Todays episode features a guest so many of you will be familiar with. Prominent Charismatic golden-child turned Atheist who most of you will know as @eve_wasframed over on TikTok and Instagram.If for some reason you aren't following her (and you should!) you can check her out over at:https://www.instagram.com/eve_wasframedSupport my work and join o…

Daphne McGee helps people who are in unhealthy and toxic relationships find freedom on the other side.You can follow Daphne here: https://www.instagram.com/goldendaphYou can find more of Daphne's content and how to work with her as a coach here: https://linktr.ee/GoldenDaphSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https:…

Andrew is a religious trauma survivor who has made it his goal to bring awareness to religious trauma and spritual abuse. To connect with Andrew and check out his website/podcast etc you can click here: https://www.liinks.co/4ndrewpledgerSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via…

Scott is one of the founders of Affirming Youth Ministries. We talk about his deconstruction and how it led him to create a ministry for LGBTQ+ youth who are processing the tricky waters of what it means to be LGBTQ, teenager and spiritual.If you want to connect with what Scott is doing you can find their instagram here: https:/www.instagram.com/af…

You can read the article Janice wrote which we discussed in the show here:https://godhasnotgiven.com/my-kind-of-trauma/And of course get following Janice on Instagram here:https://instagram.com/godhasnotgivenSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.…

Follow Benjamin on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/heytherebenjiSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale╰►Find others deconst…

Apologies for the sound on this one... I had reinstalled my OS and didn't notice the gain on the mic was way too high. It does get better after the first 10mins or so.David Hayward who many of you will know as @NakedPastor returns for another chat, we talk about his prolific work, his upcoming book, healing from trauma, navigating deconstruction wh…

In this episode I talk with business consultant Jack Bergstrand about his new book Christianity Without Dogma. Jack puts forth the argument that it is domga which has turnd Christianity into a business... and a failing business at that! We talk about what a saved Christianity might look like if it returned to its core values of Love, Connection and…

In this episode, I talk to Derek Myers (from Your Favorite Heretics) about religious OCD/Scrupulosity as well as mental health in general. You can follow Derek on Twitter here: https://www.twitter.com/derekthehereticYou can follow Your Favourite Heretics here: https://www.instagram.com/yourfavoritehereticsSupport my work and join our private online…

In today's episode, I talk to the one and only "Deconstruction Girl" from Instagram. We talk about her deconstruction from megachurch life and all the craziness that is Christianity and Deconstruction.Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phi…

More Q&A today we look at:01:11 - How to respond to: “Your only deconstructing because of abuse / the church hurt you / trauma” etc.07:25 - Is it normal to feel this much grief?11:46 - How to navigate deconstruction when all you’ve known is ministry / pastoring / missions etc.?30:11 - Is it OK that my views on marriage have changed now?37:56 - How …

More Q&A today we have:04:26 Is deconstruction just a slow road to becoming an atheist?13:31 Navigating guilt/shame around sex.23:37 I want the church to burn to the ground… is that wrong?35:43 What would a healthy church look like?47:43 Was it all a waste of time?Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phi…

Jen Kiaba is an artist and writer who covers the topic of cults and being a cult survivor regularly in her work. You can check out her work at - https://www.jenkiaba.comAnd her Instagram at - https://www.instagram.com/jenkiabaSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: ht…

This is the second episode in our series where I work through your most commonly submitted questions about deconstruction and the difficult process of going through deconstruction.In this episode we talk about:2:46 - 1: How to navigate friends and family that just don't get it12:53 - 2: How to draw boundaries or even cut ties with friends and famil…

This episode is the first of a series where I work through your most commonly submitted questions about deconstruction and the difficult process of going through deconstruction.In this episode we talk about:4:51 - 1: Navigating a fear of hell17:22 - 2: Worrying about being wrong and my old beliefs I've left behind being right26:48 - 3: Navigating a…

Deconstruction is hard. I can't change that unfortunately... there is no silver bullet for it. But I have in my own journey and in helping thousands of others navigate the journey picked up some things along the way that make it a bit less hard. And honestly, I'd have taken any help I could get at the beginning. No matter where you are at on your j…

2021 has been a tough year for me... uncovering trauma, dodgy health and the tail end of a pandemic to boot. Here's an update on what's going on with me for those who care :)Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale╰►YouTube: https:/…

