Reframing Our World

The Inclusion Bites Podcast

The Power of Self-Awareness and Accountability in Leadership

Lina Jankauskeite explores the transformative power of reframing difficult situations, nurturing self-leadership, and embracing humility to foster genuine connection and drive systemic change in personal and professional realms.

In this episode of The Inclusion Bites Podcast, Joanne Lockwood and guest Lina Jankauskeite explore the power of reframing our perceptions of people's actions and difficult situations. Joanne and Lina delve into the significance of viewing others through a positive lens and discuss strategies for reframing negative experiences to lessen frustration. Through personal anecdotes and learned insights, Joanne and Lina highlight the necessity of taking personal responsibility for our decisions and turning mistakes into invaluable learning opportunities.

Lina Jankauskeite is a psychologist, holistic life coach, and speaker who has journeyed from rural Lithuania to the diverse and bustling environment of the UK. At the age of 20, Lina moved to London, initially arriving for a break but eventually finding a sense of belonging and community, particularly through her work at the airport. Lina is dedicated to promoting self-awareness, resilience, and self-leadership. She focuses on empowering individuals to adopt proactive mindsets and avoid the victim mentality. Her engaging conversational style and thought-provoking insights make her an impactful guest on the podcast.

Together, Joanne and Lina unpack the barriers such as defensiveness that undermine effective self-leadership. They discuss how humility, vulnerability, and the willingness to admit mistakes are crucial in leadership and personal growth. Highlighting experiences from business and personal interactions, Joanne credits her own entrepreneurial journey for reinforcing the importance of personal accountability and effective leadership. Lina emphasizes the systemic change that begins with individual actions and shares her evolution in consciously using empowering language to alter thought patterns and foster resilience.

Joanne and Lina also address walking away from toxic situations and the importance of achieving closure. Lina reflects on her personal journey of recognising and changing disempowering language, framing it as a daily practice that requires self-awareness and consistent effort. Their discussion is not only enlightening but also equips listeners with practical strategies to cultivate a healthier, proactive mindset.

A key takeaway from this episode is the importance of reframing our perceptions and taking personal responsibility for our actions and decisions. By practicing self-awareness, embracing humility, and consciously using empowering language, listeners can transform their interactions and foster a more inclusive and positive environment. This episode encourages reflection and offers actionable insights for anyone seeking to drive personal and systemic change. Don’t miss out on this transformative conversation!

Published: 12.09.2024 Recorded: 20.05.2024 Duration: 1:06:59 Downloads:

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Clips and Hooks

The Power of Reframing: “And if you reframe, for example just take that one second to reframe that exactly the same situation and just saying, I feel pissed off because of what you said or what she did.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:23:47 → 00:23:59]

Mindfulness on the Road: “The moment I reframe that situation, I couldn’t care less that it’s possibly not true. But it works for me, and I just use that. So this is this is what they’re doing, and this is why they’re going slow.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:30:13 → 00:30:25]

Tech Frustrations: “I remember I was visiting my mum a few months back, and she she fired up Zoom because she had to she wanted to remind herself how to put people in the breakout rooms, and she something didn’t work or something. And she was, oh, all of this is nonsense, and she sort of just stood up and went off in the straw.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:30:38 → 00:31:44]

Questioning Conformity: “They encourage and enforce conformity to the rules that I imposed on you, which kind of takes away to a degree and everything.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:37:15 → 00:37:24]

**The Importance of People in Systems**: “But even though sometimes it seems that systems take up a life on their own, I, at least, personally, still strongly believe that the systems are run by people.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:42:59 → 00:43:10]

The Impact of Competition on Self Image: “A lot more competition orientated than it is collaboration orientated when it comes down to it.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:44:05 → 00:44:12]

The Power of Vulnerability: “Vulnerability is what connects me to other people because that defending your corner, it’s a very lonely place to be, just defending your corner no matter what.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:47:28 → 00:47:43]

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: “Why do you feel that you have to be the master of things? You know, you you only need to be a guide.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [00:53:40 → 00:53:47]

Toxic Relationships and Personal Growth: “You have to be open to stepping away because it just consumes your energy and really brings out the worst in you as well if you stay too long in those situations.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [01:03:01 → 01:03:05]

