Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating. In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Couns ...
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Rick is an author, speaker, consultant, and podcaster. He has been encouraging and training Christians since 1997. After several years as a counselor and pastor he founded and launched his training organization to encourage and equip people for effective living. Today, the ministry reaches people globally through training, blogging, podcasting, counseling, and coaching. His cyber home is RickThomas.Net
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Parenting Day 16: The Wisdom of Engaging the Sin in Your Family
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16:07A family with a gospel-centered view of sin experiences something that never crosses the mind of their culture. Once you tap into God’s grace at this level, sin is not a disadvantage but an opportunity to magnify God through your family’s imperfections. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our si…
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Parenting Day 15: Parental Discipline Comes from a Heart of Love
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16:45How do you discipline your children? What if I asked the question from your child’s perspective? What is their experience with your corrective care? Biblical restorative care always begins with God. The Father is the one you want to imitate, especially when it comes to discipline (Ephesians 5:1).Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/da…
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Parenting Day 14: Love Your Chidlren, Just Because
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12:37One of the most practical things a parent could do for their children is to love them just because. You don’t need a reason other than they are your kids. God loves you that way.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-14-love-your-children-just-cause/Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a s…
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Parenting Day 13: A Biblical Perspective on Critiquing Children
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12:37If a person’s parenting model primarily consists of bringing critique from a heart of personal frustration, the parent’s model needs to change. Biblical parents center their primary communication with their children on love, not criticism.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/a-biblical-perspective-on-critiquing-children/Will you help …
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Ep. 543 Webinar: Small Group Leader Development
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1:04:38Shows Main Idea – A small group is more than a meeting—it’s a place for transformation. Learn how to engage, grow, and build a gospel-centered community.Watch or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-543-webinar-small-group-leader-development/Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting membe…
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Parenting Day 12: Rule-based Parenting Create Dysfucntional Children
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14:22Being authoritarian is a good thing because, as image-bearers, we want to emulate our Father. Thus, we must learn to live under God’s authority and learn how to model it. However, if authoritarianism is our only parenting method, it may scuttle our children’s individualized sanctification needs.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day…
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Parenting Day 11: Easy Way to Disqualify Yourself As a Parent
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18:55Too often, parents with sinning children focus too quickly on the disruptive child as they overlook their reactions to their disappointing child. Here are two questions that will help you avoid this parenting problem: How would you describe your relationship with the Lord? How are you practically living that relationship out daily inside your home?…
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Ep. 542 When Christians Fail You: Trusting God in the Aftermath of Betrayal
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35:19Shows Main Idea – When someone experiences deep betrayal at the hands of Christians, it can shake their faith to the core. They may wonder how God could allow such evil, why He did not intervene, and why those who did wrong seem to have escaped justice. These are honest struggles, and they should not be dismissed with shallow responses to hurtful p…
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Parenting Day 10: Fussy Parents Make Insecure Children
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17:39Mable couldn’t get a handle on her insecurity. Burdened by a failed marriage, teenage children in rebellion, and too many relational conflicts to count, she was frustrated, angry, and bewildered at how the same old things kept happening to her. Though she recognized she had a lifelong problem with anxiety, fear, and insecurity, she did not understa…
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Parenting Day 9 – Give Your Child Fewer Rules And More Attitude
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17:17A right heart attitude will create the right behaviors, but knowing and obeying all the rules does not mean the heart is good or even agrees with the actions. From the inside out is the Bible’s way to parent children, not merely outward assessments. Though regulations will give you the desired behaviors you pray for when your kid is young, those ru…
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Parenting Day 8: Dads, the First Picture a Child Sees of a Father
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14:44We were sitting at an intersection when our then 6-year-old daughter said, “Daddy, that Blues Clues paw print is orange.” This instance was the second time it happened with our children. Blues Clues was a once-popular kid’s program about a dog named Blue who would leave his paw print in different places during the show.Read, Watch, or Listen: https…
