EP07: Why is Interviewing So Hard?

The Confrontationalist With Danielle Gibson

Ever felt like you lost a piece of your confidence at a job interview? Danielle Gibson breaks down job interviews and the often accompanying fear of facing someone head-on. This reflection stems from a recent conversation she had, exploring the challenge faced by individuals skilled at securing interviews yet struggling with effectively presenting themselves.

Danielle argues against traditional interview preparations, advocating for authenticity over rehearsed answers. She addresses the discomfort many people, especially women, have with discussing their achievements, urging a shift from bragging to sharing.

Drawing on her experience in the cosmetics and music industries, Danielle highlights how our job aspirations can clash with reality. She explains that desperation for a new job or financial pressures can distort our view of interviews, making them feel like emotional battles instead of opportunities for genuine conversation.

Danielle advises seeing interviews as mutual explorations rather than mere one-sided evaluations. She stresses researching not just to impress, but to find if the job aligns with your values and goals. This mindset aims to ease interview pressure by fostering detachment from the outcome. Danielle urges listeners to reevaluate their perspectives on confrontation and communication at interviews,advocating for a more relaxed and objective stance towards achieving career goals.

Quotes

• "You're not bragging, you're telling. You're sharing information and it's just that. An interview is a fact-finding conversation." (02:34 | Danielle Gibson)
• "A job is not your answer. It's not an answer to all your problems. It's a job. The things that we do with regard to interviewing are things that we do in life with other things." (03:42 | Danielle Gibson)
• "It's just a conversation. You're going in, you're getting some facts, you're meeting somebody. You want to know if you like that person, you want to know about the culture. You want to know if it's a place you want to work. It's not about, ‘I hope I get this thing. I hope this person who's dangling this most important thing in front of me gives me this most important thing,’ because then you're just at the effect of this person. You're terrified of not getting this job that you have no idea if you're going to even like. So it's important to approach an interview like it's just a conversation." (09:41 | Danielle Gibson)
• "If you've taken the time to do some research, that shows them that you are actually interested in them and they're more likely going to like you and consider you for that job. It's important that you don't make this job, your dream job" (12:22 | Danielle Gibson)
• "You didn't lose the job because you never had the job. And you have no idea whether or not it was your dream job because you were never in the job. So really, what you lost was the idea of a dream job. Please just know that this is an entire world that's just taking place in your head. Let go if you can let go of an attachment to a job. It's not saving your life. It may be giving you money, obviously that's important, but you really want to make sure that you're choosing something that suits you because you're going to be there ideally for quite some time." (13:10 | Danielle Gibson)

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