of eight books including doing it right. The, the stories that make us it's Valerie Sokolowski and I've had Valerie in my radio program many times and I can't believe he actually married into that last name when I met my wonderful Bobby many years, my name would grant and I'll never forget the first time I met him I thought and thought with all my goodness you know what Bobbitt goal setting to take you a while to figure out how to spell it or that such that's so true, so much talk a little bit about doing things right is the name of the name of your latest book is a doing it right and so how do we actually do it right. Is it possible to do things right there by one thing the name of the book is right. You can either do it only do more things to write about in terms now I'm doing a lot of professional workshops around the country so I'm talking to emerging leaders who are wanting to know just part of it. They want to know what kind are appropriate or not. We both know, times change networkers to read my legacy program, put them all in a book called why we book it just can't can't can't can't About the different areas so you long time to put together this book of tips information timeline with an audience. I will ask them to write down your top three question in each of those categories and from court came to book Bob matter what level of person their career path I can talk to college. I can talk to recent college grant I can talk to CEO Christian will now see what should I wear or should I approach someone that cocktail party when I wish I weren't there in the first place. Likely QUESTIONS including all learning all absolutely. If there's a day that goes by that I don't learn. I tend to myself. Well I better either read some more or get on the computer or watch some television or do something in order to figure out you know something so that we can always learn something for the day really relevant for you and what you did Bob you so many people you gotta be so knowledgeable about so many things you will ask a lot of questions. I talk to people that are much more knowledgeable than myself as why you're my guest. Well, so what's the one with the where where what should we be wearing when were out doing things that matter if it's like Christmas is coming up so wearing something to ask company Christmas party is probably different than wearing something to a networking situation. Share: very simple minded person simple answer to that cell. How do I want to be. How do I widely seen what I want to give in this situation. For example, I was at a luncheon today for an organization. Nine in the organization is full of people. So I wore business looking out that I certainly wasn't in business casual. I had a nice really nice jacket and shirt underneath it and my and I looked trendy but professional and so I dressed that way this week will go to party. I'm going to one weekend, much more casual, and go party. So I'm jacket a business jacket. I'm going to be in a letter for the work, great color that I know looks good so just stop and think what I want to give to the people I'm getting ready to be involved in things to do when you're not sure. Back to first of all what I said earlier. Who are you meeting with right know what is there hell of a big company would be different than a small business down the street and so forth and still think about the message you want to get to that person would expect respected right person would have in mind okay right that makes a lot of sense. Yes, what's expected and respected anything for me and always easy to wrong and a nice shirt and a pair of slacks and honestly Nalgene nice dark press genes are are great and younger you're right person you're with jacket. Maybe the car to throw on walking with and then take off right. I guess it's easier to be a man and when it comes to dressing up and it would be for you or my wife or other women that are listening but actually thank you for that. People need help right now you have a good point Bobby many options with women, and so I will still say no jacket. The game even for a woman Blau or sure whatever you throw in jacket on, you immediately raise the bar the same philosophy in the way does a sweater work in place of the jacket for woman letter works just fine. Bring down a little bit, but it still in between jacket and some great letters out there this year. What is notice to that more women are wearing those scarves, the endless scarf. If you don't mean that. It's like one piece. The circular thank you for sharing our car for a woman can be a great three you can. Where are all kind of different way. Yes, there is that continuous circular scar in all kinds of shapes and scarring for women are I would Google go on YouTube and search for ways to where scar is out there showing you different way to tie scar that you can take one out and throw different guards on. You know for different situations are really a whole new jewelry like and three. So the book is called do it right and I'm sorry for getting it wrong earlier. Do it right. Part of it is about about what to wear part of it. You mentioned is networking. What was the third part, people don't like the word I know person. So why should I write. I believe it does you think that are not. We are a much more casual than most except Wall Street if you're on Wall Street, you're on Wall Street to be much more engaging companies are doing everything I can to drive engagement in one of the things that they are finding that by walking around as a leader and being more engaging themselves in having a dress code. The old dress code being more business casual and some industry. I will say I'm just getting ready to go to sample Florida Power & Light which is called here and now they bring me every year to do it today program on exactly what I'm sharing with you because they want their from director level they want their people to address with a jacket yes taken off when you're in the office that they still want that professional that Florida Power & Light don't really have to know what the industry is and what that company. Let me assist them because we we we both know that the way people dress is different than it was like when my dad was working. It's different that it was when you know when when we are growing up. Does that mean that the quality of work is slept at all because of that, you know, because of the slacking of the dressing. That does make a difference when someone get a little slovenly with the business casual right people in the company back and say what a business class will look like all over the ballpark. In fact, I actually wrote that I mentioned for one of them is called business-class school clarify please read some that some people have like you have to specify close toed shoes because some people would show up to work in those flip-flops are second toes because it didn't say it's a comfortable shoes but not safe for you know not not those flip-flops, though I couldn't believe that I'm telling you the true story here. I always do. Being asked to come into a law firm downtown law firm and they said I want you to just walk around and you can observe before we bring you in what we are bringing you and I'm sure their lawyers. Some of the women did not flip flop, but those clogs have a business is on and clogs don't know what we don't know don't know what they don't know you got to tell them if they business casual that look like my bike now going to an inventor to a party or to the job interview. Business casual table that look like you say, we don't know we don't know because my dad would always say that we are arguing about the kid to be like you know what you don't know and I remember when I turned about 16 or 17 Valerie I looked minimum like your dad. You're right. I don't know what I don't know but you don't know what you don't know how to shut them up. I went to my book and opened up the table of contents what other things like wine okay travel I put in something on different abilities, working with people with this ability, international etiquette are common sense things are probably a lot of people don't have as a regular thing. One of my best friends is disability so I know how to deal with people disabilities but what comes like wine and things like that. I'm not really sure when it comes to international types of etiquette. I have no clue whatsoever because I haven't had that experience well. The book is called the right. You also mention it is about networking to so what's the proper way to go out network with somebody happen to other people and certainly have to me when you walk up to a group fully people will contact and smile, which means which body language is saying come on right right time when I would walk up to a group. I don't know anybody in this whole conference and I walked up to the group and they're all busy talking to each other. They probably been talking to each other for a while and no eye contact or welcoming body language happened. Smile at somebody and turn and leave. That's about all you can do that when you are able to walk up and someone welcomes you in a sort that being said, and not on my and people are gracious and most people are someone will welcome you mean more and give you that opportunity to say something but don't feel like you have to just walk in and start conversing because you don't you can learn a lot more frankly listening, then doing all the talking, sitting there listening sometimes you might get uncomfortabl