Season 3 Episode 16 - Know Your Limit

The Perspective Matters Podcast

Jamaican proverbs are full of so much common sense wisdom that offer guidance on how we navigate life. Personal Development doesn’t always have to be so serious! It can be fun! As Jamaicans we can be so expressive and how creative we are in giving our commonsense wisdom and the fearlessness with which we communicate.

Monkey mus know weh him go put him tail before him order trousiz. Be clear about how you’re going to carry out the task; before you initiate the process. We want to take on projects without considering the implications of the yes. You say yes; without understanding what you are saying yes to. There is value in pausing and assessing whether or not you should yes to the opportunity. When we say yes to things; do we have a limitation or insecurity that could hinder us. It is good to say yes and push the boundaries. When we say yes to something; we are saying no to something else.

If cow did know how him throat hole tan; or how him batty part. Him wouldn’t chance pear seed. We do not always realize our limitations. We are willing to embrace opportunities; that we tend to forget our limitations. It is good to take on something outside of you comfort zone and skillset. It is good to be mindful that we have limitations. We shouldn’t look at ourselves in that manner; because we restrict ourselves in what we explore. When we know our limitations; we can make easier choices. The decision doesn’t become can I or do I do it; it becomes should I do or not. We can decide whether or not to take on the challenges because we know what we’re capable. Knowing your limitations makes the decision making process easier. Recognize that you have limits and there is nothing wrong; embracing your limitations and pushing past them if you think there is value in doing so.

When you go a jackass yard; you nuh fi chat bout him big ears. Being tactful and kind is important. Don’t criticize someone in their presence or behind their back. If you think your feedback will add value; then find a kind way to share it with the person. It is better to kind than to be nice. Whether it is a physical or character trait; find a kind compassionate way to provide the feedback. It is the person’s prerogative to accept or reject your feedback. If you can guarantee that your feedback won’t make the person feel small; insignificant and unworthy then share your feedback. If you can guarantee that you will add value; make a positive impact and improve their day then by all means share it. But if believe because you are sharing the truth you can be blunt and rude; just remember the roles can be reversed.

Man nuh cross river nuh fi cuss alligator say him mouth long. This is a timely reminder. We need people; we are social beings. As a fellow introvert; being around people can be hard; it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. We were wired to function in a community. By living in tribes and clans; they were able to secure their safety. Safety from the elements and safety from predators. As you engage with people be mindful of your interactions. I’m not encouraging you to be a brown-noser. Your value should come from you and what you can bring to the table. Your integrity and strength of character is where you place your value; not in who you can compliment. Be authentic and sincere in your dealings. Don’t be dismissive of people just because you perceive they can’t do anything for you. Be honest in all your dealings; have the highest integrity. Be genuine in your relationship building. Don’t use people. Don’t treat people as objects. Don’t let your position in life to inflate your ego. Don’t be misled by the belief that you are untouchable so you can treat people poorly. You don’t know the connections and reach of people.

Until next time remember "There are two sides to every coin; just flip it to get the full view!"