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Parenting Day 7: Your Words Shape Your Child’s Life
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18:30I had a conversation with our son when he was younger, sharing with him how he would be my replacement. It was a sobering thought. One day, our son will grow up and become a practical demonstration of what I have modeled for him. The good and the bad of my life work together to bring shape to his adult life.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeoverc…
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Ep. 540 Bradley Pierce, Fighting for the Pre-born in a Post-Roe America
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1:08:18Shows Main Idea – Bradley Pierce is the president of the Foundation to Abolish Abortion, a constitutional attorney with nearly two decades of experience advocating for the right to life and has been instrumental in drafting legislation across more than 30 states to protect these vital rights, including numerous equal protection bills aimed at aboli…
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Parenting Day 6: Before You Can Help Your Child, You Must Wait
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14:33You can only help a child if he wants help. If your child is not serious about change, your care for him will have a limited impact. Your primary parental role is waiting on the Lord as He brings your child to an end of himself.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-6-before-you-can-help-your-child-you-must-wait/Will you help us to …
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Parenting Day 5: The Orientation of the Home
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15:19Jesus was clear when He said that you must follow Him if you want to walk in the light. The opposite is also accurate: if you do not follow Him, the only option is dark. Every relational construct has followers and leaders, which begs the question, who is the head of your home?Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-5-the-orientation…
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Parenting Day 3: Non-negotiable First Step to Build a Happy Home
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17:13Christians enjoy and benefit from the gospel because of forgiveness (See Romans 10:9, 13). For example, we confessed our sins and requested forgiveness, and our kind Lord forgave us. Confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation are the stepping stones to happiness (Deuteronomy 33:29). If you want a happy home, you must imitate God at this crucial po…
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Ep. 538 Jacob Valk: Parenting and P*rnography, the Masterclass
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1:09:24Shows Main Idea – Parenting & Pornography is a masterclass-style video series developed by Into The Light Ministries. Its purpose is to equip parents with biblical tools to nurture children of integrity who embrace God’s design for sexuality while resisting pornography. This series is free for families and churches, offering a theologically rich, p…
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Parenting Day 2: Quality Parenting Comes from Good Marriages
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15:08Quality parenting, strong marriages, marital unity, biblical marriage, communication in marriage, teamwork in parenting, spiritual leadership, Christian parenting, family dynamics, relational health.The Bible is not a parenting book, which is why it gives so little parenting advice. It is a relationship book. Rather than providing you with parentin…
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Parenting Day 1 – Parenting From Zero To Adulthood
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14:53The parenting goal is to release your child into adulthood as an individual living under God’s authority for His glory. This parenting process happens in three stages: Dependent Stage—0 to 2, Interdependent Stage—2 to 22, and Independent Stage—22+.Read, Watch, or Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/day-1-parenting-from-zero-to-adulthood/Will you hel…
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Parenting Day 4: Two Rules Every Parent Must Teach Their Children
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16:26Biblical parenting incrementally releases children from your rules and authority while placing them under the most influential governing dynamic known to humanity—to love God and others supremely. If your child’s heart is motivated and governed by those two truths, and you help him to embrace that kind of affection for God and neighbor, you will se…
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Marriage counseling has historically been the most common type of counseling I have done, which makes sense because the marriage relationship is unique in that there is not supposed to be an escape clause. Marriage is for life. This fact makes marriage the perfect context for relationship sharpening. There are times when counseling is essential bec…
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Here Is Practical Help to Restore a Broken Marriage
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10:52Some husbands and wives can have a hard time putting a broken marriage back together. Typically, expectations and disappointments create a backlog of unresolved conflict. Unforgiveness sets in, the death toll to any relationship. When a couple gets to this point, pride becomes the unscaleable wall between them. They have lost the vision of Christ a…
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Something Must Come Between Us, or We'll Hurt Each Other
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9:12The cross of Christ has wonder-working power. It can change you and your relationships, but the process is not a passive “let go and let God” exercise. If Christ’s cross is not a practical governing reality in our relationships, we will hurt those we love the most. Though the cross of Christ is not the whole gospel, it’s a poignant reminder of the …
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Do You Think It's Right to Correct My Authoritarian Husband?