Julie is the amazing human behind But Why Do You Believe That. You can follow her here:https://www.instagram.com/butwhydoyoubelievethathttps://www.twitter.com/butwhydoyoubtSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale╰►Youtube: https://w…

Kate Stockly is the co-author of the book Spirit Tech: The Brave New World of Consciousness Hacking and Enlightenment Engineering.In this episode, we talk about all kinds of fascinating technologies that are changing the spiritual world. Can religion keep up? What does the future hold as people's spirituality evolves? How can technology enhance peo…

Today I talk with Lauren Scott an ecotherapist focusing on sex and pleasure about her deconstruction and work in helping those who are deconstructing.You can follow Lauren here: https://www.instagram.com/laurenhscottYou can find her websites here: https://www.havenwholeness.com & https://www.gracespringscounseling.comSupport my work and join our pr…

Alice Greczyn Returns! And we talk all about growing up in the charismatic church, on the move, having parents that gave up everything to follow God, and the loss of all of that. All of this and more is of course in her tremendous book "Wayward" which you can get here - https://amzn.to/2QAJwTsYou can follow Alice at:https://instagram.com/alicegrecy…

Bradley Onishi is an associate professor of religion and the co-host of the Straight White American Jesus podcast. You can follow Bradley on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/straightwhitejchttps://www.instagram.com/bradleyonishiAnd on Twitter here:https://www.twitter.com/straightwhitejchttps://www.twitter.com/bradleyonishiAnd of course, che…

Fresca Chavez is probably best known by most of you for her great Instagram account @confessionsofapastorskid_ - https://www.instagram.com/confessionsofapastorskid_ she also has a podcast "Confessions of a Pastor's Kid" which is well worth checking out.Today we talk about growing up as a pastor's kid, deconstructing that faith and the importance of…

In this episode, we look at how we can support people in our lives who are deconstructing. This will be a helpful video for most people who have someone in their life that is deconstructing, especially those who have deconstructed themselves.The one exception might be conventional Christians. If you are still in that place this will be a hard video…

Janice Lagata is the incredible human behind God Has Not Given. In this podcast, we talk about her journey of deconstruction which included going through Hillsong's school in Sydney Australia and being heavily involved in Hillsong NYC right from the beginning.You can follow Janice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/godhasnotgivenHer website is…

Sam Devis runs the When Belief Dies podcast and blog. In this chat we talk about his journey of deconstruction and talk all about consciousness.You can find Sam on a myriad of platforms as well as his podcast and blog via this link: https://linktr.ee/whenbeliefdiesSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phi…

Laura Anderson is a Psychotherapist specializing in Religious Trauma. She is the co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institute and has - as of this week - just launched The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery.Join us as we talk about everything related to religious trauma and more.Instagram links to check out: https://www.instagram.com/lauraan…

In deconstructing we can lose so much, our identity, our certainty, our relationship with God as we knew it, our purpose and direction and so much more. But none of those losses stings as much as the loss of family and friends that can occur as we deconstruct.In this video, I share some helpful tips I've picked up along the way you may be able to u…

They're back it's Adrian Gibbs and Josh Link who are the Dirty Rotten Church Kids. In this episode we talk about how Easter traditions have changed in deconstruction, handling our mistakes while in the spotlight and I ask the uncles about building community among those who are deconstructing.You can check out their fantastic podcast here: https://p…

So many as they start to deconstruct panic about what is happening to them. Where is this going? Am I going to be OK? Is this normal? Something I've found working with thousands on this journey is that understanding how humans develop psychologically can bring a great deal of insight into what is happening to us as we deconstruct. It turns out we a…

Konrad is the amazing human behind the equally amazing Ideas Digest podcast. Known for hosting individuals with extreme and radical beliefs and views he is a genius at remaining level-headed and asking great questions to find the human behind the idea.You can check the podcast out here - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ideas-digest/id14562900…

Everyone and their mom seems to have an opinion on deconstruction and that often comes with a concept of reconstruction. But what we don't tend to look at what drives this and why with the best of intentions leaders in this area can enter into some very questionably unethical behavior as they discuss this stuff.Support my work and join our private …

Dr Tina Schermer Sellers is a sex therapist and family therapist. She has worked extensively with those emerging from purity culture to find a healthy embodied approach to sex and freedom from the shame their faith has built around sex.You can find out more about Tina at https://www.tinaschermersellers.comYou can follow her at:https://www.instagram…

When talking about faith deconstruction there are a lot of myths around why people do it. But what's the truth? What does the hard data point to? Why do people end up deconstructing their faith?Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysda…

