204: Narcissism In The Church

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Today’s show is about narcissism in the church. It’s something we are seeing more and more, and we need to identify what narcissism is and what it looks like when it operates in the church. Join us as Kasey and Cher dive into this topic!

We define narcissism as “a personality disorder consisting of a pervasive pattern of grandiosity in fantasy or behavior, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.” As we discuss three types of narcissism, we need to understand that it is a real disorder that needs to be healed in order to have a healthy church environment. Kasey and Cher describe how narcissism is the exact opposite of the personality of Jesus, but it aligns perfectly with what we know about Satan. That in itself should assure us that narcissism has no place in the lives of God’s people.

It’s important to realize that narcissism in the church may look different than it does out in the world. Kasey and Cher explain how narcissism shows up in behaviors of manipulation and control, being above everyone else, and having a constant need for admiration. In every way, it goes against the humility we are called to exhibit. We must remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual darkness and demonic powers. As we stand against the elements of narcissism in our families and our parenting, we should teach our kids about humility, accountability, and empathy to help guard their hearts against narcissism.

How do we handle narcissism when we see it in the church? We should cover it in prayer and follow the biblical mandate set forth in Matthew 23 to confront it with the goal of resolution and restoration to unity in the body of Christ. Kasey and Cher close out this episode with a prayer for wisdom to help us stand against the spirit of narcissism and the kingdom of darkness. Today’s verse is Isaiah 26:3, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.”

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