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No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

No More Desire

8d ago1w ago

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I help you break free of shame and unwanted behaviors like porn addiction. Quitting porn is not so much about stopping the behavior itself, but discovering the underlying reasons you're seeking it out in the first place. In my porn recovery program, I teach you the reasons you became addicted, powerful methods to break free from porn addiction, and help you discover not only sobriety, but long-lasting peace.

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Porn Addiction Recovery Podcast

Bulumko Papu

3y ago3y ago

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My name is Bulumko Papu (you can call me Bullz). This is a podcast about porn addiction recovery. Here I talk about tips and tricks that can help you on your recovery journey. Ill be sharing my story and the things I've learnt in my own journey as well.

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49: Porn Addiction is Just a Symptom 21:43

8d ago21:43

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Today I want to talk about a lie that we're told about porn addiction. We're often told that addiction is just a bad habit, that we need to abstain from it, get over our impulsivity, and just say no to the cravings and urges. But let me tell you, that's a bunch of crap. Overcoming porn addiction isn't just about saying no to the habit; it's about d…

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48: Feeling Bad About Porn Makes You Crave It Even More | How Shame Intensifies Porn Addiction 29:15

15d ago29:15

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How can feeling bad about porn addiction make you more likely to seek it out? Do you ever wonder how you could possibly want to stop watching porn so bad, yet the worse you feel about it the more you seem to “want” it? Does it seem strange that you could feel so negative about something, and yet crave the heck out of it at the same time? You think,…

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47: Overcome Porn Addiction Using Nutrition with Jordan Gundersen, Master Herbalist with Health Saves 1:05:37

22d ago1:05:37

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Porn addiction is a struggle for many today. Finding ways to break free of porn can feel confusing and overwhelming, as we aren’t sure where to start. One method of overcoming addiction that is gaining traction is nutrition. In episode 47 of No More Desire, hosted by me (Jake Kastleman), we turn the spotlight to the intersection of nutrition, menta…

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46: Things To Do Every Day to Help You Stay Clean 28:07

29d ago28:07

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I recently received this question from one of my listeners: “I’m trying to break free from porn. What are some key things I can do throughout the day so that when it comes to the time I get home I’m not tempted beyond what I can handle? I know the Bible says that I will never be tempted beyond what I can bear but sometimes I feel like I can’t beat …

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45: How to Stop Cravings & Fantasizing 28:25

2M ago28:25

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Do you wish you felt in control? Are you tired of experiencing porn cravings everyday? Today, we’re going to talk about how to stop cravings and fantasizing so you can overcome porn addiction for good. I remember what it felt like dealing with non-stop cravings and wondering if I’d ever get better. I remember feeling out of control and hopeless. No…

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44: Why Porn Addiction Destroys Motivation and What to Do About It 32:04

2M ago32:04

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Today, I’m going to teach you why porn addiction destroys motivation, and what you can do about it. During the decade I struggled with addictions to porn and masturbation, I constantly regretted how I was squandering my potential. I felt like the times I was clean of porn I could do pretty well in life - I was productive in school, at work, my rela…

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43: Ease Stress in 5 Steps 24:11

2M ago24:11

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One of the main reasons that we struggle with porn addiction is we have not yet learned how to manage stress effectively. Managing stress is not an easy task, especially with how many challenging emotions and decisions face us today. Most people are more stressed than they’ve ever been, with the political, economic, and societal context. But all th…

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42: Dependence, INdependence, INTERdependence 36:36

2M ago36:36

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Are you trying to quit porn for yourself, or for others? Should you be motivated to stop watching porn for your spouse? Your kids? For another family member or a friend? Sometimes we addicts can rely heavily upon others - to an unhealthy extent. Or, we can completely isolate ourselves, trying to do everything on our own. When it comes to our attitu…

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41: What the Stoics Teach Us About Recovery | Marcus Aurelius and the Meditations 39:44

3M ago39:44

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How can the teachings of the Stoics help us overcome porn addiction? Stoicism is a moral philosophy for how to live a good life. Sometimes we make the mistake of believing stoicism is all about being serious and having no emotion. Being “stoic”, right? This has little to do with what Stoicism actually is. We also make the assumption that stoicism, …