Today I'm joined by Dan Kock of the You Have Permission Podcast. We talk deconstruction, progressive Christianity and geek out about research being done in this space.You can follow Dan at: https://www.instagram.com/dancokeAnd check out his new site for those wanting to hold on to their Christianity as they deconstruct: https://www.soyouredeconstru…

In this video, I talk about the phenomenon that is the Deconstructing Christian. It seems everyone and their mom has an opinion about this hot topic right now. But what I've found is most opinions are just that. Opinions. They aren't very rooted in reality. Deconstruction, as experienced by the community of those leaving conventional Christianity, …

Josh Harris as the author of the hit book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" was a very beloved figure in conventional Christian circles. In turn, he was not the most celebrated when he came out as deconstructing.In this episode, we talk about how Josh came to terms with the negative parts of his story, how he has integrated those into positive parts today …

Maria French and Barry Taylor are the great minds behind H&CO. They help people navigate the complexities of faith in the 21st Century exploring philosophy, theology and culture. In this episode we talk about the philosophy of deconstruction, explore post-theistic thought and a whole bunch more!If you'd like to check out their 4 week course on deco…

Join Trace Bell and I as we dive into some of the nuances of growing through the Spiral Dynamics and waking up to awareness.If these terms aren't familiar to you I strongly recommend you first watch my overview of spiral dynamics on Jon Steingard's podcast here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVUTtHnR4fQIf you want to go deeper into Spiral Dynami…

She's back and she's answering all your questions about how life post-purity culture.Her podcast is https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-positive-christian-feminists/id1549622305You can find her FB group where she does free trainings and all sorts of amazing stuff here -https://www.facebook.com/groups/1136815826514918/Her instagram is - https:…

He's back! Brian Peck is a co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institute and equal parts lovely human and religious trauma genius! In this episode we talk through some of the questions submitted by you the viewers about religious trauma.You can find out more about Brian at https://www.roomtothrive.com​ or the Religious Trauma Institute at https://ww…

In this episode I talk to Rachel and Derek Myers who are behind the popular account Your Favorite Heretics.You can find them on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/yourfavoriteheretics/And join their FB community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/784331675467152Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://…

One of the most frequent questions I get is if there is anywhere I share my story of faith and deconstruction. I am frequently asked about it on podcasts but usually give just a 5 minute overview and so I figured for this 100th episode milestone I'd sit down with my wife and we'd talk about my journey. (If you give her some love I might be able to …

Jay Bakker has deconstructed a lot of his Christianity and yet come out the other side as the pastor of Revolution Church! In this convo we talk about the limitations of deconstruction and some of the problems of early stage deconstruction which is often just as fundamental as the conventional Christian movements they are leaving.You can follow Jay…

She's back. Jo Luehmann everyone! And we GET INTO IT in this one. We talk about all sorts of different components of decolonization work. So you are gonna want to brace yourself for this one! If you haven't listened to the first episode with Jo it's episode 039.You can follow Jo at https://www.instagram.com/joluehmann & https://www.twitter.com/jolu…

Corey is the host of the Existential Podcast which is contending for a better world one conversation at a time.In this podcast we dive into a whole bunch of fascinating topics including one that I think about often... why are there so few BIPOC thought leaders in the deconstruction space?You can follow him at https://www.instagram.com/existentialpo…

Jon Steingard returns and we dive straight into some deep philosophical chat... well after talking for 5 minutes about cameras.Follow Jon at https://www.instagram.com/jonsteingardSupport my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale╰►Podcast: ht…

Emily Garcés is the author of Hitchhiking With Drunken Nuns and yes... that is a real story! She has lived a remarkably full life and had a tremendous amount of ups and downs through it all. In this episode I talk with Emily about her deconstruction which all started with her being a good missionary in South America.You can follow Emily at https://…

John MacDonald was the pastor before he had a dramatic encounter with God. Now he leads conferences, speaks at church meetings and retreats as well as working with Fatherheart Ministries on week long 'schools' designed to open up the revelation of Love to the hearts of participants.His deconstruction has caused him to evaluate the deepest, darkest …

Brian runs Room to Thrive and is also the co-founder of the Religious Trauma Institution.In this episode we go DEEP into the topic of religious trauma and it is SO good! We talk about what trauma is, how it is developed and what some of the leading ways to work through trauma are. And of course we get specific as we look at religious trauma and wha…