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20:32No human has absolute authority over another. This perspective should be common sense, but it’s not for everyone, including Christians. A dictatorial husband and father can put wives and children in a difficult spot, which begs the question that folks have asked me for decades: “Do you think it’s right to correct my authoritarian husband?” This cha…
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Ep. 535 Understanding EMDR with Dr. Rhenn Cherry
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1:21:50Shows Main Idea – EMDR stands for Eye-Movement Desensitization Reprocessing Therapy. Though it has been around for decades, it has gained a lot of momentum within Christian circles in the past few years. In this episode, Rick interviews Dr. Rhenn Cherry, a professor at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He explains the history, the suggested …
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Sex for a Woman, According to a Man
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18:15Sexual intimacy is one of the quickest indicators that reveals how a couple is doing in their marriage. Why? Because it is the most physical and intimate thing they will ever do together. It is different from talking, dating, dinner, or a movie. Sex requires more. Sex demands more from two people. You can do many things as a married couple and even…
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Ep. 534 Fear of Man: Cultivating a God-centered Community
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1:02:41Show Main Idea: A God-centered community provides mutual accountability, encouragement in truth, and prayerful support, helping us to walk in freedom from approval-seeking. Through active support, we can uplift others in their journey to live for God’s approval. This lesson also explores practical ways to keep Christ at the center of our fellowship…
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Do You Know What Your Wife Is Thinking?
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15:52Most relationships begin with transparency, honesty, courage, and optimism. At some point, these things break down. The husband and wife drift from each other, and silence ensues. Even the best intentions derail if the couple does not know how to keep the transforming power of the gospel as the animating center of their relationship. Let me explain…
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The Orientation of the Home: Follow the Leader
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16:55Every home has a leader. Someone must be in charge while everyone else follows the de-facto leader. I’m speaking of hierarchy in relationships, not the equality among fellow image-bearers. These concepts work together, not creating tension but fulfilling the possibilities of a God-centered home. As you think about your home, how would you define th…
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Ep. 533 Fear of Man: Steps to Overcome Approval Addiction, Lesson 3
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1:05:24Show Main Idea: We dive into understanding our identity in Christ, finding security in God’s provision. Through practical steps—confession, renewing the mind, and embracing the fear of God—we’ll learn how the Holy Spirit empowers us to live with freedom from human opinion. With a renewed perspective, we’ll discover how to walk confidently in God’s …
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His Needs, Her Needs Aren't Real Needs
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17:53How do you know when a desire for love has changed into a need for love? It’s an excellent question, and the first place to begin a diagnosis like this is with anger. Anger is the quickest way to discern if someone’s craving for love has jumped from a desire to a controlling need. It is not necessarily wrong to desire something like love from anoth…
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The Reason We Blew Up Our Marriage
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19:32Even with the best intentions and truest love, a marriage can go to some dangerous and dark places. Ours went there, which is why I decided the best thing we could do is blow up our marriage, reboot, and start over again, hoping to rebuild our covenant on a surer foundation. A caveat may appropriately modify the seeming hyperbole you just read. Luc…
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Ep. 532 Fear of Man: Reorienting Your Focus: Pleasing God Over Man, Lesson 2
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1:01:37Show Main Idea: This lesson reveals how God’s unconditional love frees us from the trap of seeking human validation. By renewing our minds with Scripture, we cultivate a mindset rooted in His grace. Through practical steps and reflection, we learn to make daily decisions that honor God, prioritizing His glory over human opinion.Show Notes: https://…
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Let Me Draw You a Picture of a Marriage in Trouble
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14:55The best marriages are those where the distinct uniqueness of each partner works in a beautiful symmetry that enhances the other’s strengths while compensating for the weaknesses. The worst marriages are those partners who do not know how to help each other become a mature picture of Christ and His church. Their strengths do not support the other s…
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Three Life Choices You Don't Want to Miss Before You Die
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11:35If you could live your life over again, how would you live it differently? What values would you instill to give yourself a meaningful life? What if you could instill those values now? An excellent way to think about these things is to ask someone—people farther down wisdom’s road than you are.Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/three-l…
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Ep. 531 Fear of Man: Understanding the Root of Approval Addiction, Lesson 1
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1:02:53Show Main Idea: This lesson examines how a misplaced desire impacts our identity, breeds insecurity, and prevents genuine spiritual growth. Through practical self-reflection and biblical insights, we begin learning how to discern this idol, redirecting our hearts toward God’s approval as the true anchor of our identity.Show Notes: https://lifeoverc…
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I Think I Married the Wrong Person; Please Help Me