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40: 5 Steps to Bounce Back After a Slip/Relapse with Porn 24:40

3M ago24:40

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When you slip up with porn addiction, are you able to bounce back? Or do you spiral? Is a slip a learning experience for you? Or does it come out of nowhere and you have no clue how to prevent it in the future? Today, I’ll give you the formula for turning a slip or relapse - what can be a hopeless, negative experience - into a springboard for recov…

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39: Video Games and Porn Addiction 38:04

3M ago38:04

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Do you have an issue with porn addiction and video game addiction? If so, you’re not alone, my friend. I used to have both of these addictions, and I’ve known many men (and some women) who have struggled with these as well. Video games and porn go hand-in-hand. And I’m not talking about the simple fact that video games have sexual content in them s…

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38: Take it Easy and Overcome Porn Addiction 37:25

4M ago37:25

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Do you ever feel high-strung? Do you ever have spinning or obsessive thoughts? Do you ever feel unable to quiet your mind and just relax? To overcome porn addiction, we need to learn to “take it easy”. But what does that even mean? How do we do that, and how does it help with porn addiction? Listen to today’s episode to find out. For those who feel…

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37: Mindset Shift: 3 Thought Strategies to Beat Porn Addiction 40:57

4M ago40:57

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Do you have incessant cravings for porn lately? In this episode, you'll learn 3 Mindset Strategies to Beat Porn Addiction. Do you feel like once you’ve started craving you have no choice but to give in to porn addiction eventually? Even if you make it a day, a week, or a month, does failure seem inevitable? You want to stop so bad, but you’ve lost …

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36: My Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean? 47:06

4M ago47:06

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How do I come out of an argument with my spouse and NOT relapse? For many of the men that I’ve spoken to, they can get really triggered to go to their porn addiction after an argument or a fight with their spouse. It’s super common. Today, I want to talk about why fights or arguments can be so triggering for us to go look at porn - leading to slips…

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35: Winter Blues: Staying Sober During the Holidays 37:22

4M ago37:22

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Do you feel like the holidays should be a happy time, but for you it’s a really triggering time for your addiction? Do you feel like the winter drives you to engage with your pornography addiction or another addiction more, and that cravings are worse during the winter? We’re going to talk about these things today, and some strategies you can use t…

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34: 4 Simple Practices to Overcome Addiction Cravings 46:58

5M ago46:58

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When porn cravings hit, what do you do? Do you fight the porn addiction? Resist it? Try to just not think about it and distract yourself? I’m here to tell you that none of these options work. At least not long-term. Willpower is finite. It runs out. To overcome porn addiction requires a completely different approach. So what can you do instead? Tod…

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33: What God Thinks of Porn Addicts 34:50

5M ago34:50

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What does God think of porn addicts? As someone who struggles with porn addiction, do you ever feel like God is punishing you for your mistakes? Do you feel like He looks down on you? You aren’t alone in these feelings. Pretty much every addict goes through them. Pretty much EVERY PERSON goes through them. When we can’t quit porn, we often believe …

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32: Using Mindfulness to Overcome Addiction 28:51

6M ago28:51

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You’ve probably heard that mindfulness helps with addiction - being present, enjoying the moment, getting in tune with your senses. But you’ve probably found it difficult to implement mindfulness in your daily life, and fail to see how using mindfulness to overcome addiction really works. I get that. Today, I’m going to talk about discoveries that …

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31: John Canaan - Love vs. Control | The path of healing in marriage and in the world 1:02:01

6M ago1:02:01

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In this episode from the No More Desire Podcast, my friend John Canaan and I (Jake Kastleman) talk about overcoming the desire to control; putting aside the ego to improve marriage and relationships, overcome addictions, and just live an overall more excellent life! John hits the nail on the head, talking about specific methods to heal marriage and…

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30: Overcome Social Anxiety: 5 Simple Mental Techniques 53:41