The Path to Self Leadership: “You have to be securing yourself sufficiently to not fall for that kind of provocation.”
— Lina Jankauskeite [01:04:04 → 01:04:10]

Definition of Terms Used

Positive Lens

• Definition: Viewing people’s actions and situations through an optimistic and non-judgmental perspective, assuming good intentions rather than malice.
• Relevance: Helps reduce frustration and fosters a more inclusive and understanding environment by focusing on positive aspects rather than negative assumptions.
• Examples: Interpreting a delayed email response as a sign of the sender being busy rather than ignoring you, or seeing criticism as constructive feedback meant to help you improve.
• Related Terms: Positive Psychology, Optimism, Empathy, Cognitive Reframing
• Common Misconceptions: Some may think viewing through a positive lens means ignoring or excusing bad behaviour, but it actually involves constructive understanding and responding appropriately.

Self-Awareness

• Definition: Conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires, along with the ability to manage oneself and one’s relationships effectively.
• Relevance: Crucial for personal development, resilience, and effective leadership by enabling individuals to recognise their strengths, weaknesses, and the impact of their behaviour on others.
• Examples: Recognising your triggers in stressful situations and choosing to respond calmly instead of reacting impulsively.
• Related Terms: Emotional Intelligence, Mindfulness, Introspection, Self-Regulation
• Common Misconceptions: Some may believe self-awareness is being self-absorbed, but it actually entails a balanced and reflective understanding of oneself in relation to others.

Victimhood Mentality

• Definition: A psychological state where a person perceives themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, often coupled with a refusal to take personal responsibility for their circumstances.
• Relevance: Overcoming this mentality is essential for personal growth, resilience, and fostering a sense of control and empowerment in one’s life.
• Examples: Blaming colleagues for career setbacks without recognising one’s own role or areas for improvement in work performance.
• Related Terms: Learned Helplessness, Self-Sabotage, External Locus of Control, Empowerment
• Common Misconceptions: It’s often thought that recognising someone’s victimhood mentality means invalidating their experienced hardships, but it actually involves encouraging them to reclaim agency and responsibility.

Empowering Language

• Definition: A way of speaking and thinking that promotes a sense of control, capability, and positive action instead of passivity and helplessness.
• Relevance: Changing disempowering language patterns can rewire the brain, fostering positive thought processes and enhancing one’s ability to face challenges effectively.
• Examples: Replacing “I can’t handle this” with “I will find a way to manage this situation.”
• Related Terms: Positive Affirmations, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Positive Self-Talk, Neuroplasticity
• Common Misconceptions: Some may think empowering language is about being overly positive or unrealistic, but it’s about fostering constructive and proactive mindsets.

Humility in Leadership

• Definition: The quality of being humble and acknowledging one’s limitations and mistakes, while valuing the contributions and strengths of others.
• Relevance: Promotes a supportive and collaborative work environment, encourages team development, and enhances trust and open communication.
• Examples: Admitting when you don’t know something and seeking advice or help from team members.
• Related Terms: Servant Leadership, Vulnerability, Authentic Leadership, Collaborative Leadership
• Common Misconceptions: Humility is sometimes seen as a lack of confidence or weakness, but in reality, it involves strength and self-awareness in accepting and growing from one’s limitations.

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Kapitel

1. Introduction and Welcome (00:00:00)

2. As a dreamer, I aim to impact. (00:02:00)

3. Hometown in Lithuania, now small, fond memories. (00:06:00)

4. Friendly, helpful people made navigating easy. (00:12:34)

5. Overcoming victim mentality takes strength and resilience. (00:20:19)

6. Reframe situations to take control of feelings. (00:23:32)

7. Language can help reframe habitual perceptions. (00:30:38)

8. Teenagers influenced by schools to conform, seek reasons. (00:37:03)

9. Systems are run by people, not independent. (00:42:59)

10. Vulnerability connects and strengthens human relationships. (00:47:09)

11. Coach overcame imposter syndrome through Buddhist guidance. (00:53:10)

12. Embrace being outclassed, become a guide. (00:55:52)

13. Stepping away from toxic relationships, finding closure. (01:02:13)

14. Expressing gratitude to listeners, encouraging community involvement. (01:05:59)