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15:00It is easy to make a decision when things seem clear and the future appears bright. With an optimistic heart, you decide on that thing, only to discover months or years later that it may not be wise to do what you did. What if that decision was to marry someone that you now believe was the wrong person? Sometimes, you cannot redo what you believe i…
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Al Haywood's Journey with Life Over Coffee's Mastermind Program
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1:04:16Shows Main Idea – Meet Al Haywood, a counselor and pastor from northeast Georgia who has dedicated his life to shepherding others in their walks with God. Al, a Mastermind student, has been using Life Over Coffee’s resources to guide not only his own friends but also fellow pastors in the area. Through the Mastermind Program, he’s gained new biblic…
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How To Help a Double-Minded Person
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21:11Every person has two heads. The human community is a world of two-headed people. James called our common-to-man predicament double-mindedness, just one of the characteristics that comes with our Adamic packaging. At times, we think and act one way, and at other times, we think and act like a different person. If you find yourself occasionally oscil…
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Have you ever tried to be perfect? Is it hard for you to let others know you messed up? Are you tempted to present yourself in ways that are not exactly true to who you are? Maybe when you think about others learning the real truth about you, it strikes momentary fear in your heart. Suppose your spouse brought a friend home unannounced. Does it mat…
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Ep. 529 Webinar: Parenting: Practically Four Tips You Can Implement Today
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1:00:42Show Main Idea: Parenting can be challenging, but it’s not an unresolvable puzzle. The Bible offers guidance to help parents lead their families in a Christ-centered way.Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-529-webinar-parenting-practically-four-tips-you-can-implement-today/Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyo…
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May I Change My Mind After Deciding Something?
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18:01You have made your decision in faith. At the time, it seemed like the right thing to do. Now you're having second thoughts. Is it okay to change your mind? Or are you bound to the decision you have made with no other alternative but to live with the consequences? Is it possible to be in faith for the decision, but things have changed to such a degr…
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Guidelines for Making Decisions as a Couple
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23:02Biblical decision-making is not that difficult if you are the only one making the decision. There are challenges, of course, but it's much easier if you're the only one affected by the decision you make. Once the number of contributors to the decision-making process increases and the consequences are broader, it will be more challenging to navigate…
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Webinar: Overcoming Anger How It Complicates Our Relationships
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1:03:17Show Main Idea: We will explore the impact of unresolved anger on relationships. Through a gospel-centered lens, we will offer practical tools and biblical wisdom to help us address the root of anger, exchange it for Christ-like patience, and foster an environment of love, forgiveness, and restoration.Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/…
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How to Live with People with Different Preferences
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17:38The gospel practicalized is a transcendent lifestyle that overrides cultural and religious traditions, preferences, and expectations. The convolution between primary and secondary things can be dizzying, especially in a world that works overtime to invert what is good with evil. A practicalized gospel teaches us to live well with others, especially…
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Ep. 527: Follow the Leader, Creating a Redemptive Community
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1:02:41Show Main Idea: Our heavenly Father is the de facto leader of our lives and homes. To build strong marriages and families, we must determine that we will address our life with God, make the necessary changes, and then ask Him to enable us to export our life with Him to those we love.Show Notes: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-527-webinar-foll…
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A Christian Perspective on the Presidential Election
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15:50Every four years in America, its citizens have the opportunity to vote for the next President of the United States. It’s the privilege of free countries where the political class serves the citizens, or that is what it says on paper. In America, it’s no longer that way in practice as the government has become the hegemonic power, making the right t…
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Who Are You Voting for This November?
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12:01This presidential election cycle is my sixteenth. Admittedly, I do not remember the first one because I was one year old, and they would not let me vote. It was 1960. I do remember the second one in 1964, but I had no opinion other than keeping Lyndon Johnson in there since he had not had an entire run. It seemed unfair to replace him. I remember t…
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Why Christians Should Engage in Politics
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12:40Someone asked me why I share political messages on my personal X account. He then followed up by saying that politics stink. It was not one of those “stay in your lane” questions as much as it was a curious onlooker, a fellow Christian thinking about their role in the political arena. His question is worth exploring, and every Christian who wants t…
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In the summer of 2018, we were visiting Lucia’s sister in Minnesota when she told us about a nearby Trump Rally in Fargo, North Dakota. Our van just so happened to need a repair, and Fargo was the nearest Toyota dealer, so we decided to attend the rally while in Fargo. It was a memorable night, a bucket list type of event.Read, Watch, or Listen: ht…
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