6M ago53:41

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I was talking with a friend of mine the other day - a fellow recovering addict - and I was sharing about my past with addiction and how social anxiety was a big struggle in my life and actually fueled my addiction - in other words, I went to addiction in order to cope with the immense amount of nervousness and fear I felt in relationships and socia…

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Ep. 29: A Change of Heart 1:00:38

6M ago1:00:38

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How do we lose the desire for addiction? Is it possible? During the decade I spent addicted to porn, I dreamed of a day I could finally be free of the chains of addiction. That I could finally have my confidence around women back That I could finally be free of the social anxiety I suffered with That I could finally have my motivation and drive bac…

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Ep. 28: My Conversion & Recovery Story | How I Quit Porn with God's Help 57:52

7M ago57:52

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I’m going to tell you how I quit porn. I’ll talk about some very crucial turning points in my life that led to both my porn addiction recovery (and recovery from other addictions) as well as my conversion to Jesus Christ. I grew up in a Christian family - traditional Christian values, parents dedicated to their faith, very conservative. Porn, to sa…

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Ep. 27 To Resist. To Accept. | A Simple, Daily Practice to Overcome Porn Addiction 54:55

7M ago54:55

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I received a question from one of my clients this past week about what I really mean when I say porn addiction comes from resistance, and how resistance leads to addiction. I wanted to address that question directly this week. It can be very challenging to overcome porn addiction. In part, this is because pornography addiction masks many underlying…

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Ep. 26 Can I Actually Learn Humility? | Porn Recovery Mindset 36:08

7M ago36:08

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Have you ever been told that addiction recovery requires humility? Do you wonder how in the world being humble could possibly help you quit porn? Perhaps hearing that gets your defenses up. Perhaps it fills you with anger. Or maybe you just don’t understand what it means to “be humble”. You try to humble yourself in order to overcome porn addiction…

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Ep. 25 Getting Honest About Your Addiction 41:45

7M ago41:45

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Today we’re going to talk about something that I have been historically very bad at - both during and after my addiction to porn. It’s honesty and accountability. This is something I’ve been working a lot on in my own personal recovery - getting more REAL and honest with myself, God, and others about my pain, my feelings, my insecurities. It’s what…

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Ep. 24 Decrease Porn Cravings Using Pleasure Conditioning 56:40

8M ago56:40

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FREE LESSON: Pleasure Conditioning - Decrease Porn Cravings To overcome porn addiction, we need to understand how our other daily choices and activities affect our susceptibility to addiction. My first few years recovering from porn were a real struggle. If I would have known the concepts of pleasure conditioning way back then, I would have had an …

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Ep. 23 Porn Addiction Ruined My Sex Life: How Can I Fix It? 39:33

8M ago39:33

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Do you feel like your porn addiction has ruined your sex life with your spouse? Do you worry that your feelings about sex will never be the same? Is porn a point of serious contention between you and your wife / husband? Porn addiction can do a pretty serious number on our sex life.Watching porn trains our brain to view other people as objects. Des…

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Ep. 22 Can People-Pleasing Fuel Porn Addiction? 31:45

8M ago31:45

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Can People-Pleasing Fuel Porn Addiction? In today’s episode we talk about what people-pleasing is, where it comes from, and why many addicts struggle with people-pleasing tendencies. What is People Pleasing? The tendency to do things to make others happy while putting your own needs at risk. The need to control another person’s emotions and ensure …

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Ep. 21 Religious Shame and Porn Addiction 25:40

8M ago25:40

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Download my FREE EBOOK to Overcome Porn Addiction Religious shame and porn addiction go hand-in-hand. Why? Because they are two sides of the same coin. We often see addiction as an isolated incident: an issue all its own. We think that if we can just abstain from porn then we’ll eventually lose our desire for it. We also think, “If I just have enou…

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Ep. 20 I Relapsed on Porn. What Do I Do Now? | Learning to Walk Through Fire 33:46

