#61 Love, Sex, but no Dhoka

Boju Bajai

Cuffing season is here and so is the new Boju Bajai episode. In this episode, we talk about dating apps or as we like to call them over at Boju Bajai- 'sutne' apps. The heydays of love letters are long gone and it's the time of swiping and matching, of 'hey you up's and 'wyd?'s. But what hasn't changed is our desire to connect and find companionship. This episode explores how these desires were expressed before the internet and how it is done today. And there might or might not be dramatic readings of real life love letters in this episode! We also hear from some of our listeners about their experiences - the good, the bad, and the weird. Thank you so much to everyone who sent us stories. This episode really wouldn't have been possible without them. This episode was reported by Nikita Tripathi. Nikita is a media producer based in Kathmandu and likes to walk. Irina Giri edited the episode. If you like our laugh and guff gaff, please do consider supporting our work on Patreon: www.patreon.com/bojubajai Subscribe to Boju Bajai podcast: SoundCloud: https://m.soundcloud.com/bojubajai​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast…​ Google Podcasts: https://bit.ly/33MiYm0​ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2FjuUBD Follow @Bojubajai on social media for more laughs: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bojubajai/​​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bojubajai​​ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BojuBajai​​ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNYRGvqtpi1aHAucXGcNWRw Credits: Lajja Sample Film: Lajja Song: Badhi Mushkil https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dg-geusO3rs 2. "Electrolyte" Artist: Scanglobe Album: Electrolyte From freemusicarchive.org 3. "Ekatira Mayalu" Artist: Kunti Moktan Album: Mero Man Released: 1997 4."Truth Hurts" Artist: Lizzo Album: Cuz I Love You 5. "The Silver Hatch" Artist: Blue Dot Sessions Album: Rayling 6. "Dear Kalyan" Music: Background Music// No Copyright//Dear Kalyan// Mero Katha// Katha Mitho Sarangiko/ Basuri Ko Dhun Played by: Bishnu Ale Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p4CiJvQidUI 7. "Chitthi Aaena" Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYNagcv6HTM References: “Liquid Love? Dating apps, sex, relationships and the digital transformation of intimacy” http://fws.commacafe.org/resources/liquid_love.pdf “Eat the rich! Why millennials and generation Z have turned their backs on capitalism” https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2021/sep/20/eat-the-rich-why-millennials-and-generation-z-have-turned-their-backs-on-capitalism “Invitations to Love: Literacy, Love Letters and Social Change in Nepal” by Laura Ahearn https://www.press.umich.edu/11260/invitations_to_love https://3lib.net/book/16577518/f99eff “With blackmail list, gay men in Ghana fight conmen posing as lovers” - https://www.reuters.com/article/us-ghana-lgbt-blackmail-idUSKBN23G1RO “Online Surveillance, Censorship, and Discrimination for LGBTQIA+ Community Worldwide” - https://www.recordedfuture.com/lgbtqia-community-cyber-threats/ “Tinder just agreed to let Russia review its data on demand. That could be dangerous for Russians.” https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2019/06/11/tinder-just-agreed-let-russia-review-its-data-demand-that-could-be-dangerous-russians/ “Body, Society & Tech: Dating as a Trans Woman in Nepal” https://bodyanddata.org/body-society-tech-dating-as-a-trans-woman-in-nepal/