Jim Curtis & Marina Lazaris discuss love in a modern world. The biggest challenges and how to overcome them.
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What makes us chases the unobtainable? Where does attachment theory come in? Does love end and perhaps that causes us the most pain thinking it?
Marina (00:18.156)
The power of flow & co-creation.
Jim Curtis (00:43.606)
People chasing the unobtainable with lavish gifts.
Marina (01:57.245)
I would perhaps be looking at, is there some block in receiving?
Jim Curtis (02:01.442)
Have you ever had the experience that you're just in it for the case?
Marina (02:27.657)
The power of honest conversations and allowing yourself to receive.
Marina (05:23.933)
How subconscious conditioning from childhood effects working hard for love and beliefs that somehow you're unlovable.
Marina (05:48.893)
So it's retraining that subconscious conditioning, noticing the pattern and moving towards others that reciprocates and match your energy because otherwise you're just hurting yourself, re-traumatizing yourself and causing yourself a lot of pain.
Jim Curtis (07:12.734)
Discusses the masculine/feminine dynamic in relationships.
Marina (08:10.085)
I think that you need to balance the masculine and feminine within you. And I think men, it's harder for men because there's lots of different distractions and I think it's more difficult for them to stay in that masculinity and pursue one woman. So I wouldn't blame women.
Jim Curtis (09:18.562)
Have you ever been interested in a man that's more connected to his feminine?
Marina (10:55.973)
If you build men up, then they're gonna be able to sit with their emotions. This whole tearing each other down in some shape or form, that doesn't work. And men need to be able to go to someone and have other female influences.
Jim Curtis (12:07.146)
The struggle for men to have open and honest conversations with other men.
Marina (13:16.833)
It's a really hard one because I think it's a really fine balance and I think it's very difficult for men. It's very difficult for men and so it's an element being able to express yourself but not in the way where you're going to not be a safe container.
Jim Curtis & Marina Lazaris (15:16.398)
Discuss their biggest personal relationship struggles.
Marina (20:07.125)
Discuss the biggest red flags with relationship breakups. How to make agreements moving forward in relationships.
The importance of honesty in relationships.
Jim Curtis (27:55.406) You're teaching people how to treat your treat you. But, uh, 100% respect.
Jim Curtis (28:40.418)
The trap of a Fantasy.
Marina (31:33.661)
Peoples actions v the fantasy is very important and how to know the difference.
Jim Curtis (34:29.338)
How he hates first date.
Marina (35:18.25)
How you must always date.
Marina (36:26.345)
How gratitude changes ever situtuation even being love bombed.
Jim Curtis & Marina Lazaris (41:45.122)
Discuss breakups
being with someone, what from my personal experience, required me to forgive them many times and not go to bed on an argument and not to hold things on and to let go and to find the gratitude and the love in the relationship again and again and again. And I suppose it's the perspective that you hold it in. And...
in a timeline, you're still madly in love with that person. It still actually exists. So it doesn't ever go. And you choose, you choose to tap into whatever, it's bitterness, resentment, and you choose then to block your abundance. And then you choose then to act in ways that don't serve your vibrational being. But if you can act in like, okay, well, then my heart still, I still will always love you and...
we're not together and we're not romantic no more, but I send you love, then you will get that back in every area of your life. You will be, abundance will flow, relationships with other people will flow, and you won't repeat the same patterns. Let's get into that place. And I know it can't always be easy, but I think.
Marina (45:44.449)
That's the beauty of it. It doesn't, us living and dying is what happened at once. I still been in love with someone still happening and we think that ends and then we get upset about it and we wanna, you know, but it doesn't. If you've had them experiences, they stay with you forever. That will be in your flat. And it makes me sad to think about it because it's harder to, when you sit with these things, it's harder. It's easier to be like, oh, that person's this and they're that.
Jim Curtis (45:49.961)
Mm-hmm.
Marina (46:13.097)
and I'm gonna call this person this name, but it's harder to go, oh yeah, I had that. But then it makes your heart grow more and it makes you more loving and compassionate. So yeah, I think there is probably examples where two people are understanding, loving, not lying and honest and can give each other space and then find their way back to one another. If it's true love, if they're really in their heart chakra, which I think is very rare, if it's not about what I can get.
or you're in this role and you have to be this and do this. If it's pure love, then I think yes.
Jim Curtis (46:49.13)
Hmm. I loved what you said because I believe it wholeheartedly that if there, um, if in this quantum world and this kind of quantum energy, you know, this unlimited universe, right? That means there are infinite number of dimensions. And if there are intimate number of dimensions, there's infinite number of possibilities. And so the, if we're
If we really want to look at it like this, then it's not time and space, meaning like there is no past and future, it's just now. And therefore all those dimensions, all those opportunities and everything is happening at once now so that there is a loving, supportive relationship of that relationship is happening somewhere. And you can tune into it, tap into it and experience it now if you want to.
Marina (47:23.489)
Exactly. Just now.
Marina (47:31.113)
Yeah.
Marina (47:47.445)
And I think that's the beauty of it. I think people, when you're in lack of anything, it's unattractive. It's like when you are with someone, you're in love. Like everyone wants to be with you, right? And so it's just happening to that. Like you have lost nothing. Have you been in love once? That love always stays with you. If you've loved others, that love stays with you. To feel like you've lost, puts yourself into a state of suffering. And vibrationally, you're gonna do stuff that's true to your soul and true to you.
Jim Curtis (47:48.959)
Thank you.
Marina (48:17.245)
when you're in that state that you have it all, that you've received it all, it's all with you now. Because you do, in a timeline you do.
Jim Curtis (48:25.17)
Yeah, I love that. I have to go. But that was... No, I think that's an incredible place that love is always... There's always an opportunity for love. I think that's a wonderful place to kind of leave off that in a timeline where everything is now and there's unlimited opportunities and potentials.
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