9M ago33:46

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FREE LESSON: Write Your Walk Through Fire Statement When I was addicted to porn, I often struggled to know how to respond to a relapse. The amount of shame, fear, and anger I felt when I slipped was overwhelming. I thought that if I relapsed on porn, it meant all of my progress was now down the toilet. I thought, “What reason do I have to stop watc…

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Ep. 19 Others Before Self | Recovery Mindset 23:54

9M ago23:54

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If you struggle with porn addiction, ever wonder where your cravings come from? Addiction cravings are not simply due to “manly urges” or a genetic predisposition. They are a result of our mental state. Having a recovery mindset is all about leaning into discomfort. It’s also about changing your focus. In this episode, I share one of the greatest t…

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Ep. 18 How What You Eat Impacts Addiction | Learn How to Quit Porn 45:37

9M ago45:37

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Have you ever wondered if what you eat affects your addiction cravings? In today’s episode, I’ll tell you how what you eat impacts addiction - more specifically porn addiction and your ability to quit porn. In western biology and psychology, we often overlook the importance of nutritions effects on mental health. More and more, we are coming to und…

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Ep. 17 Stop Resisting Your Addiction | How to Break Free of Porn 34:56

9M ago34:56

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What if I told you to stop resisting your pornography addiction? What if I told you that sobriety didn’t require you to restrain yourself? In today’s episode, I talk about how to break free of porn addiction without resisting cravings. The mistake I’ve watched so many of us make, and that I made for over a decade (still do sometimes), is thinking t…

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Ep. 16 Still the Mind & Break Free From Porn Addiction 30:30

10M ago30:30

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If we want to break free from porn addiction, we have to learn how to still the mind. We go to porn as a way to escape our problems. The same is true for all addicts. One of the main reasons we do this is because our minds are so noisy and chaotic, and it seems that intensely pleasurable outlets are the only things that will dampen the constant men…

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Ep. 15 Empathy and Porn Addiction: Overcoming Shame Habits 47:22

11M ago47:22

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Sometimes we as addicts have troubles looking outside of ourselves. We may experience difficulty listening to others' troubles and being present for their physical or emotional needs. This is not because we are inherently selfish, but because our past trauma and shame habits can make it hard for us to connect with others and look outside of ourselv…

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Ep. 14 Perfectionism and Porn Addiction 42:53

11M ago42:53

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I’ve been giving a lot of thought to addiction and perfectionism lately. About how alike these two mental illnesses are. I’m going to tell you how perfectionism and porn addiction feed off of each other, and how all addictions, to an extent, find their origin in guilt and shame addiction - something you may have never heard of. Both porn addiction …

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Ep. 13 Living with Simplicity & Presence | How to Let Go of Shame & Porn Addiction 35:41

12M ago35:41

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Today I want to talk about how to let go of shame and porn addiction and how living with more simplicity and presence can help us recover. Something I’ve witnessed in myself and others I’ve talked to is that those of us who get worked up over the details or are really hard on ourselves often struggle with pornography addiction. I often see perfecti…

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Ep. 12 Learn How to Stop Watching Porn with This Powerful, Unique Approach | 4 Keys to Quit Porn 26:50

1y ago26:50

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If you want to learn how to stop watching porn, you need to understand the addiction and recovery trinities. Porn addiction has several causes that play off of each other. They are physical, mental, spiritual, and relational. If you want to quit porn, you need to know what each of these are, how they work, and why it is so hard to break free of por…

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Ep. 11 The 2 Root Causes of Porn Addiction & the 3 Solutions for Porn Recovery 32:25

1y ago32:25

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What are the 2 root causes of porn addiction? Knowing these can help you quit porn, as you learn what leads to it in the first place. To learn how to break free of porn addiction, it's necessary to talk about stress. Our mental state is like a pressure gauge. When it's in the green, we typically don't experience porn cravings. When it's in the red,…

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Ep. 10 Anxiety Meditation 1 | Christian Meditation for Mental Health 18:30

1y ago18:30

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This Christian meditation for mental health comes from years of my own meditation practice and integrates teachings from both eastern and western faiths - Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, and Taoism. This anxiety meditation is also helpful for depression, self-worth or self-esteem issues, or to simply calm the mind. TO EXPERIENCE THE OTHER 4 MEDIT…

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Ep. 9 Why I Became Addicted to Porn & How I Quit 25:37

1y ago25:37

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I’m going to tell you why I became addicted to porn, and what kept me addicted for 10 years. It had nothing to do with craving sex, or “manly urges.” Porn addiction has to do with your state of mind. Porn addiction recovery is about transforming that state of mind from one that is susceptible to addiction to one that isn’t. The answers may not be e…

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Ep. 8 How to Quit Porn in 30 Days | 15 Tips for Porn Addiction Recovery 1:03:10

1y ago1:03:10

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I'm going to tell you how to quit porn in 30 days using 15 tips for porn addiction recovery. You probably know I’m not a fan of big, bold claims, but… After 8 years of sobriety, I’ve learned a few things about how to quit porn. Secrets for porn addiction recovery that have helped me out…and now I want to share them with you. I know your “hype detec…

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Ep. 7 [Meditation] Calming Forgiveness Meditation | Guided God Centered Meditation | The 7 Steps of Unconditional Forgiveness 25:06

1+ y ago25:06

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Listen to this calming forgiveness meditation to learn how to forgive others and yourself. Forgiveness is not for the benefit of others. We do it to release ourselves from emotional burdens. When we forgive someone else, we set ourselves free. The meditation music in this guided God centered meditation is designed to bring peace to the mind as I ta…

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Ep. 6 Forgiveness | How to Break Free of Porn Addiction 41:46

1+ y ago41:46

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To know how to break free of porn addiction, we start by exploring the deep pain underneath the surface. Porn cravings come as a result of mental and emotional pain. Everyone deals with this pain to one extent or another. When we struggle with addiction, it simply means that this pain has reached a more intense/frequent stage than it has for some. …

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Ep. 5 The Addiction/Fear Cycle | Where Pornography Addiction Comes From 24:51

1+ y ago24:51

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When asked where pornography addiction comes from, many of us are tempted to say “sex cravings”, lust, dopamine, or “boys will be boys.” These all play a part, but I feel that none of them get to the core of the issue. I’ve spent 12 years coming to understand addiction by living my own recovery. I’ve dug deep, seeking for the true roots. I didn't w…

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Ep. 4 [Meditation] Healing Social Anxiety Meditation | Social Anxiety Relaxation Technique 19:49

1+ y ago19:49

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Welcome to this Healing Social Anxiety Meditation by Become A Good Man. I’m Jake Kastleman, and I’ll be your guide today. I struggled with social anxiety for over 15 years. It was so intense sometimes that I even felt it when I was by myself. I searched for answers for years. I wanted something that not only calmed my mind in the moment, but reshap…

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Ep. 3 [Meditation] Addiction Recovery Meditation to Relieve Stress & Anxiety | Guided Meditation for God's Help 18:23

1+ y ago18:23

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This addiction recovery meditation is the product of 12 years of meditative practice and studying both Eastern and Western faiths to create guided meditations that reshape thought patterns and beliefs and bring relief to the mind. I use Alignment Meditation to relieve stress and anxiety and overcome addiction. These guided meditations walk you thro…

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Ep. 2 "You Are Only Good". Overcome Porn Addiction by Knowing True Self 22:01

1+ y ago22:01

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What if I told you that you are only good? That there is no bad in you? What if I told you that your being contains no evil or fear, but only love? Most likely, this sounds like a strange concept. Either it brings up memories of pop songs that say “You’re amazing just the way you are” or mother’s kissing their children on the forehead as they tell …

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Ep. 1 My Porn Addiction Story: How to Get Rid of Pornography Addiction 43:29

1+ y ago43:29

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I'll share my porn addiction story to teach you how to get rid of pornography addiction through first-hand experience, with tips to overcome porn addiction that I’ve learned through over 7 years of sobriety. These are the methods I’ve used for my own pornography addiction recovery. What many don’t understand about porn addiction, is that the addict…

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Introductions 4:44

3y ago4:44

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Welcome to my new podcast.

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